I can not believe what I'm writing right now. I feel like fuck right now!!!! I finally got a chance to be in a shoot w/ a beautiful starlet & I could not get hard every time the cameras came in the room. This girl was trying everything she could 2 to keep me up & she was hot. She even took me in another room to blow me, I would get nice & ready but as soon as I got in front of the cam guys & lighting guys I could not stay hard....I am 33 years old, I laughed at the idea of viagra because I have never, ever, ever, ever had this happen 2 me once....I feel like shit!!! & it happened in front of my friends!!! I can not believe I am even saying this right now...

Now this ain't even the worst of it, the producer said it was cool & it actually happens more time than not in porn, he tried telling me that's why u see the same guys over & over again in porn shoots because very few men can actually stay hard w/ other men staring at them...okay, so I'm just not cut out for porn...whatever....good enough....I thought.

Went back home & decided I had to fuck my girl right away. FUCK!!!!!! I still can't get hard!!!!! I have sex w/ my girl at least once everyday & I have never once had this happen....I mean w/ my girl it was easy to play off, just told her I was tired....but holy fuck, w the fuck!!!! I feel like complete shit right now....I am going out w/ some friends 2night & it's gonna be almost certain that I'm gonna at least bring someone home w/ me 2night ....What if I'm fucked up!?!?!?! I don't know what the fuck to do...I mean I know it's all in my head & I'm prolly concentrating on it(my dick) during sex now, something I've never done before. Fuck, I swear, all I ever needed was the wind to blow the wrong way & I would get an erection.

Did my porno shoot fail fuck me up? Please some has to know what I'm going through here.....help please

If you are uncertain but want some certainty viagra might not be such a bad idea...
It probably is all in your head but that doesn't make it less fucked up. Au contraire.

Fuck, that is the last thing I wanted to hear...VIAGRA!!! Dude, I have never really been good at anything except fucking...this is a fucking nightmare!!!!

I've heard once u go the viagra route u can never come back??? I KNOW I don't need VIAGRA....I have 2 more shoots scheduled that I'm gonna back out of...Even though I got the equipment for the job, if I need viagra...I QUIT!!!

Seriously, .....hard dick 1 day, fucked up the next...this isn't something that has been slowly materializing over time....if anything I've been getting better....going longer...now just like a light switch because of one fucking really bad, embarrassing experience, nothing....I just don't know what the fuck!!!!...If I can't fuck properly I would rather be dead(not a joke or figure of speech), it's the only thing that makes me happy...FUCK

No more porn shoots for me...that's a given...I think I got some serious inner game to work on.....seriously I really need advice, there has gotta be someone that knows what I'm going through & was able to get through it??? Maybe not this exact scenario, but something, someone...Please..... I'm so fucking humbled right now.

PLEASE GUYS, if u have to make a temp account & reply under a different user name to keep from laying it all on the line due to the obviously embarrassing content like I'm doing now, Please take the time to do it....

Seriously, who the fuck do I talk to about this??? My girl? No. What do I say? "Hey, you remember that porn shoot I was gonna do? I couldn't keep my dick hard 4 it"....My boys? No. They would all just be happy as fuck I failed cause most of them cock block me all the time anyways. My mom? NO!!!!

What the fuck, my dick is who I am....fuck!!!!

The erection is controlled by the brain, not the penis. The brain sends a signal to the penis to get hard. Unless you have ED (in which case you'd never be able to get hard) then your ability to get hard is controlled 100% by when your brain sends the signal to get hard.

Your brain will not send that signal if you are nervous for any reason. Period.

The reason you couldn't get hard on set is because you were buying into the media bullshit that a man who can't get an erection is less of a man, and you were afraid (subconsciously) of being embarrassed in front of all these people (friends, TV, etc). So, you were nervous, no erection.

Then you started to think that you had a physical problem, which made you afraid that maybe you'd never be able to perform well again...and this nervousness is what prevented you from getting hard back at home.

In order to break out of this cycle you need to: 1) understand and actually believe the truth that you don't have a physical defect, 2) detach yourself from the outcome. If you don't give a fuck, if you are confident enough that you aren't going to have expectations or feel embarrassed about not getting hard, then you won't have a problem getting hard.

Thank you Docta....I totally get what ur saying & it makes perfect sense...I'm just gonna go out tonight w/ the boys & party my ass off....no drinking water at the club like I uselessly do, no pick-up or trying to control my body-lang or any of that shit...I need to get my head right.

& ur right, I can't keep my mind off of my huge failure & I have been feeling like I'm a failure because of it...& this is actually making things way worse....so yeah, thanks for the info

this whole thread is damn funny it should be stickied

I had a girlfriend that would ridicule the shit out of me whenever I didn't get hard.. This led me to not be able to get hard for her at all and she was hot as shit. Eventually we broke up because of the sex issue and it took hold onto my sex life after her aswell. Whenever a girl would be the slightest bit sexually aggressive I would go all dead meat. Until one day im like " fuck this, im going to bring girls home and if I can't get hard im going to say " Fuck this" and tell them the truth. and face whatever comes after that like a man" .. That simple thought made my dick hard.. lol I eneded up just telling a few girls " I can't get hard because my ex girl blah blah blah" they always sympathized with me and I ended up getting an erection shortly after that. Now, im completely over it and i've been fucking better than ever.

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update:

MY PENIS STILL WORKS!!!!!!

Had a great night, I really tried to not Sarge at all but now-a-days when there is female around(no matter who, where, or whatever) I go straight in to my game w/out thinking, almost 2nd nature to me....

& NO, I'm not saying I'm a great PUA or anything like that...I'm just saying Sarging is a habit to me now.

But, anyways, went home w/ a girl waaaaaaaaay under my usual expectations, but I don't give a fuck!!! I fucked the hell outta that chubby little girl...

Then I came home & destroyed my girlfriend....helll ya!!! I'm back....no more porn shoots for me....lol

& to all the guys sitting back reading this thinking, "wtf is wrong w/ this guy?" , "He had a chance to fuck a porn star & fucked it up?!?!?".....all I can say is I was that guy, I never in any remote part of my mind thought this would happen....I have much more respect for the guys in porn now....that shit is very hard(per 'se)...lol

fuze...Did that ever happen to u when ur were younger....or actually how old r u, & when was the 1st time this happened?

haha email me dude..

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So 4 some reason I decided to watch some porn last night....actually, fuck that, there was no "some reason", I've always enjoyed porn, so I know exactly why, it's just a habit I guess.....but anyways, after all this bullshit I don't think I will ever enjoy it again!!!

The whole time I couldn't keep my eyes off of the male(s) in the scene, like I was noticing them fumbling their hands w/ a pillow, or how their leg keeps bouncing up & down due to nervousness...It all just put me right back in the moment of my horribly embarrassing situation...I kept thinking to myself, "This guy is obviously nervous. Why is he able to keep an erection & I wasn't?"...unhealthy, I know.

WHAT THE FUCK HAVE I DONE TO MYSELF?!?!?!?....I feel very inadequate right now!!! I almost wanna try again to prove to myself that I can do it properly.

I keep going back & forth in my mind thinking:

"Okay well, u fucked up, u had 1 of the hottest girls I've ever been w/ ready & willing to have sex w/ u. How the fuck could I fuck that up?!?!"....

to

"Okay well, when she took me in the bedroom to try & "fluff" me(which she was not even paid to do) I had a rock solid boner & I know I would have been fine. So it is obviously just the other males in the room intently judging my performance that was the problem"....

I know none of this is healthy for me, thinking about this at all can't be helping. I've had some very good sex since the "incident"(lol)...but I still just can't get out of my head, & I feel like shit, anxious, depressed, all that garbage...God I wish I would have just passed on that.

Some say being humbled is a good thing...Well, what if I've been humbled in every other part of my life 4 my whole life?!? I have a shitty job, I'm broke, I have no education to rely on & I'm getting older. I've had some serious issues w/ substance abuse which I had to seriously humble myself to get through, any girl that gets to close to me rolls out as soon as they get to know me too well...I am a humbled motherfucker!!!

NONE OF THIS HAS EVER MATTERED TO ME THOUGH because I've always had 1 thing going 4 me...SEX, I'm good at getting women to have sex w/ me & I keep them coming back 4 more...It's really all I've ever had...& I've always been very happy w/ this set of circumstances....But now THIS... I really feel like a complete failure.

I really need you guys right now because I don't know who else would be more capable of breathing life back into me then the group of guys that helped me to get right over a decade ago in the 1st place. Maybe a reading that anyone could point me towards? Words of wisdom? Inner game? Something? I feel like shit.

Dude I'm in complete laughter here. You're hilarious

are you big?

yes, over 8"...basically how/why I was cast in the 1st place...but, that's not really a good thing.... seriously, it sucks not being able to fuck a girl w/out them keeping their hand on my hip holding me back all the time so I don't hurt them.

But obvious it doesn't matter if I can't stay hard on a set... what the fuck is a big dick useful 4 if I can't use it & get paid??