hey guys,
Heres the dilemma, there is supposed to be a huge party this weekend and its supposedly the last party i go to as a freshman in college. Ive gone through my whole life being the guy in the background, or more along the lines the "Nice Guy". basically im saying ive never really been the center of attention, and i would love to end this semester with a bang, (and im sure we all know being the center of attention would give me a big leg up in ending up with a fine young lady at the end of the night), so any suggestions on where to look or even better, what to do? i know peacocking would work, but i really have no idea where to start with peacocking. so again more suggestions would be helpful.

I would like to self proclaim that I'm the master at being the center of attention. Or what Tyler Durden of RSD calls it "It's my movie".

Quotes:
1) “Pick-up is about working the venue not the set/girl” – Tyler Durden

or

2) From the Lay Report by Shawn Messenger

"Always be on point with everyone. Seduce the room and the ones you really want will just end up with you. Keep your head up and keep at it because when it's working, nothing can stop it. And use every other guy as just another ally to make it clear that you, and only you, are the best man for her." - Shawn Messenger

So how to simulate and execute the above wisdom? First off ... you must be self amusing! Don't do things to amuse others ... do things to amuse yourself. Sex worthy guys = 1) can self entertain himself, 2) unpredictable, and 3) being a jerk (this is optional ^_^). Trying to impress yourself and trying to impress others is the difference of being a DANCING FUCKING MONKEY O_O .... Basically, do things what you think is funny to yourself even though it may be embarrassing or stupid .. (but who cares). For example, in the clubs when there is no one on the dance floor or only a few people ... and a song I like is on I go dance of course without caring what others thinking. Feeling comfortable and relax not afraid to put my personality on the line will have girls approach you!

Next to talk to everyone in the venue whether it's uglies, fatties, guys, gays, hot girls, turbo hot girls ... when talking to people talk about things you want to talk about. Approach even if you are interrupting a group ... but make sure to talk about shit you want to talk about, talk about stupid shit just make sure to be enthusiastic even if you talk about boring stupid shit ... it's not about the content but pumping the peeps with energy. WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT TALK ABOUT THINGS THAT YOU THINK WILL IMPRESS THEM ... this is like sucking value or validating seeking and will come out awkward. Talk about shit you want to talk about, things that interest you and that energy will be real and congruent to you, add some energy to it, and don't be apologetic about the content, no matter how stupid it is.

But main point is talk to everyone! Don't care for the out come for each interaction.

Summary:

1) Be self entertaining (if you try to impress = dancing monkey)
2) Talk to everyone. When girls(specially the hot ones) see you talking to everyone, you come out appealing. Talk to uglies ... if they like you ... they can even introduce you to their hot friends. Talk to all the dudes and make them your allay ... joke around with them ... have fun with them ... etc. They can even help you out pick up later on ....
3) Have low standard of content when conversing, but instead pump them up with your energy.
4) Don't be afraid to put your personality on the line.
5) Don't be apologetic.
6) Have fun! Do shit you want to do ^_^ ...

Sincerely,

Donston

thanks for the help ill try it out Friday and let you know how i end up

Honestly, I think he'll just end up looking like a monkey. It seems like you have this idea in your head you aren't the fun guy or the National Lampoons idea of TOGA, TOGA, TOGA. You don't need to be that. But I get what you mean, you WANT to have fun. You don't want to sip on that fucking Kool-Aid in the corner while someone is making out.

The first thing is, practice your inner game. Realize it's all about you, not other people. Once you believe you are the most fun and exciting guy (even if this is not true or any past indications have not shown it), it's better than having the idea that "I'm always a boring guy and this time I wont!" That's a false necessity.

Once you understand you're cool (and I know that you are not some fake ass qualifier on my end) you're going to want to work the venue. Be fun, be cocky funny, try not so hard, don't keep trying to be like omg I'm amazing I can ...chug 8 gallons of beer. Those people are usually the "party monkeys" and usually attract women of low value.

Just be yourself.

If you THINK you're going to suddenly charm a whole fucking party - you're dillusional.

Wit, timing, comedy, public speaking and sarcasm aren't something you can pick up after reading a few posts. Live in your own skin! Make yourself a fluid concept - but live within your skill set.

You're looking to crash and burn...

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

so basically what im taking from all this is, dont be the center of attention, rather be fun, be myself, but talk to every one about whatever it is i wanna talk about (only if the conversation requires this) and just enjoy myself instead making sure everyone else has a good time. how does that souind?

What's YOUR game?

Are you the silent assassin, are you the Alpha, are you the funny guy, can you engage a 4-set and keep them interested and escelate? Can you understadn not only the bounce point, but also the true hook point?

Can you do this without thinking - does it just happen?

There are SO MANY variants to the game - and everyone SHOULD have their OWN game, otherwise they're regirgitating lines with limited success. That's it.

So... before we can draw a magic wand to tell you what to do... we need to know more about YOUR game...

But - as a generic statement - I never step out of MY game. There's no point. I'm comfortable, I'm confident, and I'm bold enough to approach, open and close in any setting... I've also been doing this for a VERY long time.

Good luck, let us know.

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

Fail!!!! Total Crash and burn, i went to the party and made no impression whatsoever. i did neg a couple girls here and there, but they had boyfriends, so i respectfully backed off, also kinda got pushed out of conversation by AMOGs. I thought i was past my AA, i saw plenty of HB7s & 8s but couldnt muster up the courage to even try and meet them, let alone try and talk to them. well I think in order to fix this situation, im gonna accomplish a newbie mission, or atleast my own form of a newbie mission, im visiting some friends 3 hours away and hopefully we will head out to a party tonight where i wont know any one, so all the more reason to just say hi and smile to every girl i see, kinda the same thing i guess. tell me what you guys think