As much as I thought of myself as the king, now I feel like the shit.

I am proud of say I am a different man. Half a year ago I had never had a girlfriend, never had my first kiss and never had sex. Today, I am somewhat in a relationship, had my first kiss and had sex now. All this, and I did this inter-racially, which I thought would never be able to happen.

I acknowledge I fucked up by telling her how much I liked her and did a lot of things for her just to be in a relationship with her. At first, she kept telling me she wasn't ready for a relationship despite the numerous times I have told her how much I liked her - the catch is she keeps telling me she likes me too.

So we fooled around, I fingered her and we continued to make out for a while until two weeks ago when we were both sober, I took my hard cock out and put her hand around it and said that's how much I want her. We had sex that night and afterwards she said we should be together now so I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. I was so happy; I felt accomplished.

Throughout the week, I kept trying to push for sex again but she kept pushing me off, telling me to wait for the weekend. The weekend came and she said she wanted to watch a movie and eat pizza. I got the movie and ordered us pizza. We were snuggling while we were watching the movie and I made some advances but she kept pushing me away.

Eventually, I got my finger in and then I ended up between her legs and I just as I got it in, she said she just began her ovulation so no sex. She kept pushing me away and not letting me kiss her even though I said I would use a condom.

Fast forward to today, she texted me normally but when I went to see her (first time since the movie), she told me she was busy and that I should leave. I talked myself into her room, we had a nice conversation and then she exploded on me how I didn't "respect" her and that she doesn't know if she want to be together anymore.

At this point, I could care less. I spent so much effort pleasing her and she keeps telling me she is rarely horny. That's why she never wants to kiss, touch or fuck me. In fact she won't even give me a bj because she said she just doesn't do that.

I need pointers to know what to do better next time.

Sounds like a possible case of buyer's remorse; you cajoled her into agreeing to be your girlfriend. She had told you she didn't want a relationship, but rather than playing it cool and escalating you went AFC on her pleading for something more to which lowered your value than anything. Never ask a girl to be your gf, it implies insecurity - a truly confidant man would demonstrate prizability. It is unattractive to be pushy particularly when the person is saying they don't want to be in a relationship (translation: "I'm not completely sold on you"). With the sexual frame you were heading in the right direction, but once you pushed at her for something more (vying for her feminine affection), it came from a place of neediness.

Women want to feel as though they are pursuing something of worth, that's why it helps to be a bit elusive (e.g., not always available, having a life of your own etc) rather than chomping at the bit for commitment. There's no sense in crying over spilled milk. What I suggest is that you revert to a more sexual frame (how you did before you got all AFC) and make absolutely no mention of wanting her as a girlfriend. When you go out with her social proof yourself (e.g., interact with others, women included in her presence), demonstrate that she's not your only option). The only way you'll get her is by exuding this air that you've got other options, other women (without directly saying so). For now keep things light-heated and fun. Don't acknowledge "I'm sorry I pressed you to be my gf", simply act as though none of that ever happened (unless she brings it up, of course, in which case nonchalantly tell her "Yea, you know I realized I jumped the gun and am by no means interested in a relationship right now" and then move on, don't ruminate on it). If you're fucking her and intimate with her, it's only a matter of time that she'll want to be with you (dreading the feeling that some other woman will get what she's enjoying).

Yeah well, she'd probably be horny enough if Brad Pitt or her other favorite celebrity was trying to do her.

IMHO you should've called her out on her bullshit. Instead, you bought into her frame MULTIPLE TIMES. You instantly let her be your gf, did the movies and pizza thing, had nice conversations with her when she denied you sex despite dating you

(for the record, not having sex is absolutely fine.. but you were bf and gf and she did it for bullshit reasons (ovulating? wtf?), and lied to you from what i can tell. that is disrespectful and NOT fine).

That's probably why you lost her.

Congrats on making it through the first half a year. It gets much deeper than this... Keep going my friend, you'll laugh when you become a full 100% badass and remember how you used to think you were a king now .

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To be fair, you got what you deserved. You didn't respect her. Even a player (especially one in the making) should NEVER pressure a woman to have sex with him.

It is your duty as a bf to help her feel comfortable enough to have sex with you. It doesn't take fancy dinners or movies (too many men use this too often: "I bought you a dinner, you owe me a blowjob etc." Sorry. She doesn't owe you anything for that) but trust and attraction that you have to create. If your woman doesn't feel safe and protected by you, she's certainly not going to have sex with you. That was your mistake, not telling her that you like her. In fact it would be important for her to know that you actually like her and try not to simply use her for sex (which is the impression you seem to have given for her).

Something tells me the best route would be to start taking things from her. Don't let her choose what you guys will and will not do, deny her kisses in a cocky funny way, etc. Make her want you dude, it's the only way. You're like George Costanza with no hand in the relationship. In my far-from-expert opinion, as long as you haven't given the impression that it bothers you that she wants to wait, you're fine. That being said, you could also be walking the line of being the puppet. Start sarging again, keep your mind off of her and maintain a take it or leave it attitude until she respects you again.

My 2 cents