So I met this girl last Saturday at a club, she ended up coming home with me, but didn't sleep with her because she's "not that type of girl" she said. But she did say she wanted to get to know me better or whatever, and wanted to go out again. Plus her best friend really liked me, and wanted me and her to get together. So she leaves around 1pm the next day, asking me to come have tea with her and maybe dinner, but I had to pass because of final exam week and I had to study.

We text lightly until our next date, which was the following Tuesday, we went to a comedy club, which she really liked, then had some drinks at the bar nearby. I thought the date was going really well, so I invited her to a concert I was going to in a nearby town like 2 hours from here the next weekend. In hindsight, I felt like I was way too eager, I should have waited...but I did it, what can you do haha. after a couple more drinks she cut the date early because she had work the next day. We make out while waiting for her taxi to come. She texts me saying that she had a good time, etc that night.

Then the following day on Wednesday, i text her, she replies once, then I text her again then.... nothing. Today, which is Thursday, I text her again, just a simple, hey, how was your day? and still nothing. I still have a reason to contact her again cuz she has my favourite sweater (damn it) and some slippers my mom got me when she first came over.

Her phone is literally falling apart so it could be that reason she's not replying. But more likely, I'm thinking she's not into me anymore because I think I came off a bit too eager on my date with her. Usually what I would do, is wait like a week or two to get in touch with her again, to try to reconnect from scratch. So she'll forget that whole part of me. But the thing is I leave the country for a 2 month vacation in 10 days, so I won't be able to restart with her properly.

I want to maximise my chances with her and at the same time get my stuff back. lol. should I try to contact her before my vacation and try to get her to come go out to the concert with me, and get my stuff then? Or should I just text her something like, i'm off on my trip, i'll see you in a couple months, and reconnect with her and get my stuff back after my vacation? Normally I'd do the second, but I don't want to lose my sweater also. It was kind of expensive and i love it.
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You fucked up by buying into her "not that type of girl" frame. She probably wanted you to make some tight moves, but you turned out to be a pussy and blew yourself out. (I assume you were making out before you went home with her).

Now you're rationalizing your failure (her phone is literally falling apart.. yeah ok) and coming up with weird schemes (wait a week or two).

You're a MAN. Call her in a day; if she doesn't pick up, text her and address her not replying directly; be polite but firm. She has your shit; she's being very rude by ignoring you. I'd just say, "Hey girl, I want my stuff back. When can we make it happen?"

Also, why are you asking these bullshit questions like "how was your day?" THIS is why you didn't get laid to begin with. You're hiding your intentions and girls don't like that, they want strong men who are direct and can lead.

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Actually it turns out she left her phone at work, and we talked on the phone yesterday. I invited her out with my friends next week after my last final exam, and she said she agreed. She's bringing her best friend with her, which will be cool for my guy friends.

I feel like I need to bump up the attraction bit because I don't want to slip into the friend zone with us all going out as a group. I can build attraction in person, but I don't know how to build it up via phone or text.

I was thinking of asking her out to dinner like next week, but it'll be for dinner only, and maybe a short walk by the river, because I have a monster exam coming up. Will such a short date be worth it?