| Hi, I'm new here.
Last summer I was into a girl from my university. She'd been part of one of my groups of friends during the first year, during which she was in a long term relationship. She broke up with her boyfriend at the end of the first year, then we both went home for the summer. We both came back for second year a month earlier than most people, but she was only going to be back for a couple of months before going away for the next six months. During those few weeks we got a lot closer, texting constantly, spending a lot of time together, and we kissed a few times, but she told me she didn't know what she wanted, making excuses about going away for most of the year and it being too soon since her last boyfriend. I decided to make sure I found out where I stood before she left, but then one day, a week before she left, I was walking through town and I saw her hand in hand with another guy, who she then kissed. I decided to bump into them, to see how she reacted. When we bumped into each other she wasn't holding his hand anymore. We had an awkward, two minute conversation, then went our separate ways. She didn't introduce the guy she was with, so I introduced myself to him, acting friendly, but didn't ask if he was her boyfriend. As far as she knew I never saw them hold hands or kiss. Fifteen minutes later she sent me a text apologising for being quiet when we saw each other and making an excuse, but didn't mention the guy. I didn't reply.
That night I found out that the guy was from her hometown, and that they'd been together for two months already, but that almost nobody knew about it yet. I decided to end all effort with her immediately. She only contacted me once, two weeks later, on Facebook chat, where we had a five minute conversation. I was friendly, but tried to seem disinterested, then made up that I had something to do and said goodbye. That was seven months ago. She's been in a relationship with the guy I saw her with since then.
Today I received a message from her on Facebook, the first contact we've had in seven months. She's back at university after her six months away. Her message is friendly, and she seems to be acting as though nothing happened, and as though it's completely normal for us to not contact one another for so long. I haven't replied yet, but will do during the next few days.
I don't want to be this girl's friend, or waste effort on her, but I also don't want to come across as bitter, or give her the impression that I'm not over her/still interested in her. There's also a bit of me that, if and when I reply, wants to make a mention of what happened back then, just to let her know that treating me that way wasn't cool, but I feel like that would be hard to do without coming across as bitter. Is the fact that she left me alone for all these months a sign that she knows she was in the wrong?
Has anyone got any good advice on how to respond to this one?
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