I thought I had overcome AA, and thought that I had become accustomed to approaching women at campus.

I could say hello without freezing up, ask for numbers, flirt and such, HB 7, 8 9s no problem. But, in retrospect, I wasn't seriously asking them out and that made it a little easier on me, as this experience showed me.

Now there's a HB 8.5 in my lab class, and unlike the other HBs above, I was seriously considering a long term relationship for this particular one. But while she knew me and was on casually friendly terms, I had yet to state any form of interest in her or get her number - which I tried today, and this is where things did not go according to plan.

I'm talking to her causally, just after lab, and everything seems well - except me. AA all over again - the thing I spent 2 months working on. Suddenly, I don't know what to say, and what the hell I'm doing. I manage to croak out that I would like her number, but then she looks at me blankly and asks what for - and this is where I beat a hasty retreat, pussying out like the definitive AFC.

So I am wondering, what I could do to avoid another 'attack' like this? In casual terms, I am fine, but the moment something significant comes along I freeze up - AA all over again.

Or perhaps this is mild 'oneitis' and maybe I'm worrying too much over this one girl.

Your sagely advice is appreciated.

Crawl before you walk brother...

Practice, practice, practice.

Once you practice enough to where you don't give a fuck - you'll be golden.

If you want to do this PUA-thing... you actually have to put in LONG hours studying, learning, analyzing, etc... But NOTHING stops AA better than opening set after set after set.

There's no way NOT to if you want to do this well.




edit: Drop the set with this chick. Maybe you can recalibrate and try to hit it again down the road - but for now, let it go and move on.

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

Success breeds from failures. You must get over your bitchassness of failing. It is the best feedback ever invented to separate the men from the boys. Boys whine and cower in the back;Men persist and go for the risks.

Cheers guys,

Its easy to lose perspective when you get a little success. I guess my problem was treating approaching like a casual game rather than a serious one - thus only appearing fearless when it didn't count for anything.

You look it at from the negative point of view. Try to look at it from a positive point of view. You actually had the guts to go up to a girl in the lab who's pretty hot and ask her for her number. Dude be proud reward yourself.Another thing try not to work on your AA rather work on yourself. You can avoid this problem if you are direct and let the girl know from the start that your into her. Good luck.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"