Hey guys

Im 23 and im really looking to take my game to the next level and start making some serious progress in the field.

Thing is, before I knew anything about this parallel Dimension called the PUA Community, I already had a steady girlfriend and we've been together for about 5 years (since we were both 18).I'd say she ranks at about a 8 (would be a 9 but she has small boobs) but I have the feeling I deserve higher in the looks department and I know thats a douchy statement but I cant help it.

Now I know if I was single I'd have more time to be out in the field, and there would be no guilt about running dozens of sets, but what sucks is that she is really awesome and She hasnt ever done anything that deserves me leaving her and also i have a hard time imagining being without her and I get the feeling I'd be like a dope feind in Detox and that she would be even worse.

I am fully aware of the Pussyness of this post, and feel free to shit on me cause I totally deserve it, But when ur done does anyone have any advice??

I meant to say since we were both *18* not smily face with shades on

Wow...

um...that's tough. I'll tell you I still game even if I have a girlfriend...but if I'm really into her I don't think about leaving her for someone else...just keeping my options open.

You said your problem is time...maybe you should just do it and kind of have her less involved in your life somehow.

I've known a lot of good people in a relationship that was very long term...and then when they break up, they're in the shit confidence wise and all this nonsense. I'm guessing thats you from your pic...you look pretty fit and confident and most of my friends also are of your body level, etc.

I think it may be worth..exploring other options. Maybe you do deserve better...it is...in all reality not too douchey....and kind of douchey. But I know what you truly mean..it's almost kind of this primal thing...I'm not going to say I never thought these things even with a great girl..

But let me tell you: great girls with good looks are hard to find.

Good luck

-Captain Jack Harkness

I was in that situation with my ex, I discovered 'the game' midway through our relationship, although in a less 'positive' context than your situation.

If you're gaming in secret, or feeling guilty, that will only lead to problems, either for your own sense of self-congruence as a man or eventually she will start to figure out that something isn't right between you.

I'd try and detach from your emotions as much as possible here and logically analyse if you would be happier with or without her. Picture your life in both scenarios and see which you feel best in.

And don't worry about this too much. She's only one girl, you're young. If you fuck this up then it's really not the end of the world mate

Dude, this all depends upon how you feel about your relationship with her. Forget about what you deserve or not for a second. How does she make you feel?

I for example, don't think I would game anyone if I had a girlfriend and I would continuously just focus on my relationship with her, because I develop feelings for a girl quite quick. if I wouldn't care about her, I could probably talk to other girls. But I'm not like that. Are you?

Sure, keep your options open, but I think you must ask yourself this first. How you feel about her, and what is more important to you: progressing in your "game", or her, and it should be straightforward from then on.

She cooks, she cleans, she buys me all types of stuff and suprises me with the occasional morning BJ and she is pretty sane for a woman. But i still get the feeling that I would be wasting my youth if I wasnt trying to bang as many members of the female species as humanly possible.

So I think the best thing is to keep my options open like yall said, atleast until further notice

thanks fellas, Really appreciate the advice

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Let's be clear. Oneitis is the term for when a guy is head over heels for a woman who has no interest in him. He wastes time and energy attempting to woo a girl who will never sleep with him, but he refuses to accept that and move on. You have a woman who loves you. Pickup is not about trying to live the rockstar life. There are plenty of guys on this forum who use it to maintain healthy relationships.

As weird as it may be to read here, life is not about how many women you bang. If you are happy, enjoy it. The old addage about the grass being greener holds here. There are guys who fuck every women they can and wish they had a deeper connection, and there are guys like you in healthy, happy relationships who wonder what they could have done while single. Being with a woman isn't bad on principle, so if you are happy, don't doubt it because you ASSUME the alternative is better.

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ten-four DJ_Z, and Thanks for the correction on the Oneitis. dont get me wrong I totally realize how lucky I am to be in a good relationship and I am grateful. And you're right, there is a ''grass is always greener'' thing going on here, but I think its more like I dont want to look back when Im older and regret not having spent some time exploring the world of the Womanizer, kinda in the same way one might regret not taking time to travel or read, does that make sense?

Sounds to me like at some point in the future being single is something you might want to go through but perhaps wait until you have a better reason to end your relationship?

It just comes down to if being a player or staying in the relationship will make you happier currently. One thing I'd add is that a good relationship is hard to find but you can womanise at any point in your life more or less.

Sounds to me like at some point in the future being single is something you might want to go through but perhaps wait until you have a better reason to end your relationship?

It just comes down to if being a player or staying in the relationship will make you happier currently. One thing I'd add is that a good relationship is hard to find but you can womanise at any point in your life more or less.

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