I'm miserable. My whole life I've been automatically filtered out by every girl I've been interested in. Whenever I try to act confident I end up acting awkward, I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend. Whenever I try to flirt with girls at the mall they always act cold towards me as if they really don't want to talk to me. I've read up, watched, and did everything that I could do to learn how to become a pickup artist but I guess I just keep constantly failing. Thanks in advance I guess.

there are no magical things to say, or monumental switch that goes off in your head that suddenly turns the pimp mode on

getting better with girls, is like getting better at anything else, it takes work and discipline

you have to become attractive in general, learning some conversation skills and developing the confidence to use them well, is just a peice to the puzzle of what makes your attractive

you have to put together the whole puzzle as best you can, making yourself as attractive as possible, overall

this will not happen over night, and it is not about what you say, it is about who you are, take a step back and review yourself, there are probably things about yourself you find unattractive and things you find attractive, try to improve and strengthen the weak points, and showcase and maintain your strengths

just have to keep at it, work hard, and eventually you will see results based on the effort you have put in

But I mean I don't know where to start on becoming attractive.

What pumpington said it's like getting better at anything else.
Start with yourself, what you want to be and what you want to do and become that!
And take it step by step, do not expect too high results immediately. Go out and try stuff see what works for you and what doesn't, learn from your mistakes and improve. And keep in mind, rejection is a good thing

style, grooming, income, quality of life, physical fitness, social skills, amount of people you know and have contact with

I suggest you choose one or two that you believe are an area of weakness for you and try to strengthen them

if you simply don't have any girls that talk to you, make an effort to meet girls, no matter what situation you are in, just about any guy can make 10 friends, doesn't have to lead to more, but at least you can actually surround yourself with women and get comfortable communicating and connecting with them

if you are socially awkward or have trouble reading social cues, there is no telling how long it will take you to improve, or at what rate, or even a way to explain in detail how to have social intelligence (in my opinion), you have to just submerge yourself in social settings and start socializing more often, a persons personal developement will be subjective from person to person

if the problem is not stemming from a lack of options to communicate with, but rather every single option turns into LJBF, or shows dis-interest in investing in you in any way shape or form, then there is a good chance you are lacking in the looks/grooming/style portion, you can't really do much with your genetic looks besides surgery, but you can do your best, and committing to the gym if you are out of shape in one or two years will go a seriously long way (if you are actually committed and diet)

for income, I can't really help you in this department as this is something I myself have only recently started to look towards developing

the more you put effort into developing new skills, the more confident in those skills you will become, the wider the range of experiences and skillsets you posses, the more confident in yourself you will become, just put an effort into improving yourself in general

TL:DR go talk to 5 new girls a day for the next 2 months, request a phone number from every one of these new girls you talk to, just work on it until it becomes a reflex, not even to ''get the girl'' just to develope the courage to not care to ask any girl, any time

also get a gym membership, and start working out, that should give you a solid base to work up from

Okay, I'll do it starting on thursday since I don't have class that day. I tried doing that newbie mission but when I went all the girls were either waay too young, they were with parents or they had a boyfriend with them. I suppose I can try to go to a different mall or something. Thanks this is really, really good advice.

Okay, I'll do it starting on thursday since I don't have class that day. I tried doing that newbie mission but when I went all the girls were either waay too young, they were with parents or they had a boyfriend with them. I suppose I can try to go to a different mall or something. Thanks this is really, really good advice.