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TARGET's Background : 5'6 Brunette. Rating - 9. Serbian/European. Great personality, sarcastic, funny and EXTREMELY down to earth. Touchy feely/smiles a lot. Approachable and huge on family and friends. Seems like gf material unless I read her completely wrong.
1st MEETING : I met this recruiter over lunch. I had a no show in the first meeting so I told her I'd make it up to her by taking her to lunch. She was an easy 9 or even 10 (I checked her out on LinkedIn). So I started negging her playfully telling her things like I had to make sure that she wouldn't STALK me before I met her....she laughed the whole time and was giving me IOI's from across the table. Hair combs, leaning forward, telling me you're funny, tilting head e.t.c e.t.c
After lunch. I gave her a hug, got her number, left. Later that week I invited her to a fashion show that I was going to and then a lounge after. We talked on the phone a few times and it was mostly teasing/playful negging.
2nd Meeting: She came to the show with her friend. I gave her a compliment telling her she cleaned up well even though I thought she'd embarras me with her looks. So the night was going well we were chit chatting while my buddy separated the mother hen (who was also hot) from her.
Then a weird thing happened. Another one of my friends (whose also a good PUA) saw his ex (even though he was with another chick that night) and got ticked off about it. He started negging my date and at one point while she was saying a story out of the blue he opened a case of jewelery for me to approve that he was going to give his date's BEST Friend/Mother hen since it was her bday.
My date got super offended because she was saying something and she got completely shut down. She was being nothing but nice the entire time to him. Negging wasn't necessary.
She wanted to leave so I took my wing and left with him and her friend to another rooftop lounge. I recovered well and we talked a lot. She was pushing me the whole time giving me IOI's and I was doing the same. Comfort was built. I kino escalated and just to see if she wanted me I moved away a little every time she touched my arms. But she moved closer.
Her friend had to go to church the next morning so they had to leave. We exchanged hugs on the promise that we'd all hang out sometime again to a comedy club or something. It was a great night.
THIS MORNING : She texted thanking me for inviting them and that my friends are really nice and that both of them had an amazing time.
MY RESPONSE : You're welcome, your friend is awesome too. You can thank me over dinner. I can do Wed or Thu this week. Thu is better.
HER RESPONSE after 7 hours : I'm not sure this week will work for me. Sorry for the late reply I had things going on all day. Good luck at your new job, I'll let you know if anything fun goes on this weekend.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Option 1 - Not TEXT back at all until she lets me know what 'FUN' is going on this weekend.
Option 2 - Say something completely off topic but funny as if I didn't really care for the last message
Option 3 - Wish her a good rest of the week like she did (LAME!)
Option 4 - Tell her I'm going to be out of town this weekend but have a great one.
PLEASE HELP!!!! I got the text at 9PM tonight so I am hoping to respond/not respond by end of day tomorrow.
Are you in Europe? Or in North America? Is she a landed Immigrant, or born in North America?
The reason I ask is because the closer she is to her Serbian roots, the harder it may be for you to date. From my experience, Serbian women tend to stick to their own kind when it comes to dating. They are very family oriented, and tend to date Serbian men. I am not saying this is the case for all of them but I found the closer they were to their roots, the closer they stay.
Based on your post, It seems to me that although you had a great time together and it seemed like there was a sort of mutual interest, you have failed to make your "Intent" clear. I got the impression that it was more of a friendly encounter then anything.
What I know about Serbian women is they like an aggressive man. They put a lot of emphasis on looking good and dressing extremely stylish. So all signs are pointing to being aggressive and complimentary.
I am not saying jump her bones, but be aggressive in trying to get the girl. Show your intent of interest. Be persistent. Keep the nice guy persona, but show her your balls. They like testosterone driven men. Keep her culture in mind and what type of man her father may be. I know quite a few Serbian men and they have an ultra aggressive mentality when it comes to women.
With all this in mind. Make your next text an indication of your interest. Make it a strong statement. Be bold. Make your intent clear.
At this point in time you really have nothing to lose, if she has interest, your strong statement will impress her, if she has no interest, she will let you know as she must respect the strength of your comment.
Based on your current demeanor, I suggest you make the text, polite, complimentary but very bold.
Something like this: I really enjoyed spending time with you, you are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. I am truly intrigued by you and I feel compelled to pursue you. Tell me when you are available so I can take you out and show you the man that I truly am. ( put the ball in her court)
I know this sounds over the top, you don't have to use it but as long as you get the jist of what I am saying.
If you cannot be this bold, then wait a couple of days, then just send her a random text, focus on showing her your interest. Do not bring up any previous encounters. Create a new page, one where you are an aggressive male, be sexual, be a beast. She has already seen the nice guy side of you, now show her the alpha. You must affect her thought process, you must get into her head.
If this fails, at least she will see you as a man, and respect you for it.
CHAT
