Yeah, sure, I told her she had a sexy accent; and later some derivative of "I thought she was hot" (actually I think it was something about not looking her age.)

We both got really unique dishes, and she offered for me to have a piece or two of whatever she was eating, saying, "Wow, you should really try this!". I was like, "Yeah, here, try this, and forked a couple pieces of the jambalaya I was having over to her plate for her to try. (romantic?)

I didn't, however, reach across the table and put my hand on hers or any shit like that. I think as far as I went was the threshold for a first date, given everything about the date/meet. Any more I think would've been erring on the side of creepy.

Next time I want a girl to come to my side of town (since I drove out for the last one) I need to kill any mention of "my place".

But as a buddy advised me: "Sure, maybe you could've asked her to meet you in front of the building/ ANY building, and maybe she would've been 'Cool! I'll be right over!', then again, I still could have just as easily gotten, "don't ever text me again."

This same friend had a THIRD date fairly recently where he asked her to come to his building and she proactively said she wasn't really comfortable with coming up to his place, but she'd meet him out front.

He assessed that if this girl was on the level, I should've gotten something like that.

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No I didn't meant to denigrate, just meant that confusion is the nature of the beast when it comes to Internet write ups and we all should just do our best to deal with it.

I posted this to hopefully get some more angles on why this happened; (so i can make sure it never happens again) and I certainly got that. Thanks for the input; I really do appreciate it.

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Fair enough man. For me, I think if a girl was to say something like this to me:
I would just look at her a bit quizzically, maybe say something like "oh, are we now? What if I'm busy?" in a cheeky way. It seems like she was taking for granted that you would be up for doing whatever she wanted to do, and that's not a good position to be in.

Dude, shit like this happens.
First girl I slept with, we were hanging out all night and day for 24 hours, and she asked if I'm staying in town for a while, cause she wanted to see me in the future.

Next day I text her, and she says I'll call you back. Doesn't.

Next day I call her, and she replies to leave her alone and gives a goodbye.

Insecurity.

Thanks man, I knew all along, something was up, it was just the 'why' I was dealing with. But no matter.

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When she said "like your place?" You could of responded "Woah, I'm not that easy; I at least expect chocolates and flowers first =)"

However, I'm going to tell you exactly why she did a 180 and said "don't ever text me again."

Are you ready?

Here it is:

Dat bitch crazy.

Just be glad she didn't boil your bunny.

what to do is easy, delete her number and dont ever text her again, fuck her.

The only feedback you want to hear is "there's something wrong with her."

Which is not only clearly not the case, it's also not going to help you grow and learn.

This girl was never interested in hooking up with you. At any point. You let yourself be used (technically you offered to be used and she accepted your offer.)

The second you displayed the romantic interest she knew you had (it's what she was leveraging to get free car rides in a cool car), she bailed. She probably had that line ready since the second you started bragging about your car and your job, because she knew you would eventually move towards romance land and she was simply not interested.

And offering to help her get a job within your company? That's White Knight Extraordinaire at work. You become useful to women that way, but they sure as hell won't get wet for you.

Read up on the basics brosif.

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Oh great, so you want it both ways? Best way I've seen to not lose an argument.

If everybody on this thread who posted was right, you simply can't have it both ways.

One said, "This was simply a shit test that you didn't pass." Okay, so she *was* interested, I just fucked it up? Read the other comments for some context on the situation that you clearly know so much about, and you'll see virtually unanimously that it's been determined she certainly WAS NOT.

Another said, "Yeah, she was just a user. Not interested, etc etc"

So which is right?

Again, easy, if not cheap way to come out looking like a pro who knows what he's talking about, and looking good putting down people who hit snags.

Hell I'd love to hold both sides of every argument! I can't lose!

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