I always see posts saying you need to get the girl to chase. Let her do most of the talking, let her contact you first, ect. Bot how do you got about making this happen, because I know that many times for example, if i don't talk to a girl first she is not going to contact me at all. So how do you get the girl chasing, contacting you instead of needing to be contacted, and all that jazz?

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Honestly, it should be a mutual effort. Either she interested or not. Both of you are going to reach the same finish line and you want to save precious time so don't fall into this trap of making her chase you.

It's very simple dude.. Think of it as a child, when you give him lots of sweets he gets used to it and he'll come chasing after you for more sweets right? Girls are exactly the same, they want attention, so at first do you work and give them the attention they want but NOT too much then just back off and that's when they'll come after you. Because they are used to that attention and they still want it so they'll come looking for it..

The pick up method is more of a common sense than anything else pal!

This requires a huge body of knowledge.

• 1. Build up your sexual attractiveness first. Here are some scientific ways to get you started, gaming-a-shy-girl-vt130815.html I've listed 4 items here and a link to the scientific journal.
  
  2. Build up your social attractiveness second. This will make girls comfortable with you enough to open you. Learn about social proof and propinquity. You can read the Wikipedia articles on these. You can also download for free some of the pdf files at the References section of each Wikipedia article.
  
  3. Give girls an emotional roller coaster ride. You are using the dopamine effect here to your advantage. This is a long explanation as you can use many techniques to achieve this.
  
  4. Stress out the girl. You are using norephinephrine (the stress hormone) to your advantage here. Stress makes sexual sparks fly.
  
  5. Bait the girl to qualify herself to you and then accept her qualification. After acceptance, bait for compliance such as letting her cook you meals or letting you kiss her.
  
  6. Make deep emotional connections with the girl. There are many ways to do this.
  
  7. Bang her brains out. The tremendous oxytocin secretions of women having multiple orgasms can be very addictive.

You'll have to do your own research for now. Baiting the girl to chase can be a proactive, structured approach if you know the general principles behind the techniques.

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TL;DR AT THE BOTTOM
ok lets assume you're a product, and a girl is a customer

when a customer is looking for a product, they are looking for a product that they see value in, value will be subjective to the customer,

for you specifically, it could be looks, money, status, personality etc.
you have to maximize the value that you project for your product to bait a buyer into investing (chasing etc.)

if the buyer sees no value, they won't invest, so you have to at a bare minimum start pitching the product (get a girls number, start talking with her, flirt with her etc.)

when a product is in high demand but low supply, people tend to want to get that product and will invest more heavily in the product (when the girl likes you alot, and you make yourself scarce, she will chase)

when the product is in low demand and high supply, then you really have to sell the shit out of your product and expect that not too many people will want to invest in the product unless they are looking for a cheap deal, or can't afford a more valuable product (if the girls you are after don't find you attractive, you might want to try a little harder to make it easier for them to sleep with you *take the responsibility off them and make yourself more vunrable so they are less so*, at the same time approaching more girls of your tastes doing the same thing, either that or lower your standards)

finally, the more heavily invested in a product a buyer is, the harder it is for the buyer to back out of the deal, as they will lose all the money they have invested, thus making their investment a waste (the more time and connection a chick has with you, the harder it is for her to leave things be)

TL;DR VERTION:
build rapport with a girl who finds you attractive, give some really good attention to her, when they crave it, take it away, the girl will then chase

side note:you gotta just keep putting yourself out there florg, confidence will get built through you stepping outside your comfort zone, it is mentally stressful, and totally feels frightening to make yourself vunrable over and over, but eventually you become stronger and it is worth it, training your confidence is like training your body at the gym man, you just have to stay consistant and keep at it, and eventually you will improve, and your gains will be based on the effort you put in, no pain, no gain, the confidence won't just one day appear there, you have to just realize it already exists inside you, you just have to trust yourself and face your demons to see them for what they really are

Personally, I find being chased a little annoying.

http://chiefpua.blogspot.com/2012/03/ma ... e-you.html

That's an article I wrote on the matter of getting a girl to chase you.

If your goal is a long term relationship that is based on love and sex is just incidental to it, then making the woman chase you is the natural way to do it.

Several prominent scientists noted that human genes changed very little for several thousands of years compared to human memes. Various scientific evidences also indicate that women are hunters of men. Here's the abstract of a sample study, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11146304

We can postulate that in the Hunting and Gathering Age, the risks involved in hunting for protein is higher than gathering root crops and fruits. Hence, protein hunters in this age were men while food gatherers were usually women. In this sense, men hunted animals for food while women hunted the best animal hunters (men) for better chances of survival of their babies.

Foremost expert and scientific researcher on love and courtship, Dr. Helen Fisher, also notes that lovers "are goal-oriented and strongly motivated to win the beloved" on page 88, paragraph 2, here, http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/ar ... npolve.pdf Thus, baiting women to chase you gives you a natural edge versus other lovers.

I am of the strong opinion that natural game should be based on nature and not be treated as a marketing technique for branding and differentiation. Using nature to our advantage is never a bad strategy.

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