I work with a gorgeous younger girl who I'd like to boink. She has been told that I have a girlfriend from others, though, and the other day during a convo with me about an unrelated subject (which involved men/women) she said "don't you have a longtime girlfriend?" I kind of avoided the question and laughed and kept the convo going with others. Am I shit out of luck if she thinks I'm a player? I barely know her and she doesn't give me IOIs.

Then again, maybe she does. She did ask this question TWICE when I didnt respond the first time. Also, when she came into the room of people and I said hi, she made reference to our last conversation which was a long time ago.

"do you remember that day when I had car trouble??? It cost me 800 bucks"

She normally isn't the type to come up to ME and say hi.

Keep in mind I have a ton of social proof in this place. The girl/guy ratio is like 4 to 1 and the other dudes are mostly AFCs

I see this chick once in a few weeks. Should I just tell her to come do something with me and give the correct response when she brings up the girlfriend question?

To answer your initial question: asking about a girlfriend is one of the biggest IOI's.
Apart from this it's up to you to decide what to do.

Go ahead.

Try, "I value loyalty and commitment among my friends. For me, relationships are valuable things maybe even more valuable than friendships. I have many friends who are women but I'm saving the serious relationship thing for the right person. I'm not in a hurry."

Another option is this:

Her: Are you a player?
You: Do you like players?
Her: No./Yes.
You: Good. So what's this thing in your spaghetti/baked macaroni/apple pie?

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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she is showing ''interest'' in you, however interest can be social or sexual, you have to escalate to figure out what sort of interest it is

there is no such thing as a sure thing, until you are balls deep, you will never know, you can have a girl absolutely hating on you who likes you, and you can have a girl flirting like crazy who has no intention of sleeping with you, compliance will tell you more then anything else, it is what she does, not what she says that is important

if you do have a girlfriend, you might as well be honest about it, chances are she has already made up her mind about that one no matter what you say, and if she knows already then you not answering her questions about it just seems like you have something to hide

you are either interested in her or you are not, if she has hangups about you being single or not is dependant on her and her moral stance on the issue, escalation will tell you if this is worth a shot or not, I suggest inviting her out if you are interested, if you get challenged with the girlfriend thing then just don't react and be upfront with something that holds congruent to your frame

you: lets go do xyz
her: don't you have a gf?

examples (do something that suites your personality)

''yes''
''for now, unless you turn out to be really awesome''
''currently yes''
''I have all kinds of girlfriends''
''is that a problem?''
''why?''
''no, things with her are not working out''

figure out what it is you want to communicate to her through your frame

just what ever you do, don't react to her little shit tests, don't make a big deal out of anything