Hello!

3 years ago i met in my gym a girl i like very much.We talked almost every day i went to the gym and laughed together.I can say she liked my company.
One day she quit, so i never saw her again.
Every year since then,she contacts me on email every beginning of may asking how i'm doing and asking me many questions which i fully answer.
This year too (about 2 days ago) she wrote me,saying :" Hi dear, i was thinking about you...how are you doing? Kisses"

I waited 30 hours then answered :"Hi, i'm doing fine.And you?"

4 minutes after i replied, she wrote : "Everything's going well here too Kisses"

Now i don't know what to say to keep her interest up and maybe get a date with her.
I'm a bit shy too...

She thinks i am a person of culture and someone she trusts and admires...but i think she never thought of me as a possible partner.

Thanks in advance for your replies... and sorry if my english is not so good...i'm not english nor american

Hmmm,I am fairly new to the entire PUA concept, even though I read a book about dating and plenty of online material.

But since you barely know her, maybe you should try finding something in common with her, you know, an interesting topic to talk to her about,you said it yourself she thinks of you as a person of culture. And you take things on from there, and possibly later on say something like,,

"You know, we have been texting for some while now, why dont we go grab a coffe(or something else, since some guys dont like coffe meet-ups) at "insert name" place ?"

If you get a meetup, then just do your ussual game/routine on her.

Hope this helps.

Cheers, Crix.

is there any significance as to why she contacts you in May only??
as far as the interest goes, you have to set up a date and begin to escalate. emailing back and forth is no good if you want something more (i.e. F-close or a relationship). just be your best self when/if the date is set up and let your personality take over and i'm sure the interest will be there .

You have to take control of this. A woman will never want to date a man who is not confident or someone who will not escalate. You are in the friend zone with this girl. You have been in the confort stage of the game way too long. Even if this girl was attracted to you at some point it seems like your lack of progression through the stages of the game have left you in a place where she sees you as just a good friend. Learn from this. You have to show interest in a woman beyond casual conversation and a laugh for her to see you as a viable partner.

I agree with the post above me. The only way to get out of this friend zone is meet in person. Emails are lame and are only good for keeping in touch with relatives and close friends. No one ever got laid through being an awesome emailer and youre no exeption.

Finally for future targets stop being shy, be engergetic, be confident and make the woman work for your attention. You control every one of your personal relationships and you control the very outcome of these relationships. Good luck and cheers.

-BRAD

"What gym are you at now? I'm looking for a new workout buddy."

Go ahead and text her, just for a few days and then start calling her. After a week ask her out for a coffee. It is better to meet her in the morning for the first time. Then you can ask her to go to a bar-club with you.

This was the slow but secure solution.

If you want to speed things up, just call her and ask her out. This way you can show her that you have changed.