Hey guys, let me start of by saying its been too long since I've posted on this forum, it's good to be back.

I'm sorry about the spelling and grammer and well, for all of my terrible english, im just toooo lazy to correct it

The hero of this story, (me) is 22 and the lady is 18, to clarify any age related questions.

I'll get straight to the point by telling you my story, but ill keep to the important details and you need any more details, feel free to ask and ill supply what i can.

OK, we start this story at my mates house party, there was about 10 of us in total, more girls than boys, i ignored 2 of the ladies as they where too young for me, and a bit up themselves, anyways about half way through the party one of my friends (i was there with 3 girls) invites one of her friends down, we shall call this girl HB8, now at the point when HB8 arrived i was very drunk, so the details are fuzzy, luckly we had one of them girls who love to record every second of her life there, so i have some of it on tape to reflect on.

i remember chatting to her, she turns out to be a bit of a hippy chick, a white girl with blonde dreadlocks wearing lodes of bright wonderful colours. I spoke to her for a while i dont realllly remember much, but i did drop a compliment about her jacket, which she seamed to like. moving on about 2 hours, i was making out with her, all i can recall is just leaning in and going for it. now going back to the recording girl, it was on tape what i said:
Me:you seam really cool, if i lent in, would you pull away?
HB7: I woulden't mind
later i tested her a few times, by walking off and seeing if she would follow, which she did every time, unfortunately later on in the night a guy was getting a tad aggressive at me for 'playing' his girl, which ironically was a girl i didn't play, anyway i stood my ground and didn't let him AMOG me, which lead him to cracking me on the head with a bottle, and the HB7 pushing him away and telling him to fuck off, now i have a hard head so i dident even react to it, dident hit the ground or even flinch, if anything this just made me look more alpha, as i kept my cool.

well after all this, i agreed to walk her home, as she lived 5mins from the train station i was going to, i walked her back, and as we got to her door, i made out with her and took her number and was on my way. i texted her 5mins after to say thanks for the good night and id call her in the morning.

The next morning i dropped her a text asking if she wanted to hang out, she agreed it would be fun to see me again, and we arranged to meet on the Wednesday (it was now sunday) as time went past leading up to Wednesday i dropped the odd text keeping it fun and light, to keep me in her mind and hopefully prevent buyers remorse. on Wednesday i met up with my female friend in the morning, so i could incite a bit of jealously in her, i dropped her a text long before we where ment to meet asking if 5o'clock was a good time for her, she texted me back 3 hours later with an excuse that she had to babysit, but invited me to her birthday party on the following saturday.

i didn't text her again after this, but went to her party, which i ended up making out with her again, i tried to find out if she flaked on me, or generally had to babysit, she explained she lied, but only because she had only recently came out of a 3 1/2 year relationship and thier was these awful people called 'players' who where trying to take advantage of her and she thought i was one of them, after convincing her that i'm not, she agreed to meet me on the monday, but before i went to bed she texted me the following:

HB7:hey, i hate to piss you about but i think its best we dont see each other tomorrow, my head is in a bad place at the moment and am not really up for seeing any guys. I understand if you are really pissed off with me and dont want to speak to me again but i dont wanna screw things up and mess you about because its not fair. its not that i dont like you, its just that im not really ready for seeing anybody. i hope you understand and i'm sorry xx

me:It dident piss me off, just made me feel kinda ill tbh, how do you know that seeing me wont be good for you? mabey its what you need to get your head out of that place? dont text me back, sleep on it, and ill ask you in the morning if you feel the same, night xx

in the morning:
Me:Hey HB7, thanks for taking the time to think about this, i hope your head is in a better place now. so, have you realized that this mite be just what you need and are willing to meet today? xxxxx

HB7:I'm still a bit confused about everything tbh. and as well one of my band members just text me to say we have to go in to record the last of our music video so i wouldn't be able to anyways :-/ xxx

Me:ok, ill give you some space. have fun today and ill be in touch xx

and thats the story to date.

now what you need to know is that i am generally looking for a relationship with this girl and not just a 1-night.

also she has bi-polar so, sounds like shes in a depressive mood SPAM and not thinking straight
i know she likes me, because she told all her friends and was trying to find out if im a player by asking my friends.
so shes intrested and but had a bit of a fear of guys SPAM, i dont know whe she got out of this relationship, it was somewhere between 2weeks - 7months ago.

anyways, thanks for taking the time to read all this, and any suggestions or advice is appreciated, thanks in advance,
Lance

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Interesting story. It's going to be hard to be with a bi-polar girl if it works out you know that, don't you?

If she's truly bipolar, it can be a very good reason she doesn't want to see you. You've made out few times, and that asking around shows that she's interested, but probably afraid, and depressed.

It's really hard to give advice in a situation like this. Probably the best thing would be to really just give her space, and wait for her to contact you. But that's just my idea...

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thanks for the reply, you pretty much summed up what i was thinking.
this isent the first girl that i would of dated who had bi-polar, as you mite know there not always depressed, sometimes they can be quite the opposite hence 'bi' and considering she was in a 3 1/2 relationship she cant be that hard to handle?

I'm 90% sure she is in a depressed state SPAM, she cryed for what can only be the stupidest reason ever, and I've noticed some...marks...

the plan SPAM is to simply do as i said and give her space, no contact and she if she gets in touch with me. but the problem comes in the fact i said i would be in touch, so at some point im going to have to honor that promise

so in say 1 week, hopefully she will be out of that state and in a more 'manic' one, which is when i get my friend to set up somthing where we 'happen' to run into each other and ill just run another play to basically start again.

I'm beginning to think i put too much effort into these things...

thanks again

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When did bipolar disorder become so common? Seriously... I've seen it around this forum countless times though I've only met one person who had it... And I meet new people almost every day.

You know if you can handle it or not, I just wanted to make sure you know what the consequences of such a relationship are. I know about the disease since I study medicine

I wouldn't put so much effort to it. Maybe in a week it's okay to just text her what she has been up to, and in the meantime just live your life. I'm not saying go out and fuck every woman you see, but definitely don't sit at home waiting for that one week to pass. But from these two posts I think I can tell that you weren't planning on that anyway....again I just want to make sure. Have fun, mate, and good luck!

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thanks for the reply, I'm defiantly living my life, I'm going to the clubs tonight with my wingman, i probably wont get with anyone, just practice the game and maybe incite some more jealously or plant the seed of 'I'm losing him' in her mind when the pictures go on facebook, haha.

If theirs 1 thing I've learn from the game, It's the folly of loss when women say no.

thanks again, and all the best,
Lance

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