I met a HB9.5, we're good in person as if we knew each other for a long time, she's giving me serious IOIs (DDBL, she smiles and laughs, she reinitiates convo when I stop talking etc.)we flirt. I'm so attracted to her. Since I won't be seeing her anymore around, it's her last day, I decided to take her number.

Hour's after, I texted her, she did not text back. The next day, I texted her again, again no response, Next day, I texted her, again.... darn. What's with her? has she lost interest? It's so frustrating, I really like her but now what? she's not texting back so, how would I set up a date to see her again. I'm becoming paranoid luckily my sarge buddies invited me to a club yesterday, I've met new HBs had a great night, but I went home still thinking about her, I want to see her again.

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Sorry but this literally SCREAMS "needy"
"i texted her and she didn't reply, so i kept texting her everyday for a week" is NOT pua material in ANY way
1:1 rule, for every 1 message you send her you get at least 1 back, this rule is only broken after 24 hours of silence (or if or she initiates) - after which you say something funny but calls out her silence like "you're fired" - if she doesn't reply she's obviously not interested at all and it's for the best...
Please don't do this *facepalm*
not in a mean way, but that's pretty needy too; A)waiting a week to text a girl, all your previous attraction goes *poof*, gone just like that, B) you want to hear from her, and she reads this as "i need to hear from you again please text me", that's a bit needy from my view.

Try calling her, if she doesn't reply don't leave a message, just move on - don't spend 10 days trying to game this one girl, when in that time you can lay 5 different ones

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I agree with above post.

charblad- whats the difference between calling or texting after a week? both would need to seem equally needy..

and i disagree, its only in this context that it seems needy because he has sent her several texts...otherwise, if it was only one for e.g that has not beend responded to, getting in touch after 1 week is totally fine..

I'd say she's just not interested. I'm certain she's getting your texts (unless she's lost her phone). There's absolutely no harm in texting her after some time to see what's up. Calling her phone can quite easily be construed as neediness, so I'm not quite sure where Charblad is coming from. If she doesn't have much attraction to you now it wont make a difference how much time has elapsed between communication. I'd definitely drop her a line a week or 2 from now with something attention-grabbing that'll spark her curiosity.

The difference is of degree, if anything. Contacting a girl a week or so after she's been silent is perfectly fine, the worst that can happen is she doesn't respond or tells you she's not interested (almost never happens).

You never know what her mood state will be like a week or so from now, maybe she's going through some major breakup and after some time will be more receptive to you. If in the end she sees it as needy who cares, you haven't lost anything anyway. Get past your ego man!

I think you need to cut your loses on this one. When girls want you, even very pretty ones they will chase you, act desperate, even needy their damn selves. Hell, women will embarass themselves. ..

You seem like you really got your heart set on these girls. You need to guard your heart man. Don't care this much until the girl cares about you. I'm worried about you man you seem distraught. This is just a learning experience. You did your best you'll do better next time.

Maybe if you contact her in a couple of weeks she may talk to you, but you would have to come up with something that sends a really a great impression and that is just luck of the draw my friend. Keep ya head up

Awww...

My good old original poster....

I am deeply sorry to hear that. I really am.

At least be happy you met her. Remember, the moment you start thinking that NEXT HB you game won't call you back, is the moment you already lost her.

Move on, realize she missed on, and get ready for a Rodeo.

the difference is the instant-ty of it. Text her and you will check your phone 100 times in the next 5 hours. And then think "oh she'll text me later", which is all a lie and you'll string yourself along (worse than putting yourself in the friendzone). With a call if she doesn't answer - bam move on never think of her again, if she does you get a instant response to your questions and whatever.
It's only the context that seems needy. Wow no sht... I'm talking to the poster about his post. And my answer is to specific?!?

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Honestly...this should not happen if you have more than 1 girl. I still feel the OP's pain in losing a HB9.5 to him.... that massively sucks.

I hope the OP realizes that he shouldn't let this stop him.


God...I really hate it when something good happens and then it just suddenly flakes. The reality is the girl may not have had a strong enough romantic connection. This is why I sometimes avoid rapporting with them now when I meet them. I focus a lot on romantic thoughts...all romantic. I want her to think of me romantically right away.

I think that works.

Hey! thanks man I appreciate it. don't worry man I won't stop. I'm still starting and learning things about this PUA thing and I enjoyed every second of it even though frustration comes, it makes me more motivated.

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I'm glad to hear it man. Look on the bright side...at least you didn't lose her number. Worst things have happened where I got an amazing girls number, our energies were great, and I forgot to give her my number. Then I lost it. Luckily, my sarging buddy also took down her number as he knew how terrible I can be with my phone sometimes (A true wingman ...note he wasnt doing it to hit on her or anything )

In any case, hey man this is the game we play. We meet so many girls...some of us may not meet as many due to shitty logistics, but we just push past logistics. Who cares.

guys! I now knew the reason why she's not messaging back. Today! I saw her unexpectedly, we had a fluff talk no flirting etc... she said that she just came back to get her certification from her training. Hours later lunch time, outside I was with my buddies, we were walking and I look back, I saw her with a guy but I did not fully recognize her so I look back again we saw each other in the eyes, I look forward then look back again to see her and her bf turn back, walking away from me. I though she had no bf because I said something like this before, "hey! the way you look at me, it looks like you want me to be your number 11", she said "number 11?" then I said "OMG you have ten BF's as far as I know, so your giving me a ticket to be your number 11, now get off me I'm not that easy" she said "haha! OMG 10? that's too many, actually I have none!.... Damn it! all I want is a loyal guy haha" then I said something "he must be somewhere out there just chilling out" then I gave her a high five. I'm so pissed but somewhat a little bit happy because of her my game improved and that I met her. I won't forget her. This super nice girl with good looks, always bringing positive vibes and smart. Maybe one day we'll see each other again. Not maybe, we'll definitely see each other again "I still have her number". Ciao! I'm so attached to her. I'm so sad right now!

Good news: I met 2 awesome girls (Both HB8) last Wednesday during our day game sarge and I'm doing my best to make it to day 2. and another good news there's still another HB9 in the company where I'm doing my training, she's a trainee too. I'm ignoring her before because I don't want to be viewed as a player. now it's time to rock and roll. Wish me luck! The journey continues...

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Not to gloat or anything, but if you did You would've moved on (and/or realized she had a bf) a long time ago... remember I'm on this forum to help you, if I wanted self glory I'd go make a PUA system and sell it for $99.99 not give free advice on a forum - don't take what I say lightly

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