Hi guys. I have a problem that really needs addressing. It is actually one of my core problems, and something that really gets me down.

It's about being witty. Let me just say that I am not a witty person. I make a few jokes here and there, but it takes a lot of effort, and especially when I'm with a girl I truly like, my witty sayings just go out the window.

I know wits is no the end all be all, but just as an example, today I was out with a few friends, and a good friend of mine is extremely clever and witty, and is obviously very attractive to girls. He is what you would call the alpha of the group. People just flock to him, all that stuff.

I am not that. I can get away with my looks and confidence when I approach a girl, and especially when I make a move I say it with confidence, and girls like it. But I feel like it's not about that. It's about being interesting, and with interesting comes being funny and witty.

As said I can be witty from time to time, but I just get outdone constantly by these guys who are just natural at it and are just naturally attractive. I am a very honest person, but this is one of my main problems, as if I'm spending time with a girl, I tend to run out of things to talk about. I don't use any routines, because in the beginning everything is fine. It's just after I spend a lot of time with her I slow down a lot, there are silences, etc.

Any help is really appreciated. Thanks guys.

Stop trying to be something you aren't. If you aren't witty - don't try to be, and realize there's a different tact you need to take, that's all.

Learn who you are, and accentuate that.

Involve yourself with her interests - listening actively, and ensure you never run out of things to say - also, learn to escelate and it'll reduce the fluff time.

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Thank you for your answer.

I know how to escalate, it isn't really an issue. It's after that escalation, for example, once I'm making out with a girl, that I tend to fuck up. I just don't have anything in my head to talk about, or even comebacks are either nonexistent, lame, or late.

I don't follow - if I make out with her, I'll fuck her.

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I agree. The problem isn't that you're not witty - it's that you're resisting who you are. Wit will come with time; just accept yourself and keep practicing.

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Thank you for your answers.