So a friend of mine have been talking on facebook lately..she works nights, i work days..so its hard to find time to actually hang out...We've hung out a few times the past week or so though. Always busting her chops, making eachother laugh, a little touch here and there....Anyway, while we were walking around the store today, she asked:

HER: Have you seen my room?
ME: Come on...we've not hung out much due to our conflicting schedules. I work on your days off..and when you're working, I'm usually sleeping!! You know damn well I haven't seen you room!
HER: *laughs* well I couldn't remember if you've seen it before..

Subject was changed as we kept walking the store...anyway, after all that, I took her home because her night shift was about to start..So when we get back to her house, she's like "Do you want to see my room?"

Looking at the time...I say, "eh, what the hell..I got a few minutes to spare"

So we get in her room and she's like
HER: sorry its a mess, I need to clean up but have been lazy lately
ME: yeahh...a little word of advice, you're supposed to tidy up BEFORE you invite people to your room
HER: *laughs* shut up you asshole!

So she then proceeds to show me her posters, as she somewhat organizes things in her room..shoes, dvd's, makeup table, etc.

As she's rolling up a poster, I notice on one of the walls, she has a hanger bar thing...like in clothing stores..just out in the open...So I start looking at all her dresses and skirts she has hanging there. Then she comes over and starts to point out certain dresses/skirts saying stuff like "I just bought this one"..."this is my favorite"...then came to one..I took off the hanger, and put it to my waist and said..

ME: Okay, what ya think? how would it look on me?
HER: I look fucking sexy in this one
ME: ha, I don't know that
HER: well now ya do..cuz I do
ME: I cant take your word for it, I'd have to see it for myself


Then just as she was about to reply to that, we heard the rocks in the driveway...her roomate just pulled up, and was carrying groceries in the house.

And that was about it...for maybe like 1-2 minutes we just chit-chat.. and she was like

HER: well, hit me up sometime..or I'll hit you up
ME: will do...it was nice seeing you again, have fun working graveyard, ya zombie!

Then we hug and I leave


I mean...I find that when a girl invites you to her room....that is usually a decent IOI...But during the time in her room...even continuing to bust her chops, I wasn't sure where I was supposed to take things........Was it some kind of test to see how I would react being alone with her in her room....Was she expecting me to really make a move and get things heated? It really did surprise me....Because even back when we hung out alot with our social circle...she never really showed any interest in me...So I kinda locked up, didn't know what was happening, or what I should do in that particular moment.

So what advice and tips would you guys like to share?

Sorry to say but you should've made the move. I mean, from what I can tell.

It could've been different in person, but yeah, she did want to at least get a kiss that night man. You should've somehow engaged in touching her, and then be like "How would you feel if I kissed you right now?" BAM, you could've had a kiss.

But no worries, see how she is to you, and keep teasing her and keep your playful attitude. If you want to take things on invite her over, or say you noticed something in her room and you have to double check. Or just take her out somewhere. Just know that it is on.

I just wasn't sure, in the moment... I mean.. I wasn't expecting anything..it wasn't even my goal for today to take things to the next level like that...I was just trying to hang out. We got lunch and went to the store to get some candy haha I don't know what she was expecting...Especially mentioning that she had to hurry and get ready for work..So like I said, I kinda froze..I kept things going, but didn't escalate things, as you've seen by reading my post. Hopefully I didn't ruin things, and we'll hang out again soon.

It may have been hard to get anything going with the roomate.

If you have a chance to visit her again bring alcohol. This almost reminds me of a time in college when I got this girl to put a fashion show and get naked. I kept taking outfits out the closet she kept trying them on
There was one tube top outfit i took out and I said "Well you can't wear a bra with this" Then she took it off i knew it was on at this point.

then i took advantage and started feeling up her we ended up fucking that night.

Your girl sounds like she would go for it too. Get her tipsy then revist her trying on the outfits

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I've had bad experiences with girls who drink...so I really only talk to girls who either don't drink at all....or drink very, very little. Of course there are always exceptions...But this particular girl does not drink.

However, next time we plan to hang out, I think I'll tell her to wear that skirt she claims to be so sexy in.


Tr@veler, you mention I should have engaged in touching her and asked, "How would you feel if I kissed you right now?"

We touched a little bit, nothing sexual. But like, hands on the arm/shoulder...nudge/gentle slap with back of hand (like you would do to a person if you see something and you're like *gentle slap/nudge*to get their attention, "look over there at that!")

Is that the kind of touching you meant? Or did you mean in a sexual way?

Also, what would be other lines to drop if in a similar situation?

Every girl that i've known to not drink at all turned out to be a major freak. They are usually comfortable with there sexuality..

You were presented with a opportunity to escalate, she knew that you never saw her room she was just thinking of a way to get you isolated.. She was more of a man than you lol she took the big step. All you had to do was drop a sexual comment or to so you can test the waters, if you aren't confident enough to just go for the touch.

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Lay on the bed and wait for the show. That is what I would have done.

Wait too long to make a move and you might just end up as a friend. She was probably hoping something would happen then and there, and it didn't. Now she will overthink things (just as you are doing), and that never leads to anything good. I like your idea of her wearing the skirt next time you guys hang out, don't be afraid to be sexual. Girls want sex just as much as guys, society just tells them they have to hide it.

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Thanks for the replies


So, from what you guys are saying, I take it that I still have a shot.

Realistically, she did have to be at work soon...so we didn't have much time to do anything regardless..

damn damn damn it hurts reading this, I have this "I wish I was there feeling"
If you was not 100% sure when she invited you to her room, you should have at least escalated when she said "I look sexy in this dress". If you think she is interested and on top of that she says sex/sexy - always proceed!

You need to be bold now, I would invite her to your room and say lets check out my room now, I promise it would be more interesting/fun. Or something along the lines "Now I will show my room and which clothes I look sexy in"

Or whatever else you see fit, but you need to be bold and make at least some hints that you would read the situation better now.

It can hurt to read, but the fact is...some people know how to handle situations better than others.. I haven't been in enough of these situations to know what to do/say as some of you guys...Thats why I'm here seeking advice.

If you will, give me an example of how you would have proceeded the escalation when she said "I look sexy in this dress"

First thing that came to my mind was "stop trying to seduce me with your sexy clothes". I would have said that and escalated by touch. Pulled her closer, touched the dress anything.

TBH, it's hard for us to give you a 'what we would do' because we don't know the vibe that's going on between you two.

"Take that off (pointing to whatever she has on) and put this on right now, I wanna see( handing her the dress)"

its done in a way that there is now way she can reject you because you didn't give her that option

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I'll keep all this in mind.


I havent really talked to her since that day..Sent her a text later that night, saying I had a good time, should get up again sometime...she replied that it was nice..Then I mentioned some other shit, just random stuff making conversation..but she never answered. Then much later that night I saw her at a gas station talking to one of her "friends" who works there. I was outside pumping gas, and I text her again...
ME: You're too funny
HER: Why?
ME: Cuz I figured you were busy at work still, but I see you doing absolutely nothing but standing there..your feet must hurt, why don't you at least sit down
HER: haha what?

Then as I was about to leave the gas station after I finished pumping gas, she comes running out to my car, and we bullshit a couple minutes before I told her to go back inside cuz I had to leave


I'm thinking she was just blowing her "friend" in between customers...That would explain why her hair looked such a mess considering she was at work that night haha But anyway..


I called her today to see what was up... We shot the shit for a few minutes and it came to point like this..

HER: blah blah blah its not like you've tried to get up with me recently
ME: ha..I tried, but you chose to ignore my attempts!
HER: I'm sorry, I just didn't feel like texting
ME: You're not upset from the other day are you? I mean..taking me to your room, trying to seduce me..just for your roomate to come home and ruin the good vibe?
HER: *laughs* what? I was notttt trying to seduce you!
ME: *laughs* its cool, its natural.
HER: I wasn't...like that's me..trying to seduce..whatever..

She then went on a rant about how all guys just want to fuck...and how she thinks most guys are gay, and would stick their dicks in anything.

Which I replied..
ME: I wouldn't go that far..I'd rather stick my dick in a hole in the dirt before in another man
HER: I dont know....you never know. *gay guy name* fucked a few straight men
ME: they obviously werent straight...
HER: I'm just saying guys will stick their dick in anything and be happy..even a hole in the dirt
ME: You're basically saying that I'll stick my dick in a hole in the dirt..
HER: You never know..
ME: I do know..I have a little more respect for my little friends than that! Plus, if you're saying I would stick my dick in a hole in the dirt...what's that say about you???

She was speechless for about 5-6 seconds before she said she was at school and had to go lol




But, considering how the conversation actually ended, I think its possible we'll hang out again sometime soon