| You are a salesman. You are in sales.
Be interested, not interesting. This is very hard for me as well. I have a wealth of stories, but the other person is interested in hearing themselves, not you. Even in platonic relationships.
I like to compliment the woman, or pick up on something in her body language, friends, ambiance of the place you are at, something in her purse, etc. and ask her about it, and let them talk.
If they are not talkative or give one word answers, try to get them to open up, if they continue after a few more questions without loosening up, excuse yourself and move on.
Corny lines break the ice, some women hate lines altogether, what you need is the second wave of conversation.
So what do you do?
Do you live close by?
Always find out if they are alone, with friend or other
If they are prissy, talk about expensive things or places, if they are tomboy talk about down to earth things. Remember, you want them to talk and then you agree with whatever they say...
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