So I went to a bar last night with some friends. The one girl that I totally fell in love with was there. We dated for 3-4 months and worked together on a project for a work related engagement. Long story short, she started sending me mixed signals and playing games (wouldn't text me back, then out of the blue invite me to the movies, etc). I really really liked her so much (I rarely meet such a cool chick). Long story short, I asked her out a few times, was really romantic and she ignored my liking of her. So I sent her a text asking her if she was into me, cause I didn't feel like chasing after someone who didn't reciprocate. She never responded. let's call her The Flakster.

One week later, I texted her about getting paid for the project I did. I was kinda frustrated about her not responding to me so I called her out on it. We stopped dating and she only paid half of what she owed me.

Four months later:

Last night I went out with a few friends and she was there. My heart stopped for a second. After so many months, I was still into her. I sat down at a table and she looked at me, I looked at her and she smiled. I didn't go up to her, cause it just felt weird. So later on in the evening, two girls opened me and said I look like a certain celebrity. They were totally into me. 30 min later the Flakster (the girl I really liked) came up and said goodbye to one of the two girls (they knew each other). Then she tells the Flakster, "doesn't he look like this celebrity" the Flakster just said yes and walked away.

Later on that evening (after the Flakster had left) I kissed 4 girls in 30 seconds. I thought it was awesome.

Questions

Do you guys think she got jealous that other girls were showing interest in me, thus increasing my appeal and value? Why did she just walk away like that? Is it a total indicator that she doesn't like me or is it an indicator that she felt jealous?

Finally, I thought I would text her saying that I wished we spoke last night and that I was gonna come up and talk to her, but that I got distracted.
I never gamed this girl, I sincerely really liked her.

Games aside, what do you guys think?

in my oppinion if she didn't come over to talk to you and then just walked off when her friend brought her into the conversation with you, then she wasn't jealous and doesn't like you.

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Yes, Ever since i called her out on her flaky behavior (I called her, here today, gone tomorrow). I am hesitating whether i should send her a text saying,

"hey x. I wanted to come up and talk to you last Friday, but I got distracted every time I was gonna come over. I like u as a friend and hope we can hang out sometime if you're up for it. "

I am totally qualifying myself to her, but that's because I do like her a lot. she still has me on fb as a friend. I want to be friends with as many girls as possible that are my type. In your opinion, if attraction has been established at one point, does that stick around?

Thanks guys! What do y'all think?

That's your problem:

Now that's just investing way too much in her, thus you become an annoying weird approval needy dude. (I didn't mean to be harsh)

It kills attraction completely.

Think if it was the other way around - an annoying girl is asking you out one time after another, further more, she is asking you via text if you are into her..


It doesn't matter how much you like her, don't seek approval out of her.

I completely agree. I completely blew it with that text, and wish I had not sent it. Even my friends recommended me not to send it.

What do you think about sending a text like: "hey x. I wanted to come over and talk to you on Friday, but got distracted every time I was gonna head over to u. Haha like you as a friend; maybe we can hang out sometime. "

If you don't like this, what do you recommend?

I've recently had a similar sort of thing happen to me - met this girl whose a friend of my best friend - we hit it off and started talking loads and meeting up whenever there was an event or something - she told me she liked me and I returned the feelings, then when I started wanting to take her on a date she told me that she just isn't ready for anything serious because of her only just recently coming out of a relationship - I was fine with this and we went out separate ways. Couple weeks later I was at this party and she saw me talking to this girl and got insanely jealous - to the point where she hid my car keys because she wasn't happy. A few days later we started talking again and all that stuff was forgotten and we just carried on being friends.

Anyway on Saturday I went to this party and she was there and she spent the entire night qualifying herself to me and giving me massive IOI's and basically doing anything she could to make me jealous - to the point where this guy was freaking her out by trying to kiss her and I actually stepped in and got into a bit of a thing with him. Anyway a couple hours later I left the party and the next day text her saying - "I don't understand why you did all that stuff last night if you don't like me" she said that she does like me but just doesnt want it and that she is a flirt and is really sorry she's not meaning to fuck with my head. I was really pissed off because I don't like people taking advantage of me - I just decided to ignore her.

I'm going to this other party this weekend and she is going as well - I want to return the favour and show her how fucking out of line she was doing what she did. I was planning on being really friendly with her and doing a bit of flirting and then basically moving onto some other girls (there are two girls going that I know are into me). What do you guys think I should do?

Cheers.

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Delancey, I suggest you move on. If you happen to cross her path again in the future, start conversation with her as if it were the 1st time. Act as if today is the day your story starts and don't dwell on the past experiences. If she flakes again be done with her!

Berg101, if you are wanting to make her jealous, she has already won! She did what she did and now you are wanting to retaliate. Be who you are, if you want to legitimately talk to the other two girls then do it for yourself, not to make someone else jealous. The girl you desire will have to decide on her own if she wants to work things out with you or not.

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You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

A lot of people are telling me she "does not like me. That she would have come up to me and talked to me if she liked me. Or that she would have joined the conversation when the two girls told her I looked like a certain celebrity. Instead she just said "yeah" and left the venue. I dunno, if it's one thing I have learned from this, it is that she is (and probably a lot of women) non-confrontational. I should NEVER have confronted her about whether she was into me. But you live and learn.

I really don't mean to beat a dead horse here. If she doesn't like me as a person, then forget it. But if I were to try to reconcile, how should I go about it? Just wait till I see her again? Do y'all think she felt uncomfortable with other girls being into me? Or did she just not care? The last two times we have met, I have been with another girl. Hmmm!

What do you think?

Any pearls of wisdom? Why would she smile at me with puppy eyes and then not invite herself into the convo? Instead just say "sure" and leave? Lol

You can keep her at a distance (Girls fall in love/lust when they miss you), or you can go very Alpha. Basically tell her exactly what you want and how you are going to get it! That does not mean "I want to be your boyfriend and I am going to buy you flowers to show you how much I care"! It means "I am going to take you into my arms and do things to you that the other boys are to much of a punk to do"! Get the idea?

Both approaches can work, but if she is a "good girl" her ASD will automatically kick in even if you get her wet thinking about it. Maintain your frame and follow through with your statements.

If you become a punk again she will be gone...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

you kissed four girls and you're still talking about this one? in my opinion, you don't need to know what i think, you should CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK.

chances are good that she is not into you. now it could be your own doing, or her's. does not matter. forget her! once you get distance from her and she feels it is genuine that you don't care, she might come after you. but don't bet on it.

i have liked many girls in that way and it always let to failure, or in the best case, a relationship i regretted. don't make that mistake. you will be a much happier man. let her chase you, let her try for you. no? then she's not worth it.

you will save time, be happier, have more women, and have the ability to concentrate on the important things in life, which are not women! i feel sorry for you because i know how you feel. i wish someone had told me this in those situations and i listened to thim. i would have saved a lot of time.

she's playing with you, and you are allowing it. you should be the one playing. think about it.

wow you gotta stop treating this chick like she is some kind of God. Ignore her ass.

YOU SHOULD BE MAKING HER JEALOUS. And don't even try to reinitate anything, EVEN if she does... just blow her off. Come on dude. Have some self-respect


the minute you stop gaming and neglect your self-value is the minute you lose. Just remember that

edit: oh and a few more things: I have a tendency to make my IOD's very strong at this time. It is normal because you have been blown off and there is resentment. Your IOD's should never be strong. It should always be PUSH-PULL, balance of teasing and rewarding.... and finally NEVER LET EMOTIONS TAKE CONTROL OVER YOU. ALWAYS KEEP THEM IN CHECK

-nixxor

point.