There's this girl I like for a really long time.... yea I have oneitis, but the thing is I know it would work between us, but the problem is she wont give me a shot.

I asked her out a couple months ago just after 2 weeks meeting her and she said that she wasn't ready to move on from her ex. But at that time she was really close to another guy and I knew that they would end up together, but when that happened it wouldnt work. I was right, they recently ended it 2 weeks ago and it only lasted like 6 weeks. If I ask her out again or tell her I still like her now she'll say the same thing .. I'm not ready to move on... but I can't just wait around because she's close to this other guy now. And I know for a fact that she's said that this guy sometimes when she's with him she likes him/could see them together, but sometimes she's not sure. Point is, like I knew before, its the same thing this time... they will get together, but when it happens it won't work.

I didn't want to be stuck in the LJBF zone which is why I told her so soon that I liked her. What I've realized is she's the type of girl who becomes friends then good friends then more than friends. I'm in the good friends zone now but this guy is in between the good/more than friends zone. I don't know if anythings happening between them, but its definitely leaning towards that so I have to do something.

She knows I like her and I get the feeling she likes me. To the same extent she likes that guy (sometimes she thinks yes sometimes no). But I get the feeling like she's made her mind up about me and nothing I can do can change that. It's like she heard something from someone and I'm pretty sure its not true, but I dont know know what that might be and I don't know how to come about asking it. I also know this girl has a 'checklist' for like her 'perfect guy' but the guy she was with and even the guy she could be with soon do not tick every box. I only know a few of the boxes but I know all the boxes aren't ticked for them, but for me they'd all be ticked. I also know that her parents accepting the guy she is with is important to her and I know the guy she was with and could be with soon both wouldn't be accepted by her parents. For me I'm pretty sure her parents would like me, but maybe there's something I dont know and she doesnt want to give me a shot.

Sorry for that long story, but I've analyzed it alot and I know she has too. I just don't know how to proceed.

Do I just bring it out straight or is there a better way of finding out why she won't give me a chance.

You know it will work between you two? How? She's not interested, obviously it doesnt matter what you think. You can't determine that something will be good for another person simply because it feels so right for you. Get over yourself.


Game other women, forget this one.