Here's my deal. A girl I used to date came back into my life. She has a boyfriend right now, but has not really mentioned him around me. Through the grapevine I have gathered that they are pretty serious. She hugs me, touches me, playfully hits me, blah blah blah......

I feel like she wants it, but at the same time, she might see me as a purely platonic friend. I really don't know, and I would never just ask that question. She is making plans for us to go camping, it would be as a group but her boyfriend would assuredly not be going. Her words were 'We should go this summer, get drunk.' Looking at this on the surface, it seems like she wants to hang out with me in a tent, with the juice that allows women to make bad decisions and blame it on their altered state of mind the next day, but alas I do not know.

Obviously she thought I was attractive enough to want to date me previously. She tells me I'm really funny and all that other stupid shit, so I conclude that she likes me as a person. When I add it all up I think she's into me. But the fact that she is really into her BF really makes me doubt myself. Now that she is back in my life I'd hate to mess things up, but I also want to be with her on a more intimate level.

What am I supposed to do? Please no answers like, 'Dude she's playing you, tell her to fuck off' or 'Man you gotta get over that shit.' I do have a case of oneitis, as I believe you guys call it, but telling me so isn't going to help. Any helpful advice will be appreciated.

I hate to be that guy...

But why do you even ask fucking questions when at the end you are basically looking for selective answers?

The real answer is seriously just this: Man you gotta get over that shit.

And no she is not playing you. She is literally saying lets go over summer and get fucking WASTED. Most girls do this with their male friends, if its just you and her maybe there's something more to it....but if you feel like she is trying to get wasted enough so she can blame alcohol to get with your royal highness...you are kidding yourself.

We have to realize we are not fucking special. Boyfriends are not fucking special. But realistically, she has invested time in him. Maybe she will have sex with you, but you could be the biggest douchebag for trying or anything in her eyes.

In any case, you can always blame alcohol....I'd try to have sex with her, and if she said no, I'd blame the alcohol.

I would agree with you about most girls do like to get wasted with their guy friends, but I wouldn't exactly classify myself as her guy friend. Remember, we were together before, but she went away to college and got a new boyfriend. There is history between us, and if she understood how a guy's mind works, she wouldn't just treat me like any old friend. She knows I want to get with her. Talking about how we need to hang out more, get drunk, and all that shit.....I just don't know what the fuck to think.

Hey...sexually escalate, if not - blame alcohol.

That's my plan, but at the same time, I don't want to lose her in my life. As gay as that sounds it's the truth of it. If she's drunk, I have a pretty good feeling that it would happen, but I don't know how it would go over the next day.

Well it's up to you in the end. Personally, I am in the same boat as you. In my case, I have decided it would be better to friend her because I value our friendship. Instead, I chose to perfect my game and build value and if it we end up hooking up naturally, then so be it.

Yeah that's the bitch of it no? These women don't realize what they do to us. It would probably be better for me to try and find a different girl, but in my case that's a lot easier said than done.

cool thing is you can keep her in your life until you are ready, but at the same time gaming multiple chicks. Building yourself will be more beneficial in the long run. At least that is how I understand my own decision.

Who knows! she probably doesnt even know herself

if she wants to go camping use it as an opp to get her invested in u

dont get too attached to outcome just spend time see where it goes without pressuring her

in mean time game other girls if u dont ur gonna fuck up