ok.. to make a long story short after several weeks of gaming, i finally got this bartenders number... over the course of about 2 months i have asked her out 3 times...

first time, she was sick. but said she wanted to soon.

second time I told her in person "hey, i wan a take you out sometime.. Lets make it happen"
She told me "I would love to... just ask me in a week"

a week later i asked her to come to a party with me and she said she would try her best, but the day of the party i asked her if she was coming and she never texted back..

she throws me ioi's when she is working, and when she is off. (ex. she hooks me up with free drinks, doesn't accept tips from me, and every time she sees me when she is off she hugs me and gets excited..") i met her roommate the other day (at the bar) and she was like "I Have heard a lot about you. all good things i promise."

What do you guys think?? should i ask her out one more time??? or just give up

freeze out, ignore, re-game then decide.

You are beating a dead horse at this point and hurting your chances. Best option is to let it go and try again when she is either more interested, or whatever logistics that were preventing her from going out with you resolve themselves. You are not going to badger her into a date, and even if you do, the date is headed for a hug close at best.

Of course ask her out, keep doing so till she says "fuck off" which she probably never will. Don't make it easy for her, call her or ask her out in person to put her on the spot. Hold eye contact and a deadpan expression when you ask her, don't laugh, don't break silence because you're fearful she may feel awkward and you want to give her an out. Simply ask her, STFU and wait for her to respond. $10 she'll say yes.

Freezing out is stupid particularly if a girl has weak to no investment in you. Freezing out is ONLY to be used when you know a girl is really invested in you and say, for example, she's done something oft-putting you do not want to reinforce. Key with freezing out is not to ignore her as it seems like pouting or brooding, but rather to not contact as much or give her any other attention that'll feed her sense of validation.

she could be socially polite, how much attraction and comfort do you have?

Yea...based on everything you told me....I have like...a lot of girl/friends that are "into me" when really they're into the energy I give off, it doesn't necessarily mean she's attracted. Some girls hug any one of their friends...I wouldn't classify it as she got excited. How did you even get this idea? Did she get a boner? See what I mean...

She seems interested in you, and I'm sure she is a hottie bartender so she probably is genuinely very busy. B/c she is interested in you, be persistent. Don't go overboard with it and get annoying, however.

With the right amount of persistence, you'll probably get the lay.

shes blown you off 3 times, I doubt its gonna eventuate into anything good.

Academically you should always persist as slim chances are better then none.

Realistically you should move on if you have any emotional capital invested in this, And normally most people will have some emotional investment under these circumstances. Of course there are a few sociopaths about here which have no empathy and thus will always persist, but I dont think that's the right path for most people.

I decided to try one more time. Here is how it went
via text message
Me:hey, if your not working come join me and a few friends for a pitcher.
Her:(2 hours later) I really would love to but I'm working! come see me!

Me: u sent that two seconds two late! I already left. We should hang soon though. Let me know when your free.

No text back

Move on, she already has.

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