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You have to escalate with her. Here is some advice I gave another member earlier:
"On the other hand, not escalating with a woman, often times carries very serious consequences."
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"She is going to wonder why you aren't making the moves and this typically results in one of three conclusions.
1.) You aren't attracted to her.
2.) You aren't confident and decisive enough to take what you want.
3) She backwards-rationalizes it and concludes that it didn't happen because she wasn't into you.
Rejection hurts. With the first option, she has to consider the fact that she may not be attractive. If she's an attractive woman of value, you can bet that she'd rather consider the other two options in an effort to avoid pain. If she takes the second option, then she has to face the fact that she incorrectly evaluated you as a man with survival value, and has wasted a considerable amount of time. This can also lead to embarrassment. The last option is the most likely and it's a death sentence. When a woman decides that the chemistry isn't there, the game is over.
You're in the fast lane to the friend zone."
Take control of the situation and make your move.
Appreciate the advice bro, I really do.
I do understand that escalation really needs to happen, when I'm gaming with a girl and the tension is there, the more it happends the more I become disinterested over time. I suppose it's natural.
I absolutely understand everything You say and it's all just a mental mess. I'm generally a very confident guy and it's not exactly the confidence that throws me off my horse, I just spend to much time thinking instead of acting.
I've seriously had some amazing conversations with her and She's been telling me over & over again how much she likes me etc yet I still cant make the move, it's rather sad. When it comes down to escalation / closing i'm seriously retarded. It's like i'm trying to find excuses why I should wait.
Anyway, enough is enough. I've decided to ask her out again next weekend and escalate the shit out of the situation. Open up great, escalate physically and go in for a K-close.
Thanks alot for that mate, Your advice has hit the right spot and I'm gonna go for it.