My friend and I are unfortunately under 21, so we have to go to clubs. After opening at the clubs, we were having a real hard time because it seemed like everyone was there to dance and didn't want to really talk. The ones we did open up, we lost their attention because the dancing and music was so loud and distracting and we were running out of things to say. Can someone please give us some help?

_________________
Al-Capone

It's not hard to open in a club. Now there are lots of distractions like: people talking, club music, lights flashing, hot bartenders, people dancing, fighting, drinking, etc. That is all fine and good and you'll get use to that pretty fast. Basically get closer with you open, talk louder, and don't lean in.

All those people who came out didn't just come out to dance...they can do that at home. They didn't come out to drink either...they can do that at home too. They also didn't come out to be with their friends...they can also do that at home. They came out to be around other people and be social.

They are there to be talked to and "hang out" it could just be your material is coming off a little strong or not genuine yet. People have pretty good antennas for knowing when something seems "off" so if you aren't well practiced on your material where it comes out like you've told the story a million times, that could be scaring them off. It could also be your confidence you are approaching with as well, or your body language.

Without us being there in field with you its hard to say. Remember don't put too much pressure on yourself. You are there to HAVE FUN above all else. If you so happen to talk to a few people then great. If you get one of their phone numbers or get a kiss great. But you aren't there for that you are there to HAVE FUN. If you stop making it so important to talk to people and relax you will do so much better!

Jon

_________________
Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Yeah you should definitly put 'have fun' on number 1, because if you're having fun they'll notice it & who doesn't want to talk & be around fun people?

A lot of good advice has been said already, but if they don't feel like talking at the moment (maybe they just LOVE to dance?), why don't you dance with 'em?

This is good advice. I've been trying pick ups in clubs for a while now, and I'm starting to get very good. Trying to have a conversation in a club never works, it's too loud. Girls are there to dance, so have a dance with them, I usually just walk up and say "Hi, whats your name?" If she asks for yours back it's a good sign. Have a tiny bit of small talk then just hold her hand and dance with her and her friends in the circle. Don't try and dirty dance or pull her out or the circle yet. Wait for a few songs. Go for the dirty dance. Then pull her out of the circle and dance facing her. Remember friends are massive cock blocks, unless you have wing men to distract them they are in my experience a bad time.

Or unless you know how to befriend them in the first place so that they don't end up cock blocking you... There are lots of ways to handle obstacles.

Also "trying to have a conversation in a club never works, it's too loud" is not correct. I have had tons and tons of conversations with beautiful women by the DJ, dance floor, at the bar, VIP, etc. for hours on end until I bounced them to my place. The noise is not your problem. Capturing her attention is...

I hear all the time people bitching about how loud it is in the clubs... Guess what... the louder the club typically the hotter the girls. There are lots of ways to open using verbal openers and non-verbal openers to go from there into conversation. It can be done!

_________________
Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

You can have a good conversation in a club. But more at the less louder parts of the club. At the loud parts having a good convo is rare. Loud music kills the topic because you just end up asking ''what?''.

Befriending her friends in not as easy as u make it seem. IN a loud club and lets say you are in a loud club you can come with a group opener and milk it a bit but thats it mostly. Otherwise you are screaming towards them all the time while half of them does not hear you. SO in that case u have to talk to each of them ''one on one''. Keep in mind with that the low attention span of girls in a club.