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lol... that is 300 pages and not 200... j/k
This is what i read between the lines.. this means she was interested.
she seems comfortable with introduction of sexuality in conversations
this was good to maintain high status and prize frame.. but i would not hav stretched it so long with the subsequent texts. just a hint of being the prize does the job of frame-control without sounding rude/asshole.
this was your another chance to seal the deal.
happens sometimes, but not the end of tunnel.
could have capitalized on the sexual tension here. but as i say, not the end of tunnel.
totally lost frame control. I would have used non-apologetic + sexually + funny attitude.

So, i would send her a text to do some damage control and then go dormant for some time to let her disgust settle down.
something like --
My [your country] secret agents tell me that my politeness treaty was not recieved with open arms in your territory... Time to deploy the assassins. Sleep with your armor onn spartan... !!
btw, me n my frens ~ going [XX] ~ you can tag along ~ m pretty sure you are not on my To-Kiss list tonight

She probably wont respond, which is not unusual, but atleast this sets up the playful vibe again. Then, wait for 2-3 days and text her some funny statement that does not display needines, but accentuates your socialproof + pre-selection. eg.
All,
[some lady fren of yours] is a super bum
never ever i had so many tears, after such spicy lunch.
[checklist item 4 done]

(30 minutes later)
included you by mistake.
[your lady fren] is a nice girl.
she had me eat those things
Nevermind.


2-3 days later..
send some text like --
OMG..blue whale's tongue weighs more than an elephant..
gotta love animal planet.

by this time, she would have gotten the hint that you have much more in your life than her.. and you are not some AFC chump.
This is the best i can advise as of now, from what i see from here, to revive you out of the waters.
We would obviously improvise as things change/develop.

Let me know how it goes.

-- Jack
Patience and Calibration are the keys to a perfect seduction
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Thanks for responding Jacklei. Im from an Urban area so girls might not find something like "Im sending my assassins over" amusing but I took part of what you said and added my own touch to it. I said "Seems like I was right about you not being ready for a real man in your life. You couldnt handle the aggressiveness little girl. Btw me and some friends are going bowling if you wanna cum along. You are not on my to kiss list tonight ". She didnt respond then I sent her " Youre lucky you didnt cum, Im beating everyones ass". Still no reply. That was May 2. I will give her space for now and will try once more when I return 3 months later. If nothing sparks up again then fuck her. Only reason Im even gonna try again is so I dont regret it later. Looking back on it, I made a mistake by responding as soon as I sensed trouble. I shouldve never apologized and should of thought over my response before I sent it. Im usually good with game even though I havent read any material. Instead of apologizing like a beta phaggot I shouldve said instead " You can squeeze my ass back and then well be even." Im sure that wouldve caused a better outcome. Oh well, I guess you live and you learn, but always think before responding to a girl. Another thing I dont know if I mentioned, that I think had a huge affect on our 1st date was that I masturbated twice before our date, not for any particular reason but just because I was horny in the afternoon. Masturbating tires you out and also lowers your testosterone levels, which also make you act less aggressive, it was a huge mistake. Btw I decided that when I come back I will no longer try to get with girls, if they come they come if not I wont be seeking unless its a very easy catch or she shows extreme interest like my last gf. My plan is to focus solely on myself. I will spend more time at the gym and become more dedicated to it. Its the best feeling in the world and also increases confidence. Just some wisdom for any beginners or younger guys, Im 24 turning 25 in July.

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Dude.. did you realise what projection you made here.. lol

You = "Seems like I was right about you not being ready for a real man in your life. You couldnt handle the aggressiveness little girl."

This looks like you were reprimanding her for her behaviour (which could legitimately have been usual ASDefense). Although this was cocky+non-apologetic, but you totally missed out on the critical part -- the funny vibe..
cocky+funny = attractive, just cocky = rude, just funny = bozo clown. There is a reason for the addition of these two, rather than individuals.

And i feel you already had presented your confidence perfectly by your bold moves to her. Now you enumerating them by specifically pointing yourself out as real man, decreases their influence coz it makes a person look boastful. She already had your image as alpha in her subconcious mind because of your confidence and sexality, but bringing it upfront to her could possibly tarnish that effect. I am no expert, but it does look like this to me...

The assasin part was to project a care-free vibe, to the text, which is okay even if u missed out, but replacing it with something funny, or imaginary probably would have been a better choice. Anyway, like they say -- There is plenty of fish in the pond.. so no worries.

Btw, i dont know how much urban this may count in for me, but here in Los Angeles, where i am from ... the assasins joke seems to work on everybody, guy or girl, almost all the times... lol . But hey anyway, like they say -- "To get the girl, you sometimes have to risk losing her"

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well it seems things were going pretty decent then you got all needy over her and lost the frame

this girl has become important in your mind to the point where you see her as more valuable then yourself, this has to change or you will find extreme difficulties in getting her

in the future, don't appologise for being interested in someone, be shameless about it, the frame you established at first was ''I like you, and I don't care about it and will be fine with or without you'', then after some neediness passed through you and you had a bit of that fear of loss, your words and actions projected a frame that more reflected, ''you are more important then me, I am not worthy of you, I am sorry for trying to assume I was worth something because I don't believe I am''

there is no need to defend yourself for something that you do not regrett, next time go for the kiss more confidently, and if you get challenged and it turns into some sort of negative big deal, then this is just simply not the girl for you, if you want to know how to ''game'' her for this, it is simple, tell the truth, get to the route of what is happening from your perception and hold the perception through a clear thinking non-needy looking glass

if you are under these three options
then you really are fucking yourself over, because the problem here is your inability to de-tach yourself from this girl, neediness is what fucked you over, and will continue to do so no matter what number you pick, 1-3, if you text her now and you are needy, you will push her away further, if you go away for 3 months and she is still important to you after the 3 months and you continue to obsess over her, even if she starts to contact again eventually you will become needy once again, if you just let it go then you don't get laid and that puts you in the same boat as being needy,

you have to just step away from this situation until you feel like she is cool and all, but you could take it or leave it, and you have to be honest with yourself because just lieing to yourself saying it's not needy that I must have her, will not change how needy you are or what you are projecting in person and over the phone, you have to eliminate your weakness and be sure of what you do while being able to place your trust in others, rather then being unsure of what you do and being dependant on others

it is a fine line between wanting something, and needing something, try not to cross the line

I guess I rushed things because I was trying to fuck her before I left which was a huge mistake, patience is key. Thanks again for replying Jacklei and pumpington, so what do you guys suggest I do now? Btw my flight is thursday night at 9 which is today so if I dont reply quickly you know why. I dont want or need her as bad as I want my pride back, thats what its really about, not her. I have to conquer this situation to get my dignity back, thats what its all about to me at this point.

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