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Should I make her change her status to in a relationship with me?
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Thanks guys. I appreciate all your help.

Just one more thing. Shes away for a few days and calling me non stop etc.

She asked what I was doing tonight and said having dinner with a girl (also a model) whos my friend and she knows.

She said she didnt want me having dinner just the two of us and told me to cancel.

I told her there was nothing to worry about but I didnt want to upset her and would cancel.

Have I lowered my value or am I just being nice ?
Okay fuck this shit dude. I couldn't take this. She can get the fuck over it considering how she's acting about her ex's. This bitch is twisted if she thinks he can just do whatever the fuck she wants and keep you on a leash. Fuck her being upset.

She wants you to commit but she doesn't want to commit herself.

Ignore here texts and calls til she comes home and consider these 4 days she's gone as a hall pass. Go out with this other chick so that she knows your not one to be told or guilted into anything.

I still wouldn't talk to her about this obvious double standard though. Just do your own thing. When she contacts you tell her you will talk to her later you got shit to do (out with friends/work/gym/whatever). Switch positions on her and make it to where she's always wandering what your doing.

Honestly it's probably best if you drop her but you obviously like her so we need to figure out how to get you back in the drivers seat. I have a hard time believing he is so fucking good in bed and so hot and so cool that these mind games are worth it though.
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She said to me at the same time, "she didnt know why she cared so much but as we were in a new relationship she didnt feel comfortable with one on one dinners". The only reason why i agreed was I would not want her going out "one on one" with another guy so didnt want her throwing it back in my face.

If I bring up the ex in this situation, she will say its very different. Shes not stopping me talking to other girls who are friends via text or phone and she is saying that shes not actually meeting up with him.

She had originally said she needed at some point to go back to collect all her stuff from his house (9 boxes) and would go with her mother. I told her to have it sent by fedex and i did not feel happy about her going there to personally collect it. Although no fedex has been arranged she has basically agreed not to go there personally.

I think the whole problem herre is that this relationship is really just so new and got so serious so quickly. Ie we have only known each other for 3 months.

I know when she comes back from her work trip she will have chatted via FB or text with her ex and what gets under my skin is if she says I miss you or calls him baby. (even if she says it purely plationic) She has promised not to call him baby anymore but even if I do glance at her phone and catch her out, I cant "bust" her on it as then she will be pissed I looked at her phone.

So we are back to trust and if I know shes broken that small rule, am I going to break up with her because just 3 months into a relationship she still calls her ex of four years baby. This is my dilema.
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I agree with you 100% and Ive always said you lose a girl how you found them.

However this is how she has explained it to me.

She was with a guy for four years. She stopped having sex with him as there was no sexual attraction anymore and he became a friend.

She then slept with one guy who she modeled with and then met this other guy who she was fucking for about 3 months. She said he wanted to call her his girlfriend but she made it clear they were just sex buddies.

She then came to NY and met me and now she says shes fallen in love. (She could easily say we are just fuck buddies). She doesnt contact the previous guy and only her ex guy who she was with for 4 years who she says is just her friend now.

She says I have trust issues with her and that time will tell if I was right. But I wont be. On the other hand she makes it clear she just wants to see how things go.

At the moment she is away for 4 days working and calls me every day / night telling me how much she misses me etc.

I cant just dismiss this relationship as I do feel a lot for her hence why the facebook thing became an issue for me to see how serious she is. I suppose I thought if she publicly to her friends say we are together on FB then I presumed she was more sincire. Hence my dilemma.

She was only supposed to be in NY for 2 six weeks and now 3 months later has said shes moving here because of me.

The problem is she will have to go back to Spain to work maybe a few weeks at a time every few months. Im tempted to go with her so our relationship becomes more concrete as with my work I can be wherever.

I dont want to smother her, but I know how much attention she gets from everyone and its just difficult knowing it when Im not with her

dude trust me its just female model bs banter my ex wife had a story along those lines it was just tweaked to her situation.

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So some of you are saying its no big deal she talks to her ex still and others are saying it is a problem and I will lose her.

This is the main issue here. Not FB. Facebook was a guide for me to show me that she was really committed by announcing it publicly.
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Take it from me dud I've already gone through what you are doing only difference is we got married and thats when royaly screwed me over. plus that whole she still has to collect all her stuff is something all girls say its code for i'm going there and i know he and i are going to end up fucking but i dopn't want you to know. My ex gave me the same excuse and then some hoho you should have seen the shit she told me when she was only gone for one week.

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She claims the last few times she went there she did not have sex with him. I dont believe that either but she says she lost attraction. Ok, so if she insists on going ill break it off with her. At the moment shes agreed not to go.

I just need to see over the next few weeks how much contact she still has with him I suppose and whether its ending.
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She claims the last few times she went there she did not have sex with him. I dont believe that either but she says she lost attraction. Ok, so if she insists on going ill break it off with her. At the moment shes agreed not to go.

I just need to see over the next few weeks how much contact she still has with him I suppose and whether its ending.
Well there you go my friend remember gut instincts will always lead you right whether you see it or not. now on a side just the fact that you have model friends already puts you in a pretty high social status to other women there so happy hunting my friend and if if you ever come across a gal named yarisenia sanchez tell panda that nagi said Hi

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Remember bro, though she's your girlfriend, you cannot force her to change her fb status. She also needs privacy and she wants to keep your relationship private.
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Is there a PUA question here? Seriously, what's the question?

Dude, you're whining.

Post this in either the relationship section or on a fucking knitting site...

Seriously, and people wonder why the threads are getting stale?

Fucking A.

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Dude she is being a typical woman. She wants you on a leash and her to keep her freedom. Don't make a big deal out of it though because... well what are you going to do.

If it were me. I'd laugh, say: "You really expect me to believe that?" then drop it.

If she said she felt bad for him I would tease her saying "no jam".

But then again I'm not the guy dating a model.

Another thing I would do is take pictures of me and a female "friend", post them on facebook. When she confronted me about it I would say: "I get a lot of unsolicited messages from women who think I'm single. My friend agreed to post the pictures to scare these women off. I asked you to post a relationship status but you refused."

Then you will have flipped the script. You don't want her the focus of attention but you.

From my perspective. I used to be the guy doing the worrying like you are. Women fooled around behind my back a lot. Then I learned the game and now I'm the other guy. lol. Women are all the same, I hate to admit it but it's true.
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DUDE

This girl is BORDERLINE. Shes not normal and she's playing you. You're too sprung and AFC to see through it.

I hate to say this but she's going to do to you what she's done to all these other guys. Put you on the back burner but keep you reeled in for emotional indulgence when she needs it.

She's done nothing to invest in you other than have sex with you. And you only like her because she's a model, you fucked her and now you have feelings for her.

Go fuck other hot girls and get in a relationship with a girl who gives a shit about you.
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Lay down the law. cus the bitch out and tell her to change her status now.
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I know when she comes back from her work trip she will have chatted via FB or text with her ex and what gets under my skin is if she says I miss you or calls him baby. (even if she says it purely plationic) She has promised not to call him baby anymore but even if I do glance at her phone and catch her out, I cant "bust" her on it as then she will be pissed I looked at her phone.

So we are back to trust and if I know shes broken that small rule, am I going to break up with her because just 3 months into a relationship she still calls her ex of four years baby. This is my dilema.
FUCK. Please do not tell me that you think her calling her ex baby can possibly be purely platonic.

NO grown woman calls another male baby or says "i miss you". She's playing the shit out of all you guys and she knows she can get away with it because of her looks.

FUCK her. I would leave that bitch in a second.
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nyclover, I know exactly how you feel. I just had a huge attack of jealousy this week concerning my ex ltr. We can't live like this, bro.
It's a terrible thing to feel like I'm completely justified for looking at her phone (I did that) and find out that my fears are realized. Now what? I didn't gain anything except pain. I was right. So fucking what? Do I get a fucking medal for being right? No. I get jealousy, anger, hostility, fear... notice I'm not using any words that describe good feelings? Because there is nothing good for you at the end of this path. This way is nothing but negativity.

I have seen a quote on this forum- "Leave her better than you found her." and I think it should be high on our priorities list. We don't become better men just so we can tear others down or learn how to control their actions or minds. We want to take others along with us on the joy ride, right? We don't do anyone any favors when we try to take control over their life. If that's how you roll and you want to be overlord over something, you should just get a pet.

Me personally I'm going to CBT for my jealousy issues, I realized that it is a serious issue for me and I want to resolve it.

I can't really offer you anything substantial as far as advice goes, but as it stands now, your relationship with this girl is as good as done unless you put your Alpha pants back on, deal with your own jealous tendencies, stop trying to run and control her life like a freak, and have some goddamn fun.
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I've seen some terrible advice in this thread.. I got sick to my stomach and decided to reply without perusing the entire thread, so forgive me if sum1 has already said this.

These guys tell you to forget about it and take the "L" (loss) if your suspicions are correct. Haha letting women have all the power is the Western (wrong) way of doing things. You're from NYC.. Your balls don't belong to her wtf.

Sounds like she plans on returning to that guy some day.

I wouldn't be in a relationship with this quality of woman. 9x outta 10, when something smells fishy, it definitely is. After the Facebook thing, I would have just taken the relationship a step back. You were already having sex with her fine Spanish ass, that's all you needed. What you DON'T need is negative thoughts like the ones that are goin through your head.

Maybe you two should remove the bf/gf titles and just be physical. It is foolish to invest any level of emotion in a hard-headed ass female like her. Relationships often fail because they're 2-headed monstrosities. Who wants a girl who's gonna do whatever the fuck she wants? Where's the appeal in that?...

The only other option that makes sense is to have an open relationship with her. That way, you can have other women in your life, so when she goes back to "Swiss Daddy", it won't sting nearly as much.

She is definitely emotional for that guy tho. Probably wants to marry him. Sorry if I'm being blunt, but I calls em like I sees em.

Your from NYC, remember that. You think Carlito Brigante would let a woman play with him like this? Grow some balls and don't take the Western path with these women.
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