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PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 10:29 pm 
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Just saw her at school today again. Went to the cafeteria, but like always her sis was there. Anyway I tried to Be funny to all of them all and it went good. I teased her a lot. To the point that she said I was mean with her, but in a smiling funny way. Apparently she and the others enjoyed my presence there.

Good thing is I started wining her sister. At the beginning she actually was protecting my target a lot. But now she kinda like me cause even she invented me to go to a event in the weekend where my target and her sister are going to perform. Anyway indirectly I got an invitation from my sisters target. And also both of them asked me what I was gonna do on da weekend. I think I did a really good job. Also I left when we all were having fun. So they miss me.

I'll be bringing a friend to take care of her sis, while I do my job. Then after that event we might be going to eat somewhere or hangout somewhere. That's the plan. Until that on this remaining days of the week I'll try to do another approach. Being funny, but Not too friendly, in order to not fall in friend zone.

Now, how much is too much teasing? Today I teased her some, not much and she laughed lIke crazy, her sis too. That's how I think they are feeling more comfortable with me now.

What would be my next step? Was it good what I just did? Btw I haven't escalate much, actually she and her sis made some kino, ioi well idk.
I know I have to escalate more with my target but her sis is there. Should I still do it. Will It look like I'm trying to hit on her.

Ps. Idk but I have an impression that she got jealous when she saw me last time with the other girl. She actually asked me where she went today, cause she wasn't there. Is it ok to make her jealous.
Is there Anyway to make her give me some IoIS,
She hasnt done it too much, or maybe i dont see it, well but she looks at me smiling and sometimes gets shy.
Thanks bro!


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Nice job.
I think that was pretty good. To answer your questions (as fully as I can)

How much teasing is too much? You have to feel this. Over time you will get more and more sensitive to it naturally. It should always be fun. Whenever you get the feeling it may be too much, like she doesn't laugh as much anymore or she actually says it was mean with a serious face, stop. Don't apologize, because , hey you were having fun and she's missing out.if you do ever cross the line apologize sincerely and say it won't happen again. Then go back to fun.

Touch escalation is best when you two get privacy, or at least partly. Touching her in front of everyone may not be what she wants, and it will be a lot more effective to do it when it's only her and you. So don't worry.

As for your plan. It sounds good. Only know that most of the time things NEVER go to plan. So don't cling onto your plan at all. Have it as a safety fallback if truly nothing else comes up, in which case you can lead as usual.

As for IOIs, you can't MAKE her give you more IOIs. They come from her actually liking you. And the only reason she would like you is if you're fun, a leading man...So keep doing what you're doing. See how it goes on the weekend. Keep looking for IOIs and keep being the fun guy you already are. If you play things cool and naturally, without falling into the friendzone, you should start getting a good vibe from her, and can finally make the move.


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PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 2:57 am 
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What can I say! Well I just f closed an hb7, it wasnt my target, the one that I have been trying to get, but the one that I just used to got my target mad.
I just gotta say! Pua strategies do really fcking work.

First day I went to her place, I k closed her. Now it wasn't the best kiss close ever. But I knew she wanted because she actually gave me big ass iois like hugging me and she cuddle on my shoulder. She even did triangle gazed me!!! So I just Felt ballsy and k closed her right there! People at her place so we just kissed. Well 5 minutes kisses and all that.

Second day I knew what I wanted so with that mind set I went for it. We are actually doing some bigass project for school so I gotta go to her house for that reason. Well I took advantage of that. Lol
After doing hw and going to eat out. We got back to her house. Then I f closed her. Better said 3 times that night. Man I felt like God. I passed from being a really afc, to f close in just 2 days.

Now all these happened me being myself, not following routines, just being who I am, but i did add the cocky, funny and sexual behavior that I didn't have before. No worries no pressure, and It worked. Also I just met this girl, so in basically 2-3 days I built some big rapport. Always being confident and doing pull and push here and there.

In addition, she introduced me to her friends. Then she told me those girls said to her that they found me cute! Man I felt like I was a new person. Felt like the boss. I just changed the way I made eye contact with people, I threw some cute smiles and tried to be as alpha and confident as I could. Well it worked.
Now this is the way I think I have to be in order to get my real target. The one that I have been trying to get.

Anyway, now cause everything it's not sunshines, this girl that I just f close, it's calling me and trying to get in a relationship. Now I'm not a dick who doesn't care about girl feelings. So I really want to be nice with this girl. I do like her, but I'm looking to get th other gurl, my original target. How do I deal with this.? I don't want to be a dick!

I know I messed up on f.ing a girl from the same class on where my target is, but man I dont get this chances everyday. Anyway now, I just hope she won't tell my target what happened. How do I deal with this dile
mma? I really want to get my target. Actually I like her for good. Call it oneitis idk, but I think she's really worth it. And I know she likes me back, she's just shy ass hell.

Ps. I'm attending to an event that target will be in, so I'm seeing her, that's the double date thing I was talking about in my last posts. Time to apply the game to this girl. Start escalating I guess and see where it goes. Help me on this what will it be my strategies. Or just do what I did, which I think will be the best, carefree no clingy attitude, being that funny guy that ended up f closing te other chick.

Thanks man for all, u have a big part on this man, it really worked. Now trying to get the real target. Starting tomorrow, tips on that. Thz!


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PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 11:31 am 
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Hey man, I'm really happy for you here. Good job!

So from what you've said, you have two things going on here.

Firstly, get clear about how you feel about that other girl. Don't call things off with her, seeing as if things don't work out with the girl you actually want, you still have her. Just keep it low key. Do you know she wants a relationship? Did she tell you that? If she does, then it is for you to decide how you want to run this stuff. Tell her to give you some time.

About the girl you want. Don't stress. There is nothing special to do with her. Just be who you were with that girl that you got laid with. I think you already know what to do, now just do it.

Remember, you need to escalate. So when you are with her in public, tease her, be the funny guy, the slightly cocky one, that carefree attitude that you described. Then when you are with her at the event you must somehow be alone with her, or get to a little more privacy. You said she is shy, therefore you must make sure she is giving you IOIs, and then you be the man and tell her she's cute, or that you want to kiss her, without apologizing, and it should happen. Lead her, because she wants you to. But the kiss must probably happen when she is away from people she knows!

To get her back to your place, girls want plausible deniability. They need it. So when you are still at the event talking to her, make some references about stuff you have at home and need to show her. Or make note of the things that she likes, and if you have something at home that she likes, it can be a good excuse to get her over.

Good luck man!


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PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 11:00 pm 
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Yeah man thanks for all. I just got back from that event, actually couldn't do much. She was with all her family, so I played it cool. She was all shy so she ignored me most of the time. But when she first saw me she was so happy and excited, cause i was there, so was her sister. Well, again didnt have time to do my game, but whatever, im not gonna rush it.

Btw, my wing that i brought there, kinda messed it up, in short words he kinda let this girl know that i was interested in her. Well im kinda sure now she knows about. I tried all this time to seemed no needy, basically that I wasnt interested, but now she might know that Im actually into her. Now is this ok? I know she kinda likes me back, but i tried to play it cool and make myself a challenge. Should i keep acting the same or?

Tmrrw ill try another approach on her, and set up an invitation(let her come) to somewhere that ill be going to attend. But this time She and me, no wings no sisters, no cock-blockers.

Also as a side note. Just accidentally got into day game approaches. Went this morning shopping at the mall. I really felt ballsy and started to talk to girls. My confidence seems really high after that f close, to the point that i can do this. Anyway, didnt get any number (didnt try either), just started talking to cute girls at the mall. it went good, i just got good responses. I did it mostly because i tried to keep my confidence level high. Now, i really like this mall thing. How do i phone close them? Its not my priority now, but just in case i get some bad oneitis.

Ps. should i go direct with my escalation techniques, or go slowly, shes really shy. Should i do some thumb battle game with her, or what would it be something nice?

Thz Man!


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PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 11:34 pm 
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Assumption stacking is much better than asking her random questions. Instead of saying what study are you doing, you should say 'so do you study medicine or something?'

With the direct question you will probably only get 'engineering'
whereas with the assumption you will get 'no haha why would you think that[further convo] and answer to your initial question.' its much better

And it also takes away the whole 'interview' vibe you get going along when you are asking 40 direct questions, not very comfortable situation to be in =[

So that should be more than enough to get the two of you in a proper conversation. For the rest I suggest practicing ALOT it will increase your confidence and you will be more comfortable around women. And if you are more comfortable you can be more yourself. And you want her to like her for who you are, so if youre uncomfortable you wont get anything good out of it.

It's the same for the girl, make sure she is comfortable. And try to not be awkward or make a big deal out of things. If you are like 'could I please hold your hand??' She will feel like its an intimate thing to do'
As in when you would say 'hey, give me your hand' and assume she is going to give it to you. It is much more comfortable for her because its not a big deal.

this is exactly the same when you are going for the hug/kiss/fuck EVERYTHING as long as you dont make it awkward things will go 100 times easier. Treat it like its the most normal thing in the world.

AAAAAND you said you HAD to take the lead because she is shy. Well sorry to break it to you but you are going to be the one in every relationship where you have to lead. Women are sheep, they follow people. And men are the leaders.

She wont randomly start kissing you [unless she gets too fucking impatient] because most girls are shy. They dont want to be rejected, just like men. But even worse. It's the mans duty to lead, to rule to be the prince charming who will change her life. its hardwired in every girl out there. Leadership is sexy, because they are the ones that get stuff done.


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PostPosted: Mon May 07, 2012 12:11 am 
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It's fine that she knows man. Don't worry.

All you have to do here is act as if nothing had happened, because you don't care if it did (you're unaffected by this). And if she asks you whether you like her, depending on how many IOIs she gives you, how compliant she is, etc. you either bust her balls and tell her, or directly tell her that yeah, you think she's cute, and you'Re not apologizing for that. If you say it without apologizing, with the mindset of "Yeah, so what?" this can go smoothly.


As for getting numbers in daygame. I'm not too experienced with day game, so I will let someone else answer that one.


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PostPosted: Thu May 17, 2012 5:55 am 
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Ok!, just got back from hanging out with her.
I told her I was going to shop somethings and that she could come. I picked her up, we had a fun time. She helped pick up some things I needed to buy. Then we went to eat. I tried to talk as much as I could. Always being fun and teasing her a lot.

But, she told me I was so mean with her, and that I didn't like her. She said it laughing and smiling, idk if she really mean it. But I did teased her a lot. I probably gave her a bad image of myself being too mean with her. But idk? I always tried it in a fun way, she enjoyed, but she seems more like a Sweet girl, looking for a guy that is so nice an sweet with her. Should I be that guy? Should I start being more sweet and showing more interest?

I threw some kino here and there, not much but some to get things starting. She responded good, never stopping me or anything. I didn't notice any big IoIS but I did notice, she asking me about oter girls and also when I asked her about some guys she told me she didn't have bf and why I was asking her that.

Is it ok to text her or tell her to hang out again, tmrrw or any near day. Or it will be very needy and too fast. I wanna see her again man, damn was she so cute 2day( I know, so afc) but she's damn pretty.

Last thing. I did noticed her not as shy as before, but she didn't talk much, I know next time I should take her do something fun that involves lot of kino. She's not busy, we just finished school. Me and she are free.

Thz traveler!!


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PostPosted: Thu May 17, 2012 12:16 pm 
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Are you looking for IOIs here? Remember, IOIs come in many flavors. Most common being touching her hair, continuing the conversation, touching you, looking at you really interested (doggy dinner bowl look).

Also, compliance is an indicator of interest. If you tell her to do something and she does it willingly, you may just have her interested.

If she said you're mean, with a smile, it's nothing to really worry about. For example, one way I know that I've got a shot with a girl is if I tease her and she gives me that slap on the shoulder or chest. It's playful flirting man.

The next time you meet you should be in a place where you can escalate. The best place would be...YOUR PLACE. Tell her you have to show her this awesome thing and she should come over some evening this week. If she says yes, that's great. She's comfortable enough to be with you alone in your place.

Cut down on the teasing the next time. Ramp up the kino. Look for clear IOIs. And when you feel she's definitely interested, you MAKE YOUR STATEMENT OF INTENT, or tell her she's cute. Something that she knows you are interested in her.

And if she responds well to that, i.e she blushes, she doesn't tell you to back off or to just stay friends, etc. you converse a few minutes and then make your move into the kiss.

Keep us updated man. If she agrees to come over, post it, and I'll try my best to help you get this gal.


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PostPosted: Mon May 21, 2012 9:05 pm 
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Just been texting here and there. Cocky and funny, keeping it short. I know shes kinda interested. Last week she was asking me what i was doing. I guess i did good te last date. I played hard to get this time, told her i was doing something. Having fun. DHVing my self.

Now, ill be going somewhere on this week, and ill tell her to join me. Ill choose a fun place, so i can do a lot of kino and look for more iois. Ill do my best this time, keeping it always fun, so she will be wanting more. Just checked in the forum, some options are beach, parks, theme parks, zoo, museum. Any suggestions?

I cant make it on my place this time, cause i have family coming, and i dont want to wait more and make her interest levels drop. So until that ill try to do something somewhere else but again keeping it fun. Like i said i really want to get this girl, so Ill do my best next time i see her. Been studying some material, routines, kinos, etc. But i wont put pressure on me. I know that at the end, im the one who has to show who i am and just be original and get her.

So, basically next time i have to try to escalate. Keeping it funny and look for iois, but not letting her know anything yet? right? No flirting, no anything?
Until theres obvious iois and then tell her something and showing her interest?

Also, more topics to talk about on the 2nd date? I think thats my weakest point. Make her talk. Already asked her almost everything about her. Any other ideas. I hate those silence weird moments.

Thanks a lot *traveler, Ill keep updating it. Ill do my best.


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