So I met this girl at school she is 3 years older then me she was in my group, and we have been texting back and forth since school ended. I usually initiate text, but she does show interest when she responds. I think she knows I'm gaming her and she is gaming me as well. Taking a long time to answer texts, when I do, and answering quickly when I do. I invited her to hang out and play lazer tag and she said yeah and asked if she could bring her friend. I don't know her that well and I have met her friend before, and not sure what to think of the meetup. Keep in mind I have demonstrated lots of social value.

From my external observation of this situation I don't think she knows me well enough, and does not want to hang out one on one in case things get weird. Any suggestions how I should respond, and what I should do if we meetup?

I hate texting when it comes to gaming, simply because it's all too easy to lose meaning. Try saying things with varying emphasis combined with different facial expressions and body language in the mirror, and you'll get what I mean. Sounds weird, but try it. You'll understand a lot more about framing yourself and controlling your body, mind and speech (and why texting makes conveying your message more difficult).

I choose to use texting for meet-ups, planning, etc. That way, you can use your manners, be respectful (and playful) without it getting out of hand.

If you ARE going to text-game, then at least remember that you should ALWAYS have a GOAL in mind for the exchange. "I want to set up a coffee date with her." "I want her to come over and have sex." "I want her to know I'm thinking about her...sexually." And once you accomplish your goal, STOP. Overdoing the text thing is obnoxious and needy. I hate it when girls do it to me, and they hate it when I do it to them.

As for the meet-up and what to do...that, my friend, is a broad question.
My advice is to, you guessed it, have a goal. What is the ultimate goal for the night? kclose, fclose? Figure it out, because whatever you're aiming for should be on your mind constantly. Never lose sight of the main goal.

It's one thing if you're walking through the park, joking around, buy some ice cream and holding her hand, etc. That's fun time. But at the end of the night, make sure you're steering everything in a sexual direction. Look at her and picture yourself bending her over and making sweet, sweet, love to her. She'll pick up on that. Be close. Put your hands on her like a man is supposed to touch a woman. None of the playful taps on the knee, etc. Use confident, firm (but gentle) touches. Place your palms on her hips, stand with your face near hers, you get the picture. When it's time, lean into her for a long, hard, kiss. Then back up to see what you're working with.

I apologize for the lengthy post, but hopefully some of its been helpful. You can always PM me if you would like. I've got a lot of expansion on many of the mentioned topics.

Thanks for the fast reply!

I get what you are saying with the text thing, I was more using it to build comfort to a level where I could get her to go out and meet me. I will stop texting after I have met up with her outside of a school agenda. As for the touching thing, I am not really good with that type of stuff but I know it's really important at this stage so I will do my best. Any suggestions for escalating while her friend is with us?

My goal for this evening would probably just not to be friend zoned. I can aim higher for the second outing. I've read that its normal for a girl to want to get to know you before she actually commits to anything is this true? I think this applies more for shy girls as I am pretty sure she has never had a boyfriend.

Wait, you never mentioned that there was a friend going with you. That's a bad idea, but I mean, if you can't avoid it, you have to work with it or find an "out." Personally, I do NOT like having a 3rd wheel along or being the 3rd wheel, so I would get out of the situation.

However, if you do go anyway, make sure to try to isolate her at times. I often wait until moments when no one is looking (the thrill of the possibility you could get caught). Wait until the friend is off doing something or try to find a way to get her to come with you, alone, for a minute and promise her friend she'll be safe and that you'll be right back. You can say something to the effect of, "Hey, I actually just wanted to get you alone for a second." It's important that you think she's comfortable with you at this point and likes you, but this is a perfect time to lean in a little, wrap your hands around her waist, etc. Sometimes, you can even lean further in for a long, hard, kiss. Make it last a little bit and make it impressionable. NO tongue on the first kiss. She's sure to remember it and if she is uncomfortable she'll tell you "no." But hey, who knows if you never make a move. At least then she knows what you're after and not trying to be "just a friend." You are sexually available in her mind now.
I can't give you a blanket statement that says, "yes, all women will respond this way to this thing etc." It doesn't work that way, or there wouldn't be countless books on pick-up, RSD bootcamps or this forum! Haha. I'm not trying to be a dick, but that is a bad question. Some girls will be more willing to go along for the ride and others are apprehensive and don't want to take chances. All of them are crackable, but they aren't all the same brand of safe. And yes, she will be a little more nervous if she's not had experience with men, but don't let that stop you from being her first!

Keep in mind, I'm no expert, either. I just have a little more experience under my belt and have things to say. If you disagree with something, then discard it and learn from experience! FAIL FAIL FAIL! It's the best way to learn. Just go out and keep making things happen. If you fail, you don't have to see her again, but you've learned something!

Thanks for your advice. She said she was going to ask her friend to come, but her friend knows that we both like each other and jokes about it whenever were together. Her friend already likes me, so its just simply building comfort during this outing. I think I will save the more intimate stuff for when we do something by ourselves.
You are right though, fail, fail, and fail again.

That's a pussy's way out. You've been trying to build comfort by texting this whole time, when does the actual sex show up??

On the "date +1" TOUCH YOUR TARGET LIKE A GIRLFRIEND.

HOLD HER HAND.

PUT YOUR ARM AROUND HER.

If the friend jokes about you two flirting, RESPOND, "YEAH, SHE LOOKS CUTE, DOESN'T SHE?"

And then, at the end of the date, as a good-bye, YOU KISS HER. Even if her friend is there! KISS HER. Then say "I'll see you soon" and leave, and stop texting her so much.

You HAVE to kiss her. If you don't kiss her, I guarantee you will fail with this girl.

I personally love it when girls say they are going to bring a +1. Cause then this means one of my homies can get pussy too. Is the cup half empty or half full?

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Yes. THIS. You have to unashamedly own your actions and show what your intentions are. Forget about "avoiding awkward situations" and "being conscientious." It's only awkward and wrong if you feel like it is. I mean, it's not like you're bending her over on a park bench, you're just holding her hand, kissing her, etc. People do that shit in public all the time!
Damn good point. Invite one of YOUR friends along, too, if you think it's going to be a problem. Make it a win-win. That's some proactive thinking, right there!

i to bring my girl friend with me...

Well in follow up they both ended up bailing, so I'm just going to forget about her; not worth my time. Instead me and my friend ended up going and picked up two other girls on the spot and had a good time. In retrospect I'd say texting is too much talk and not enough action, it can really kill your game if you overuse it.

+1

i finished friendship with my friend...