I'm not super shy but I have my moments where I won't talk and it especially happens when girls are around. I haven't been around girls that much growing up so I don't know how to treat them. I'm to scared to make a move, and when I do it's really awkward to me. I'm going to a university tomorrow and there are going to be big party's, so do I have a chance with scoring with a hottie if I'm shy? and do you have any helpful advice you can give me before I leave? Thanks.

No. Being shy and trying to get naked and have sex does not work in the mans way unless you find a woman thats into pouncing on a shy guy..and good luck with that if thats the kind of girl you want.

Time to break out of mother's grasp and just do it. Fuck what your parents think. Fuck what my parents think and say. I suggest you just be straight up with whoever is holding you back and tell them you're living your life and fucking to the fullest.

Im the same as the guy above where should i start on pua forum to change to the man i want to be.

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Realize you must approach, learn the basic methods...and realize failure will happen but in the overall goal of life and the game...failure is nonexistent...it feels like you fail but really you're just getting better at not repeating mistakes.

where can i find the basic methods because most of the threads i see are personal endeavors sorry for asking I'm really a newbie to pickup.

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You need to buy them/books.

Most forum threads on google have it..but its not as accurate.

Neil Strauss wrote about being shy and how to get rid of it. I think it is an awesome article... here it is:
http://www.tsbmag.com/2006/06/25/shy-gu ... -guts/[url][/url]

In my younger years i use to be extremley shy i wouldnt talk to strangers espically girls i lost out on so many good looking girls due to bloody shyness

if you dont want to be shy then the best way to do it is to practice talking to people
this is the best method out there an alot of people usually go from being extremley shy to extremley sociable people just try talking more to people it is hard at first but in the end you realise there just as insecure as yourself remember

people dont care what they think about you there only intrested in what you think about them

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Maybe even you can become successful with girls if you are shy, but you'll never become successful with yourself.

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Yes you can be shy and have girls.

But the less shy you are the better you'll do.

First poster nailed it, kinda. Basically stop giving a fuck. It's very liberating, and women are very, very, very attracted to that type of behaviour...Although when people on here say stop giving a fuck, they don't really mean like completely, you can give a fuck, but imagine someone who doesnt give a fuck and act like that, kapeesh?

You don't really have to become a soulless sun of a bitch like many asshole guys out there, you can still care, just don't let anyone know it, lot to say about a caring member of society who is also attractive in that way...

It will be very, very very hard to do at first but you must break yourself from being shy...This is coming from the shyest guy of my graduating class of over 2000...Here is what I did, maybe it can help you:

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Watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mg3m8wRVXWg

"It's only after we've lost everything that we are free to do anything" - Stop being shy, get liberated. DO what makes you shy, approach, approach, approach, and stop being shy!

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Next, go out to the country, a canyon, something....out of earshot from everyone, and get some stuff off your chest, yell at the top of your lungs afftermations like (taken from David DeAngelo and a few others (Had this list on my HD, it was originally posted here)

"I'm confident, comfortable in my own skin"

I'm a good communicator--especially of what I want.

I'm in control and don't let outside events destabilize me.

I'm not needy... I keep my power for me.

I don't need this and can walk away at any time

I think sex is great and have no hang-ups.

I'm comfortable around women.

I can control myself and can wait patiently.

I don't tolerate disrespect of myself, my time, or my property.

I'm a catch.

I'm not impressed by outward symbols, such as money or status.

I may be smitten by a woman, but I don't tell her early on, and I don't let it 'slip' indirectly.

I don't let women use their looks or sexual power to take advantage of me. I give them no special privileges.

I'm not self-conscious and could care less what others think about me.

I put myself and my life first.

I deserve and can hold an exceptional woman.

I am indifferent to the outcome.

I understand the culture, and I 'get it' -cosmo, MTV, style, food, music, humor, etc.

I can deal with any test a woman throws at me... in fact, it's usually kind of cute.

I live in my reality, and you're a guest.

I'm a cause in the world, not an effect.
I make things happen.

Whatever it is, I can deal with it. I do not whine or complain.

I am a leader and when I express my ideas, I don't need anyone's approval, I'm just describing my reality

Never lose your composure. Never get upset.

I have the total indifference to disconnect immediately

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Read PUA stuff - Doesnt matter what system just choose one and go with it, can't go wrong with any of the orriginal stuff, I love David DeAngelo, AFC Adam, and Magic Bullets.

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Spend ATELAST hour a day working on yourself. Including working out, reading PUA stuff, ect...

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This is a good start, but first you must want to change, good luck!

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My Journal - here-vp508498.html

My 2 cents. Before you even think about "changing" yourself, accept yourself. This was my biggest problem starting up. I tried to be this "don't give a fuck" guy. It blew my ego up, but I crashed. I had to accept I am sensitive and shy and this is who I am.
Now, accepting that, this can even become a conversation topic that I'm not afraid to talk about.

Once you accept yourself, you are able to just talk to girls normally, be funny, etc. Read up on a lot of things here, but I think this is the most important thing.