Alright so there is this girl that considers me one of the most attractive guys at our school...which I take as a big compliment since my college is large. I didn't ever speak to her at all last semester, I just saw her because she was in my ethnic community so we were around the same crowd a lot of the time. I would very often catch her looking at me.

Anyways this month its been a little different. I talked to her first when we were working on this event that this group hosted. We spoke very technically because we were working and didn't really get to know each other.

Now the second time I talked to her was when I was outside just playing basketball on the courts with some friends. I came late so I was shooting around on a nearby hoop lazily as she approached. She started smiling and asked why I am all by myself and why I am so shy. I didn't speak up out load at all to her and was really shy. She just laughed and giggled and purposely made it awkward. I even caught her talking to her friend about me a few times. We played some non competitive bball with her friend and I was just teasing her and making fun of her with her friend. After that I went to go play some 5v5 with my friends. She was cheering for me when I stole the ball, but she then left shortly after.

The third time we talked was in the library. I saw her sitting at the table with my crew and she turned and saw me and started waving and smiling. I smiled back but didnt wave and kinda looked away almost shyly. as i sat down one of my close friends who is a girl came and said i was her best friend. then this girl that I like all of the sudden goes "we are getting there" as in pretty soon we will be best friends. In my mind im like "WTF!!!" And I start getting irritated by the fact that she might just friend zone my ass. Her friend right after that remark told her jokingly that she probably annoyed me. This girl asks me if I was annoyed by her and I jokingly said yea while smiling. After that I returned to studying furiously, while she looked my way a few times throughout the time I was there but I never spoke and neither did she. Then when I was leaving I quietly talked to my friends who couldn't hear me at all. She started chuckling a little to my shyness I bet.


Anyways plain and simple, I feel like a complete dumbass to this girls I swear. I don't want to take advantage of her and just smash, but I don't want to be friend zoned either. I'm just so bummed out when she said that about the we are getting there...I couldn't see the seriousness in it when she said that but its the fact that she said it that makes me lose hope. She has been driving me crazy these past few days that I haven't seen her. I am just really wondering wtf shes thinking. Do I even have a chance or did I completely blow it by being this awkward insecure person.

Stop this passive pussy behavior and start acting more like a man. Being shy is irrelevant, some of the smoothest players I know are introverted and extremely laconic. Being INSECURE though, is another story. A girl wants a guy who is irrationally confident in himself, someone with a god complex who sees himself as a mortal idol. You are a Man, start acting like it.

This thing about her friend zoning you is pathetic. Stop letting it eat away at your mind. You're over analyzing it and it's feeding more into your insecurities. She said it because she wants PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY, that's what 99% of girls would've said. Because you haven't been in PURSUIT of her, she doesn't want to seem like SHE'S the one chasing you. Obviously she's not going to say "Best friends? No! I want to be his girlfriend." Any girl would've said "We're getting there." You need to learn to ignore a girl's banter.

What a girl says, what she says she feels, what she texts you, all that shit is irrelevant. You need to reduce your perception of women to their usable body parts. See every girl as a talking vagina, nothing more. Your goal is to get that vagina, all else is irrelevant.

Your internal resistance about smashing and dashing is a result of your social conditioning, let go of it. Girls WANT to be fucked, especially by men who are better than them. They want to be treated like secksual creatures, and like objects during secks.

Be more dominant, more confident, and stop second guessing your actions. She clearly wants you, you just need to embrace it. Women are not decorations to be adorned.

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OK this gi barely even says hi now. What should my next series of moves be when I see her again? I think she took the annoying comment to seriously, should I be like. ''Hey I missed you annoying me all the time'' or some shit?

Fuck No!

You need to seriously learn the push/pull.

Friendzone is bullshit - you'll know. Compliance test her.

But - Hakuna said it - MAN UP!

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what exactly do you mean by push and pukl? Can you reffer me to something? Thanks

"The Game" By Neil Strauss.

Dude, you need to crawl before you walk...

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i understand that, i just got the book, but dude, by the time im done reading this she will probably have moved on or probably picked up by some other dude considering that almost everyone that i know is trying to wife it up.

i guess i did a push by saying shes annoying and smiling. im guessing shes a normal girl and her ratio is 5 pushes to 1 pull? so now when she doesn't even talk to me or barely say hi like today, how do i push her 4 more times? or do i just pull?

We can't teach you game via a few posts. Rodeo is right, you're going to have to put some time in and learn this stuff. Invest in yourself. Get the fundamentals down before seeking advanced advice.

With that being said,

You said you go to a large college right? Problem solved. Go out and start opening other girls. You're success with any woman is correlated to your level of confidence with them. So the more comfortable you become around attractive women, the closer you'll be to landing your desired girl. Who knows, you might even find a girl you prefer more in the process.

If you want to learn about push-pull and the other fundamentals, pick up a used copy of "The Mystery Method" on amazon, $9 well spent. If you're truly pressed for time, then Strauss's "The Game" is a waste of time. Good read? Yes. But it's purpose is entertainment, not education.

Then you move on to another set.

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