You shouldn't have replied.

Conversation don't have to end with "gotta run talk later" or anything like this, unless in person or phone. Texting, Facebook chat or whatever is purely to get a goal like setting a date or flirting. The rule is you do not reply to any negative thing she says about herself or others.

The thing you need to understand is that you shouldn't be posting on a forum asking what to say next. You shouldn't even spend long thinking about it. In her reply she gave you absolutely nothing to reply with apart from replying with crap. In this case, you simply ignore it. It's different in person but for texting this is how we do. You need to realise that investing that effort into a text where she gave you nothing to talk about isn't the best way to do things. That was her social error not yours.

Note I said the "the best way". You can reply like how you did but being completely honest, it reminded me of the cute conversations I had in school when I was 15. It reeked of being overly interested.

If you ignore her messages that are negative/give you nothing to go on, eventually she will get the hint of what you don't reply to and rather than getting fed up and not investing, you'll find she'll want to invest more to get your attention better. I speak from experience on this part.

Obviously you have to invest to, but that can be done in other ways.

I agree, lots of guys think they have to treat women like shit and that bothers me a lot. However, I don't know what you're talking about if we're discussing my earlier words. Which part of my initial post do you feel was oppressive or disrespectful to women?

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Funny response or ignoring her would off been your best move.

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No Response???????? You guys are insensitive...

Why would you want to respond to negative things like that? It will only do more harm then good. We don't say this to be cruel but we learned from experience.

Before you know it she will use you as her emotional tampon and some dude who is mysterious and unavailable gets all the good stuff.

You might think by saying sweet things or always texting for hours about nothing is being a good thing but in reality its far more interesting for a woman to have someone who isn't on his phone 24/7 and doesn't reply to her being emotional like all the other guys do. I can tell you right now where you will end if you keep doing this.

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so nice guys finish last?

After i said that text she replied with "you know more about me than i do =("
Then i replied with, "Anyway, i love sloths"
Her reply was, "Your are cute, for saying that!"

No. This is what many wannabe players want to think.

In reality women appreciate respect even from one-night-stands. There's a major difference between a guy that one wants to forget and that man that she can't and doesn't want to forget.

You showed kindness/support, she questions it and you showed kindness/support again. Now she's really into you

It's the best way to be. I'm sensitive at times but I couldn't give a shit about some random girls problems.

This is indeed a nice guy finishes last scenario. Nice guys do NOT finish last but this is one of those situations where no matter what you do you could fall into the LJBF.

Being all sensitive to girls problems (which could be a shit test) is asking for trouble when first dating her. The only girls this might work with is girls who get no attention like fuglys or fattys.

That's just me, however. I don't try to not give a shit, I genuinely don't give a shit. I don't want to hear or fix a girls problems when we first date. If she becomes important in my life then I'm there for her.

I'd encourage any real MAN to be there for a woman or a girl when they ask for help or support. There's only so much one can do to support one's self esteem, but little things can make waste difference.

I have seen a girl crying at a railway station and without any words, gave her a tissue and a supportive smile. Even if I didn't have any intentions of hitting on her, the smile she returned was priceless.

Especially if considering a girl for long-term, a guy can't ignore her problems. Any woman wants a man that stands up for them and supports them. Otherwise they'll walk away sooner or later to look for something better.

I'm glad we agree on this one.

It hasn't been my intention to insult you too personally. You had referred that the girl would be attempting to break the rapport and that replying to the girl in a more supportive way would lead to less respect from her. I disagree with you there. I see it as safer and more correct manner to appreciate the trust she puts on you rather than to shoot her down when she potentially could use some support from you. Not replying or an "I don't care" type of answer like a lot of guys here are suggesting leads a regular girl quickly into a conclusion "Ok, he's obviously not a keeper. I'll move on."

Not really true. You should be the best man ever when around her in person! But with texts you should not be a little bitch who sits there waiting for her to respond or to be super sweet to her about her problems, there other people who can help her with that(friends-family), you need to be the guy who makes her forget about all the bullshit and have a great time with.

Off course you need to be there for her in the long run but she should deserve your love and support first. Pretty sure in a couple of weeks you open a new thread saying i regret that i was so caring because she dumped your ass for a real man. Now you learn the most from mistakes so feel free to discard the advice and do what you think feels right which is being super sweet and always trying to make her happy. In maybe 2 weeks she gets bored and your out the window, seen it happen.

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I know of two ways to attract a woman:

1.) Be so pleasant that you are irresitible--- with positive emotion by complimenting, by showing good value, by humour, by physical appearance

2.) Make her want you to validate herself with you --- neg her, ignore her, be aloof, tease her

And you should deserve her love and support. There's a major difference in acting needy. If she has a habit of frequently talking negatively about her appearance etc., I'd gently put my finger on her lips, then swipe her hair away her face and kiss her on her forehead saying something like: "for me, you are beautiful and fine as you are. Now let us enjoy this time together, shall we?" Just watch her blush. That's a real man in her eyes.