| So I went to meet a friend at a club. His lesbian friend and her female friend are there. I meet her female friend, lets call her Jesse. I play it cool and she is pretty quickly chasing me. As the group walks outside she tells me she likes boys sometimes as she purposely brushes my arm and smiles at me. I say "is that so? I am a boy".
My game is pretty tight all night. so we are pretty much through attraction. So I qualify her "are you adventurous". She shows me her earings, which are pearl "what do you think?" she says. I say "are you a pirate?". She args for me. I say do that again, she does. So we have some compliance. I mix some cold in there by purposely avoiding eye contact and talking to her lesbian friend about art. So she is hearing some about me and my life (I make art sometimes).
I open a clearly lesbian set to give social proof. I merge the sets. It goes great. Back with Jesse and the lesbian friend I ask if our mutual guy friend (who has dissapeared at the moment) is a gemini. We go into guessing each other's signs. I do a favorite color routine, which they enjoy.
Then jesse's ex girlfriend is spotted. She then proceeds to latch on to her (don't know why). She gives me a little attention here and there the rest of the night, mostly by coming over by me. But I don't get much chance to talk to her as we end up dancing a lot, and she is practically making out with her ex the whole time. I am thinking, okay this could be fun threesome possibly. So I open her ex and ask her about herself (music she likes, etc.). She seems butch and not really into guys.
At this point things look difficult. The groups moves outside and I tell Jesse and her ex that we are going outside (they had their back to us at the moment). They don't follow.
So I am thinking, okay, she is clearly into her ex tonight. Not in the mood to intervene there, or chase them around. So after a little while I talk about leaving and the group seems to agree with that. They tell Jesse.
We are waiting for Jesse to clear her tab. I go up to her and tell her we are leaving. She says I know I am paying for my tab. This was probably a mistake on my part. clearly I am chasing a little whereas she was chasing more in the beginning of the night.
The group talks some more and I finally see my opportunity to go for the number close. She is isolated and I ask her if she wants to give me her number. She seems very clear "no". The reason I ask her if she wants to is because she is in her 30's and she seems sexually liberated. I am not going to make up an excuse to get her number. I feel like we have already gone direct earlier. Yes, normally I say "give me your number" instead of as a question.
Perhaps I should have said "give me your number so I can get you REALLY wet sometime" or something more sexually direct. But honestly she wasn't very hot and I didn't care that much. My attitude was that she knows I am safe (mutual friends), she had attraction to me, and I qualified her, as well as proving myself socially. It seems like she would want to give me her number. Anyhow, in keeping with the practice of always maintaining a good frame, we rejoined the group. I cordially said goodbye to everyone, hugged, and left.
Perhaps my issue is that I am mixing direct game with mystery method too much. I need to either go direct and stay there or go mystery and put in the necessary time.
Anyhow, any advice would be appreciated. I seldom have a problem number closing. Obviously it was a weird set... But it feels like there is something I could have done that would have been the silver bullet.
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When pretending not to care what she thinks becomes really not caring what any of them think...that day I will be a PUA.
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