| It was an interesting night - loads of new faces and new locations, that we didnt know whether they were 'relevent' to our game.
This needs to be done so we can eliminate venues, as well as find out where is fertile ground. As we're still learning - venue choice shouldnt be blamed whether an evening is successful.
A successful evening is subjective. Let me explain.
Last week Chris, Mark Sebastien and I went to Kingston and tore it apart. We went to Oceana - at first thought, not a place where you could find success. But this is my territory, my home ground, I was comfortable with the environment.
My weakness is the approach and opening. Shameem and Chris have no problems here. I want their fearless mindset-or at least have the fear and still face it, every time.
I challenge myself and want to 'just' work on the openers and approaches. So I set myself to rattle off 30 opens for that evening. Thats all. Just to open and leave. And I did that.
The most memorable one was a 9 (she was THE hottest girl down there)who stood proud and feminine. She was standing next to us for 30 minutes and pushed all the guys away over that time-there were LOADS of guys that approached her. Not once did she smile or say anything to them. But still I wasnt to be put off.
There was an awful smell that either came from someone or the drains, or whatever-that was my prompt. Looking over my shoulder, I said (without leaning) "This smell...it was you, right?....Thats quite disgusting"
And turned back round to my mates WITHOUT waiting for a responce. Chris' face lit up and he laughed-mainly because the girl's face lit up too and transformed from a moody bitch to a hair-flicking, soft-featured smiling girl.
This single open was not the reason why I was successful last week - the reason why I was successful was far more deeper.
Chris asked me how many phone numbers I got - none. Chris 'gave out' his card 3 times - 2 have got back to him. But he does this anyway, all the time - he didnt push himself, so to me he hasnt advanced, or grown.
I was successful, even though I didnt get any phone numbers for many reasons. I had set myself challenges - like with every part of my life. I opened and approached 30(?) single, 2,3,4 sets. So I faced my fear 30 times - and learnt a lot from each one. I rarely carried on further than that - if I did, I was working on technique rather than thinking about getting a number. Im getting used to opening now, its becoming less of a fear. Im being able to control what my body and facial expressions decide to do when I have this approach anxiety. Therefore I grew - therefore I had a successful evening, even though I didnt have any type of close.
Last night we went back into Walkabout - after going to various venues, most of which were too noisy and too crowded. We just let go and enjoyed ourself - talking to each other and not looking like we're gaming.
Upstairs was an area where it was less busy and less noisy. BANG! I felt this was a good area. Instantly I opened a 3 set from Italy and Brazil. The girls were so friendly and excited and enthusiastic to tell me about themselves. It was nice to finally have the feeling again of being circled by a group of girls as I lean back against the railing. Rob walked by after 10 minutes and I pulled him in - he isolated his girl and promptly number closed.
The night was fairly tough - but when we were in an environment that we were comfortable in (the less busy and less noisy upstairs section in Walkabout) we did well. However, we were in a comfort zone - we grow when we push barriers, do things we dont want to do or work against a force.
If the environment is difficult its a perfect opportunity to easily grow. Because its almost 'double points' - even by trying, you are pushing yourself. If you succeed with a number (or even opening) then the VALUE is worth more.
Great to meet more new faces last night - thank you for joining us...
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