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PostPosted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 7:36 am 
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Hi guys,
I am feeling awful and I think I have some personality issues.I was wondering what would you do in my situation
So here is the story:
My first date with a hb8 was great and she wanted to have a second date for today.
I called two days ago and we agreed that I would call her today to let her know the place to meet at 8pm.
Text :@5:40pm - HB: where are we meeting at 8 cutie?
I called her around 6:05 pm to let her know. No answer.
Text: @6:30 pm- Me:hey,call me for our meeting tonight.
Text: @7:00 pm -Hb:ok.I am out with a couple coworkers. I'll call u in 5 mins.
I waited for 15 min no calls.I thought it's done and went for a shower.
After shower,I realized she called me @7:30 pm and asked where we should meet and also she texted: @ 7:35-Hb:"Just called .Let me know where."
I was kinda pissed off.Since she called me half an hour before our date.Honestly,I was turned off at that point.Anyway I called her @8:05pm no answer and told her I already ate my dinner but we can have a drink also text ed her @ 8:20 pm.
So I feel awful now since same story happened for me before and I think I am doing something wrong that it happens over and over. Guys what would you do in my situation? Was it my fault? where did I go wrong?


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Keep your expectations in check. She's not obligated to you in any way, so dispsense with the sense of entitlement.

You need to be less reactive and more chill, stop personalizing things she hardly knows you and the fact is you'll have to do a lot of the grunt work in the beginning to get her invested. Your response should have been "no worries, see you in half hour!"


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PostPosted: Thu Apr 26, 2012 10:33 pm 
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Maybe I was not chill enough. But it was impossible for me to meet her in half an hour. It could also lowering my value (by showing neediness)
Isn't that right?
Also, is it done or is it possible to recovery from current situation?


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PostPosted: Fri Apr 27, 2012 12:28 am 
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I don't think so, nothing indicates that she did not want to meet you, she texted, called you etc.

She even initiated and asked "where are we meeting at 8?" and you said you will tell her the place - after that you both know that you are going to meet so she just assumed its on.

In my eyes it only indicates that she is not as organized person as you when it comes to plalling your schedule.


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How did this come down to matters of right and wrong?

You just didn't get to her in time, its cool man.. Just call her another day, it'll go smoothly.

Always expect the girl to show up though, so be prepared. Why wouldn't she call? You are an awesome guy!

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Hey brother,

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For now go to the youtube channel and check out the powerful videos he has up. Here is a good one he recently did.



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PostPosted: Sat Apr 28, 2012 2:28 am 
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Thank you guys for your helps.
I text her again today and asked how she is doing and no response.
I think she thinks I flaked on her or something like that... Since she was really in to me.
well, it seems it's done as simple as this.


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Thank you guys for your helps.
I text her again today and asked how she is doing and no response.
I think she thinks I flaked on her or something like that... Since she was really in to me.
well, it seems it's done as simple as this.
Persistence is often what gets the girl. Don't give up so readily, but at the same time don't convey neediness. Send her another text in a few days some bs line like "OMG i just saw your twin!". If she hasn't written you off completely one of these days one of your texts will catch her on the up swing and you can take it from there.


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You acted like a spoiled kid. What else do you expect?
Well, you may right but where exactly I could have done better?
Honestly, I was not in a good mood(had a tough day) and she was not responsive and made my mood worse.
Also, is there anything I can do now? I was thinking of texting her like :
"hey XY, hope you are doing well.
I was not in my best mood the other day and we had some miscommunication. I hope it didn't make bad impression on you .... I just wanted to make sure you are doing well. have a nice day."
My English is not great. if you have a better suggestion please let me know. Since I know if I tell her the right thing I can get her back.


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Move on to the next one!


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You are a player, you are the man. You don't need to sit around worrying all day whether you did something wrong with the girl or how to get her to like you. Move on to the next one plain and simple. She missed out 8)


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Move on to the next one!

You are a player, you are the man. You don't need to sit around worrying all day whether you did something wrong with the girl or how to get her to like you. Move on to the next one plain and simple. She missed out
It was a real easy target and that's why I kinda underestimated her (which I always do in these situations).


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So guys, I texted her as I said above and she responded like "yeah I was little annoyed blah blah..."
So We agreed to see each other again later this week. But next time we'll see each other,I may look like a weak guy because of the text.Any advice?


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If you're thinking you may look like a weak guy cause of a text than you are in the wrong mindset. Just thinking those thoughts show massive signs of insecurity. You need to be confident in every aspect of your life. You are the man, you make the rules, not her. Get some balls dude :wink:


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Send yourself a text saying you are absalutly amazing!


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