Yo. So i've had an open relationship with this chick for some time now, hooking up for weekends, we got emotionaly closer together with time, on friday and saturday she even overslept at my place.

She really has a good game, but i was usually able to read her quite well. Now i hooked up with some other chick few weeks ago, genuienuly told her about it and seems like it didn't bother her too much.

So like i said lately, i thought we're getting really emotionaly closer, she was taking more initiative for kissing me, she acted like my gf in front of her friends even (kissing me holding me for hands etc.).

So after she left my place on sunday(she went on holiday with her family), i kept small texting with her (like 3 texts per day).

Now the last reply i got, really surprised me so here's some of the convo:

Me: We're having a 1st may celebration here, you got something similar down there?
going out with my mates so catchya :*
Her: Lucky you, I'm stuck forever alone here with only grandmothers so no party for me tonight.
Me(Next day at noon): Beachvolley, lake, good food, music, sun and fun people. Beat that!
Her:I'm not jealous because I've found some cool peaople too. Probably going partying out tonight. P.S. have fun, find yourself a hot chick and make rollercoasters with her mouth. )

Now like i said from her behaviour lately i really thought we're getting close (really acting like i'm her bf in front of her close friends is something i'm not used to when only hooking up with one, waking up with me and cuddling before leaving etc.) Can't see what she wants to say with that P.S. part honestly, is she trying to get back at me for hooking up with that other chick by implying she's gonna hook up today so i should too? I really can't read this one -.-

Any opinions?

Also should i even reply to this, i plan to ignore it since i'm going on holidays tommorow anyway and just call her to meet up next week. Thanks in advance.

Its a shit test. The right answer is to spark interest without being a pussy.
You wanna give her some reassurance that theres something between you but not giving her power.


I would drop this:

"Never a dull moment. Let me know when you get back "

If she doesn't msg you as soon as shes back. Play it cool, msg her a little afterwards. Don't over DHV with what you did and blah blah blah. She doesn't seem like that type where that matter.


If she does msg when she gets back, set up a date.

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Woman-speake.

It's a compliance bait. She's actually saying don't do it for her to gauge your interest in her. This compliance baiting is a woman's way to know where she is in your relationship. She wants to know how much you value her and how much control she already has in your open relationship. Based on your information, she wants to know if you're ready to go exclusive with her.

HawksterG has good advice if you want to maintain the open relationship. The downside is that your HB might find that she can't win you over and move on to other relationships.

Another way is to lure her and make her think she is winning you over and then hold back in giving the prize that she's hoping for so she'll be the first to reveal her desire for going exclusive. Bait her with something like, "I'm currently not in the mood for other hot chicks at the moment. Enjoy your party."

Afterwards, she'll try to test you to comply to something small like buying her some chocolates or something. Set your terms then comply according to your terms. This will be followed with a bigger compliance test. Deny compliance in a subtle way to bait her to chase after getting two modified compliance from your end. She'll think she's winning you over but has to work harder to get what she wants.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Thank you for both replies.
Txted her something like:
Always up for party!... hit me up sometime next week, bye

Will just wait till next week now as i'm leaving country tommorow anyway.

On a side note, any good tips on distracting myself, she totaly fucked up my mind lately, can't stop thinking of her I'm afraid i'll fuck up my gaming attitude ?