Hello guys,

I'm in a really fucked up situation at the moment. I really need some insight in what I did wrong, why it was wrong and what changed about her thoughts. What should I do now? I'd appreciate a more open answer then ''You screwed up this, or You're the prize, or move on''.


Situation:



I met this really cute girl on college about 3 months ago, we started off really well and got into convo's really deeply, I used alot of PUA techniques and they worked like a charm.

I set up a day 2 with her and things gotten difficult, I knew she had a boyfriend and I ''used'' her as a practice partner in the meanwhile. The day 2 was also with alot of mutual friends so nothing special was meant. We had alot of fun untill she took my hand and guided me to the bar.
She hugs me and she confesses to me, she says she feels really good when she's with me and that she likes me alot.

I told her to rethink the situation (because she had a boyfriend). I didn't escalate at all and I didn't really feel like it since she has a boyfriend. Afterwards we talked about it and she slowly started getting back into the ''I love my boyfriend'' kind of form.
We proceeded to talk over time and I noticed there was always alot of tension, when we were at school she kept texting me and she was very shy around me, I kept flirting with her and things were getting dangerous for many times.

Eventually I got pretty bored of her because my personality is strange, I can do something for a few months and get really bored with something. I stopped texting her and she kept texting me asking what was wrong etc...


After the holiday:

So we got 2 weeks off and I never texted her, nor about 2 weeks after when we were at school together, I wasn't interested anymore. Things kind of slipped away and our friendship was more based on casual bullshit instead of deep interesting texts/calls.
I recently re-thought of my situation and realised I acted like a complete fuck, I went cold mode against her many times, I didn't really do it intentionally, I was build around akward personality changes once I really got into PUA. Eventually I got into a very bad mindset and starting losing my self-control, I had lost alot in the meanwhile.
I recently started talking to her again and I started liking her, but things have changed dramatically, she things she used to laugh about, the compliments and everything she used to love, are just nothing to her anymore, no smile, no laugh, just a smile ''haha''.
She keeps sending me messages like ''I really like you'' but in a more friendly way and she texts me alot by herself. Today she asked me to come talk with her on msn/facebook which she used to do when she likes me. The conversations are still boring as fuck though.

I'm curious...are you sure you're not confusing the shyness with akwardness around you and also how were they exactly 'getting dangerous' if you didn't kino escalate? Like dangerous eye contact? That part is confusing.

To me it just sounds like a bad pick up and the girl is just now very hesitant around you but just trying to create a friend out of this whole situation. Perhaps its worth considering liking her as a friend, and maybe getting with her hot friends.

Akwardness 100%, The reason why is because she gotten very nervous around me, and she told all her friends that she liked me, and when I entered the room they are like, oooh here he is! and she's like shhh, dont say anything! She told me about this afterwards.

Dangerous in a way of kino'ing very personal, strong eye-contact, creating a huge tension between us, saying things to eachother, her almost dumping her boyfriend for me, all those kind off things.

I'm not certain what You meant by bad pick-up, You meant me doing something wrong, or her just being a wrong target?
Not sure if doing this ''liking her as a friend'' is that easy, I do have some strong feelings for her, I do not approach her in any way, nor do I do anything ''one-itus'' alike.

I guess i'm in a situation where I know the answer, but I dont wanna hear it .

Well, at least in the last sentence you're honest about it. But in some serious backwards-rationalization - if a girl likes you over another guy and feels she has more of something with you in the future...she WILL leave.

But that's basic at best. I think we can all agree as men we can easily leave a girl not satisfying our needs etc. But perhaps she's with this bf for whatever reason. You can try to keep escalating with her....you can make it sexual and pretty much exclude her as a friend completely.

It is very hard to be in the middle...and it serves to just fuck with your head.

Yeah, it's either option 1 or option 2, i'm not chosing to be the ''friend to keep'' as it'll only backfire. Been there, done that . That's the thing that bothers me, she did want to leave her boyfriend for me at the start, ofcourse after all the stuff I put her through (randomly ignoring her, not texting back) I can imagine she got over me. Thing is, do I wanna try go there again, or just leave it all as one and try to forget about her? She's at my college, we have mutual friends, so not seeing her is impossible. Dunno if I have the will to just be like meh, time for another round of fun.

I feel so sorry to you, but , behind your mind!

Dafuq?