so im currently in panama working for 8 weeks or so and i met this amazing girl the other night,specifically friday night. long story short we had great chemistry and ended up hooking up that night,i only had one condom on me and when i finished using it although it sucked thatwe coudnt go at it again she was understanding about the fact that i was going to have sex with her without a condom

the next night came along(last night) we had yet another great night out and all,ended up at her friend's house and when we were about to get into it,she asked me to have sex without a condom

i simply said NO and that was it
she replied by asking if i though she had some sort of disease or something,
i said no (i mean it cause i woudnt mess with a girl that would even come across potentially dirty) and before i could get into any sort of explanation we got into it

i feel bad cause i dont want her feeling like im just using her or anything cause i legit like this girl so how do you guys think i should approach the situation if at all?

just say you aren't ready for kids and don't want to take unnecessary risks

never let anyone goad you into unprotected sex, it's your life your choice. Any woman worth having around would respect you more for being 1) honest and 2) responsible.

Dude, you passed a huge compliance test. You showed LMR. Realistically its supposed to be from the girl, but since you showed it, you had DHV yourself. I understand you reallly like this girl and are not using her for anything. Just don't think about this, and try to have sex with her again, with condom. If she still say no, then just tell her this won't work out. You don't want any kids. Period. She wants to feel a fleshy penis inside her, but as they say, prevention is better than cure. Who is going to provide for this baby, you? If not, then just tell her NO again. You are a man, and you have demonstrated that. Good job man. Keep this up.

thanks a lot guys,this actually makes me feel a lot better about my decision,
im actually seeing her again tonight with her friends and will adress the subject to just be honest about the whole thing cause i dont need any elephants in the room especially since i only have the week with her cause im going back to toronto this friday

she did mention how tonight she wasnt driving and that she was looking to make it an early night cause shes tired aka no sex tonight,im hoping theres no connection between that statement and the whole sex thing last night but im my plan of action is to just go with it and see where it progresses i guess

what do you guys think?

I'd leave it unless she brings it up again. Remember, things are only as big a deal as you make them out to be.

do not bring this sex thing up yourself. it will make you look like a needy person, and she will get turned off automatically. just leave it until you 2 have sex, and then put your condom on, and have sex with her. if she insists and then have the talk.

update:

so i took you guys' advice and didnt mention the subject,last night we did not have sex but was still a 5am type of night

i went out with her and her friends to a club which consisted of the 2 of us,her gay best friend and the guy his dating, her best friend's cousin(female) and 2 other girls

everything was great between us for the most part,then there was a point where she asked me if i would mind if she dances with her gay best friend and his boyfriend, i said no problem have fun, so she does her thing and the night proceeds normally

later on she starts dancing with the best friend again and i happen to be close to her best friend's cousin so me and her dance together for like 10 seconds

i dont think she liked that very much

she started acting a bit strange after that so i just straight up asked her if she minded i did that,
she said she didnt exactly like it
i understood considering it was her best friend's little cousin i said i woudnt do it again because i legitametly like this girl

the weird act continues......

at the end of the night as we were leaving i aain confronted her since im not a fan of stupid (im mad but wont tell you games)she said yes she felt weird,i asked if it had anything to do with me and she finally said yes

she said that she was falling for me faster then she was comfortable with,if i wanted to do something with other girls then i should and she shoudnt be the reason why i dont, and that she is afraid that ive been putting up an act and that the person she has come to know is all fake and am doing this just for a panamanian pass time chick.

ive been in a similar situation before so i responded with
its your choice whether you think im being fake with you or not
i dont want to be with another girl because i really like you
and finally if your scared of getting hurt since I AM leaving and would like to end all of this right now then i respect that because i care about how you feel

before i kissed her good night because we were on a time restraint we agreed to see each today whenever both of us wake up and talk about it eventhough i feel like i left the ball the court on her court anyways lol

sorry for the long post but so far ive been getting amazing feedback from you guys and would love to hear more

Yes. Keep this up. Keep denying sex. Why? Because you are constantly DHV'ing by her wanting sex and you saying no. You are the man, you are in control.

SMH.

You got this bro. You did everything on point from what I can read. I would have handled the dancing situation differently but other than that you did fine.

You sound like your trying to have a long distance relationship though, is that what you want?

Yeah dude, don't let anyone tell you otherwise: nothing wrong with playing it safe, it's smart to play it safe, and it might even be high value to put up obstacles instead of jumping through every girl's hoops.