I never have. I’ve always believed it will break up families, it will ruin my reputation, and it’s just wrong morally. Am I overreacting? Is it something that everyone does and in most cases isn’t that big of a deal? Over the last year I’ve been wondering if I’m just naïve. I’m the high value guy at work. Lots of HOT married women flirt with me, come up with reasons to stop by my office, sometimes mention that they’re unhappy, one invited me to her dance class (while her husband and the kids were out of town at his parents)…I didn’t go. Many married women don’t send me any signals but many do. I think some just want a little harmless flirting, some want something more, and some are conflicted like me.

Nothing has happened yet. They’re not going to just come out and say they want to cheat with me and it’s a big risk for me to make a move too. If I judge it wrong and get rejected, I could be labeled as the guy at work that’s trying to break up marriages and families (which I don't want to do).

I’m still conflicted morally anyway. What do you think?

By the way, I’ve also noticed the same behavior with many engaged women.

I would. If they are the kind of girl that will cheat on their husdand/fiancee than they are going to do it with someone else anyway. It may aswell be you

There are plenty of single women. I think fucking with married women stems from a scarcity mentality. i.e. unsatisfied married women are easy targets because you only have to be better than her chode husband. If the same woman wasn’t married, you would have to compete with all the other guys trying to fuck/date her which would be a more difficult task. In my situation (and many others) it also stems from laziness. I see these women at work every day. I already know them. The opportunity is right in front of me. Spending the time to go out and find quality single women would take more time and effort.

Also, just because the husband is a chode doesn’t make it right. They probably got together when the community was in its infancy and he doesn’t even know about the community. Just cause we are privileged enough to have learned advanced seductive skills, doesn’t mean we should go around breaking up marriages and families with our skills. With great power comes great responsibility. If he’s a douche who is already cheating on her, well I’ll admit I’ll consider it more…but that’s still coming from laziness and a mentality of scarcity. It still would be better if I just put forth more effort into finding quality SINGLE women.

Gaming women in relationships and marriages is actually a hell of a lot harder than gaming single women. Think about it

In reality, those engaged women/married women are doing it because in reality they do want someone to maybe expose their slut factor to...it's just in a woman's nature. Nothing wrong with it.

The myth of purity is BS.

In any case, they may fuck you - but it's doubtful you'll end up with them. Not sure if you would fuck them, but really it's just a fuck. You are giving yourself way too much credit if you think they'll break off a marriage (unless its really shit) let alone an engagement to be with YOU (no offense).

You are not special. Most 3rd wheels aren't.

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Imho, women in relationships are another thing, though.

If they have children, then no I won't, I wouldn't wish risking a brief fling being discovered by the husband and the marriage falling apart. It can have a hugely detrimental effect on the emotional well-being of children to grow up in a broken home, and risking that happening just for some pussy is utterly reprehensible to me.

Obviously, that's the worst case scenario, but it's always a possibility.

That it breaks up families is a myth. It depends on how you do it. If she is bored and wants out and you offer her an alternative and then breaks it, yes you break up the family.

If she is bored with her sexlife and her not getting what she wants makes her short tempered with her husband and puts a lot of stress on the relationship, and you provide something she isnt getting without promising anythign. You may save her marrige.

Yes oh, Im so bad and crap. Sure Im bad. But wait, maybe Im right. Maybe some people just needs more than one partner and CAN tell the difference between sex and love. Morale depends on the situation, whats right for one person isnt right for everyone!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

actually I've slept with a woman who was in process of divorce. so I am not sure if that would be YES or NO in this poll.

but some women do want to have one night stand even if they're married no string attached, same for girls with bf

if i was on holiday or something i may think about fucking one but generally no, a married woman cheating is a slut in my eyes and must be treated as such, i.e. worth a bang but nothing more

I strongly dislike the term slut. It stems from a patriarchal (however you spell it) hierarchy where men rule and women are ruled. Cheating is bad, yes we all get that. But if the husband agrees and accepts, it isnt cheating. There are a few other cases where "cheating" is ok. So what is a slut? Someone who does something that you dont like? Someone who abuses trust? A liar?

Everybody has the right to do as they please with their bodies and everybody has the right to their own sexuality as long as it doesnt hurt anyone.

Not long ago homosexuality was considered a disease and in some countries bondage still is. Terming someone a slut isnt far from that.

We are living in the modern world. We are above namecalling and we are smart enough to see that "slut" is just a general word for people who are 1. Girls 2. Not giving us what we want exclusively. And it is used in order to create a "sub-human creature" that it is ok to hate so that we wont have to understand it.

How is this for a thought? If people started trying to understand each other, there would be less hate going around. It isnt very dificult, just uncomfortable because suddenly you have to care.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

a slut to me is a woman that opens her legs easily.

a key that opens many locks is a master key, a lock that is opened by many keys is a shit lock

That isnt making your opinion look any better. In fact I think it is even worse. That attitude will get you into trouble someday.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

its stopped me getting into relationships with women half my home-town have been through, women like that do nothing for me i dont care how hot or anything else she is, if a woman wont respect herself then i defineately wont

So you think men has a right to sleep around but women dont?

Welcome to the modern world. Feel free to join us anytime.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn