Hey guys - I actually worked up the nerve to go out by myself and I'm certainly glad I did... I think I fucked up here and could have got the lay but it is what it is...

I couldn't meet up with any wings tonight so I went to a local bar down the street by myself. Went in got myself a drink and a couple guys sat by me that I started talking to.
A woman came up and asked me for a cigarette so I flirted with her a little, told her I'm new to town (asked why I was alone... though I got stuck in this lie) and she invited me to sit down with them (she told me she was playing wing for her friend... we'll call her dawn)

Anyway, talked to them for a while and we decided we all wanted to go dancing at the gay bar... so first we stopped by my condo and had another drink and then I followed them to the club/bar. I though Dawn was into me but I wasn't sure, so I started small kino when we got there and she wasn't receptive back but she didn't oppose it either. I ended up bringing her out to the dance floor and ended up just going in for the kiss and she loved it.

We ended up dancing the night away, Dawn's friend's boyfriend ended up coming too but they were both cool with me talking to her friend. Anyway, Dawn would keep dancing very sexual and we would kiss/make out/etc but everytime I tried to get her to grab my dick she wouldn't.. blah blah I don't know you etc, she was into me the entire night.

Anyway when the bar closes we're outside and her friend/friend's boyfriend leaves. I tried to get her to come home with me but she was like "blah blah I have a dog" and she lived like 20 minutes away and I was drunk so I wasn't driving all the way out there... She wanted me to come back to "just make out." I didn't realize this meant she wanted me to lead her to sex... but apparently it does. But either way, I wasn't driving out so we kissed and left.. I just shot her a text "hey it was nice meeting you, i def learned some new dance moves" but I didn't hear back yet... May be mad I'm not fucking her... she kept commenting on how hard my dick was.

Let me know how I fucked up here guys! By the way... girl's a dancer she was VERY good.

Her - "Why don't you come back and we can just make out."
You - "Just make-out? I was thinking we could have some great conversation too"

I can't get the wording right but something like that.

That's actually a pretty good response. More than likely "make out" meant lead me to sex... she probably didn't want to feel like a slut?

Turns out these girls are 'hired guns' at a pretty popular bar around here.

Hey man its cool that you can realize that she did actually want to have sex with you. A few words of advice though.

Try not to move from confort stage (dancing and making out) into the seduction/ foreplay stage the way you did. Trying to get her to grab your dick was super aggressive and its just sloppy game. You need to escalate slowly, remeber the confort stage of the game should last for 4 -10 hours based on the girl.

Also. Im not saying she wolnt text you back but theres a good chance she wolnt. You hit the point of no return. You either needed to take her back to your place and fuck her that night or have stayed in the confort stage and simple number closed. A sober girls mind is much different form the drunk girls and now she thinks that all you want out of her is a one night stand.

I appreciate the advice brradd... it's hard to not want to escalate when she's moaning in your ear and biting your neck.

Anyway, invited her out to a bar/dance club last night and she came. I spent most of the time building rapport, briefly dancing, and bouncing to another bar for a drink before going back to my place 'for a moment.'

I didn't escalate on her besides normal touching, pulling her through crowd, etc until we got to the 2nd bar where I let the conversation trail off so I could pull her in for the kiss... Suggested she come over for "a few minutes"...

When we got to my place I let her pick some music and we sat on the couch and it was rather smooth escalation from there. She gave me the "nothing is going to happen" and "you're going to be upset," etc etc... but her actions did not match her words. So after token resistance, I was 'in.'

Nice job. You could have possibly had the lay the first night, but you didn't. Still you knew she wanted you. You worked her a little more, built some more comfort hanging out time in, and got the close with very little remorse as oppose to how it would have gone down the first night.

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