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Next, she asked me if I can help her out with a chemistry problem, I said yah I did it, and I know how to do it, and I will show her later. After class, she asked me if I can come to the library and show her how to do that problem. I told her I am busy, I can't show it to her right now. Then I asked her when she is free, i meant not like in the library, or studying, like free free, not doing anything. She replied, she doesnt know her schedule.
Congratulations buddy.
You have just passed a
massive compliance test from the girl! However, she does not want to comply with your compliance test. You have to be more subtle so it wouldn't appear like a quid pro quo thing.
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Try this next time:
You: Are you free this Sunday? (Your compliance bait.)
Her: I don't know my schedule. (Compliance denied.)
You: Hey, I gotta go to take a pee. Can you hold this for me? I'll be back in a second. (Your smaller compliance request.)
Her: Okay. (Compliance approved.)
After you "pee" and come back...
You: Thanks a lot tweety bird. (Reward good behavior.)
Her: I gotta go.
You: Text me this evening. I'll give you a clue on the answer. (Your next compliance test with reward dangle.)
Evening comes, she texts...
Her: Hey, what's the clue? (Second compliance approved.)
You: Blah. Blah. Blah. Call me so I can explain it better. (Your 3rd compliance test.)
She calls. (Third compliance approved.)
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Train her to be comfortable complying to your baits, requests and commands before asking for the date.

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