Guys, quick question....

Why is it that when I game girls that I'm totally attracted to I tend to mess up my game I'm less playful, more focused on building rapport and comfort and I tend to think on what to say before saying it basically I don't want to mess up but when I go outside to sarge for Girls, even though she's the hottest woman that I saw that day, I don't mess up, yes I crash and burn sometimes but It can't be avoided and I can run my routines well. I'm super playful and I don't' care on what will I say to her.

Why?

You answered your own question, it's because the outcome doesn't bother you as much if your less attracted to them. So you are not stressing and overthinking things.

LBot said exactly what I was thinking but just to reiterate:
As soon as the thought enters your mind, "wow that hb is hot, I want her." You are about to fuck up because now you are outcome dependent. You are focusing on what you want the outcome to be and stressing about it. I'm not saying "don't want her", I'm saying "don't focus on wanting her." I'm totally guilty of this too, I'm not pointing fingers.

We need to portray all women the same in our minds. No woman is any better than any other. We need to see the fuckable girls in exactly the same way as the non-fuckable girls. If you don't give a shit about an hb5, then you shouldn't give a shit about an hb9.

This is also hard for me but I'm working on it.

What to do in this kind of situations? it's hard to not to focus on wanting her especially if I'm attracted to her. Tips? or some reading materials? thx!

Lol this is a funny thread. Gee, why do I get scared when a 6'5 300 pound linebacker from the football team wants to kick my ass, but Im not scared when a 5"3 90 pound weakling nerd with glasses wants to kick my ass.

OH NOW I KNOW! The bigger guy might kick my ass!

LOL hilarity

Nailed it. This has happened so many times with me as well it's crazy. I read some advice on this but as usual, can't remember the source, that said to pick a flaw, even if it's a small one like a piece of lint or a small mark on her face i.e. Cindy Crawford's mole and blow it up in your mind to the point that in that moment she's an HB5 because of it. I think this was a Strauss tactic, I'm not positive.

It's perfectly fine to want her.

Next time you talk to a girl you're attracted to, accept that you want her, accept that you might just chase her, but go in with an unapologizing attitude. Think to yourself, I want this girl and I'm not apologizing for it. Whatever comes out of her mouth doesn't mean shit because she's gonna want me, too.

If you try to get rid of your attraction (which doesn't work), you're going against yourself. Better accept the fact you like this girl, and you're gonna try and get her, but if you lose her, you don't care (or at least have that attitude). And with that attitude you will come across as confident, daring, attractive.

Like everyone else said, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves not to fuck up with girls we like, but that attitude will NOT get you the girl.