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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 12:07 am 
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You are friends with. It seems I've spent so much time on gaming girls, I don't really know how to act towards the ones that I'm friends with. I started teasing and doing all of that stuff on these two girls that I've been friends with, and they haven't texted me in weeks. They didn't seem to dislike it. It's just that I use to be the guy that would always give them compliments and be their emotional support and when I met up with them again I didn't buy into any of that. When I text them they are very short with me and make up all of these excuses of why they can't hangout. What should I do/text to get my friends back?


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 2:10 am 
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It happens. I think when these girls see one side of you, and then you banter and they're like "um woah? whered he come from" its normal for them to maybe not want to talk to you again...but wow it's a strong reaction if they were your "Friends" you'd think they would adapt to the new "you"

Sadly, it seems they're more used to having the nice pussy chump around than the new confident you thats more banter, and that can be more sincere on another level (they just havent given you the chance).

If they did, they would be able to talk and see you're STILL there...you're just able to do more than just "offer support"

Move on.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 2:25 am 
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It happens. I think when these girls see one side of you, and then you banter and they're like "um woah? whered he come from" its normal for them to maybe not want to talk to you again...but wow it's a strong reaction if they were your "Friends" you'd think they would adapt to the new "you"

Sadly, it seems they're more used to having the nice pussy chump around than the new confident you thats more banter, and that can be more sincere on another level (they just havent given you the chance).

If they did, they would be able to talk and see you're STILL there...you're just able to do more than just "offer support"

Move on.
Yeah I agree. They have many girl friends that are 8s and 9s that get a lot of more attention than them. They have low confedence. They would tell me to call them at a certain time and I wouldn't and I thought I was doing the right thing by having my own thing going on, but I guess they see me as their emotional support. They do have several other guyfriends that are "wusses" in order to get their confidence up. I suppose I could text them trying to be nicer and supportive since they were great to have as friends and I like them. But they saw my wussy side so their most likely not going to feel attracted to me I guess.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 9:32 am 
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The fast way out of the friendzons is by making yourself valuable by telling these girls stories about other girls you were with. A faster way is by being seen with other girls. The fastest way is saying auf wiedersehen.

But even in case you're seen with other girls this won't guarantee anything.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 2:49 pm 
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I find it funny how often men get immersed into PUA and forget how to interact with women on a non sexual basis (Not a whack at you or anything just in general).

Picture one of your bros. Now throw a pair of tits and ass on him. Thats how it should be.

A female FRIEND is not a girl your trying to bang. You need to emotionally invest yourself in her. And I think that's the hardest part for most "PUAs" to understand. We are told to keep an emotional barrier and play a numbers game with various different girls, meanwhile in the case of friendship we need to do the complete opposite.

Get comfortable and complacent with her. Don't be afraid to be a fool, or say the wrong thing, or not be "alpha": None of that matters.

Text her often, keep in touch, and try to make your intentions as pure as possible.

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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 10:10 pm 
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This recently happened to me too

Theres this HB8 I've been great friends with for years..I've always wanted to fuck. got a couple kisses, but nothing lead anywhere. She'd always be like "You're just desperate", or "you're like my brother", or "you're such a great friend"

Shit like that..

Well I started dating a girl, who moved in with me..and we dated for a lil over a year before she moved out. The same day, my "friend" hit me up on facebook after seeing my new status is single...So her and her pussy boyfriend stop by with some beers. she leaves giving me a hug and saying if I need anything to hit her up. First off, I don't "NEED" a damn thing....But I would love to have more people to hangout with...so I'd hit her or her bf up. The 3 of us use to hangout ALL the time..but this time its different. I've got a different attitude. I'd rather bust her balls and tease her, and demonstrate that I don't need shit from her, and not hear the words "you're desperate" ever again......

So one day, I hit her up.."Hey, you wana ride with me to the outlets, I need to get some clothes and new shoes"......."fuck yeah! I'm happy you thought of me and called!"....told her I'd be there in a half hour

Her boyfriend came along with us....which I don't mind, as I said, the 3 of us were great friends.

We go shopping, end up going to Pizza Hut for food....her bf doesn't have any money..so me and her have to split the bill.....And she wanted to make a big deal about me not paying for her bf....I was like look...I ate pizza, I didn't eat no cheese sticks or chicken wings, so why in the hell should I pay for them? I'll pay for half of the pizza you helped me eat though.

she got mad that she had to pay for her boyfriend lmao like really, wtf


needless to say, this time around, I demonstrate a different attitude than I did a year or 2........and she either doesn't like it... Or she loves it, but doesn't want to ruin her home life and is keeping a distance.

She even sees my parents at the grocery store sometimes and mentions that shes going to stop by....but she doesnt. and when I call the plans never go thru and we don't hang out........Its kinda weird how it works man


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 10:59 pm 
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A girl will show interest in you for one of two reasons.

(1) They are attracted to you. It might be secksual, but that doesn't mean they'll throw themselves at you. It just means there's secksual tension between you two and she feels it. If you're a natural or you have tight inner game, you'll notice this with most of the girls you're around. If you can nurture a magnetic personality, people will want to be around you.

(2) They are not attracted to you, but they like the attention you give them. You might be funny, fun to talk with, it could be anything. Point is, you make them feel good but not necessarily in a DHV sort of way.

Assuming your friends were #2, the reason why they stopped talking to you was because you took away what they wanted from you. If there's no DRIVING force, they won't be inclined to initiate contact. When this happens, you need to make a rational choice. Like the other people commented above, you could determine that investing in them is simply NOT worth it. You'd be better off spending your time working on yourself or gaming chicks you're attracted to. OR, if you actually LIKE being friends with them, then you need to be complacent with NOT trying to DHV them, texting them often, etc. It might seem counter intuitive, but sometimes, doing it is worth it simply because they will expand your social circle and give you access to other girls. If you truly ENJOY a girl's company, and you're not just feeding off of their attention and vice versa like a beta orbiter, it's ok to NOT care about "game" per say.

On the other hand, you'll want to avoid girl-friends if your dynamic with them presupposes that you're a beta. If you're trying to develop yourself, the implicit assumption that you will supplicate to them will always hold you back. It's basic psychology, people tend to act in the way that they think other's EXPECT them to act.

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 2:05 pm 
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It's good to have female friends but don't be their emotional support. You probably couldn't give a shit so don't act like you do.

You can tease them and touch them and just generally be fun rather than the go-to-guy. I was a go-to-guy with one friend but now I just completely turn off when the emotions come out.


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