Hello guys,

Im relatively new to the PUA community (5 months) and this is my first post. I really need help on this one...

Since i discovered the community, i've been able to meet many women, many of them quite interesting. It's been a great time however, lately I seem to come to a wall and can't get past it. The million dollar question (at least for me) is the following:

What do you do when you get along very well with someone but she tells you something along the lines of "i'm always up for meeting interesting people and making new friends, but at the moment i'm not interested in any kind of amorous adventures or anything alike"

Let me give you a bit of background on this one....

On two separate nights out, I met two girls with whom I had a very good connection at first, we exchanged numbers, and kept Texting for the next week or so.

The first girl told me after a while that she thought I was a funny guy and all, but she was not interested in men at the moment (notice she didn't say a relationship or anything of the sort). After all the effort I had put in, i was pretty frustrated and i told her "I understand, perhaps it's the wrong time, but if in the future something changes and if i'm still around, maybe we could get together for a drink"


The second girl has been writing me on facebook and I had asked her out for drinks. Today she just gave me that exact same crap line: ""i'm always up for meeting interesting people and making new friends, but at the moment i'm not interested in any kind of amorous adventures or anything alike".

She then told me that if that was ok with me, we could still meet up for drinks.

What do I do? What should I write back, do, or say to change her opinion? Is it even possible to change her opinion? Is she a lesbian?

HELP PLEASE!

Cheers,
Mug.

it's simple man, you are just thinking and going about this all wrong,

instead of trying to get her approval, or doing your best to do something so she likes you or she is convinced you are who she should be with, just stop

stop seeking her approval, instead of trying to be what she wants, figure out if she is what you want (and to do this you have to know what you want), then just be honest when you have come to that conclusion then go for what you want, you either both have a mutual acceptance that you both want the same thing, or you both just go your separate ways and you look for it somewhere else

but all in all, the best way to find out if a girl wants to have sex with you, is simply, try to have sex with her, don't wait for some perfect moment of her acceptance, the moment where she says OMG I LOVE YOU!! then hops on your dick (this sort of thing is unrealistic and anything similar is very rare), just make the moment happen, build some compliance and lead things to the proper logistics, hold her hand, look her in the eyes, if you got no resistance keep moving things forward, don't ask for permission just do what you want and she will stop you if she doesn't want the same thing, if you need permission, you will almost surely never get it (and when you do it is likely you will have to wait an unreasonable amount of time)

Desperation wreaks in this post. Please read more inner-game topics.

It is VITAL.