I originally put this in the introduce yourself section but I realize this is more than a simply HELLO AGAIN FELLAS =P.

I was a very active member for about 2 years prior to the beginnings of my relationship and haven't posted checked the forums since. Anyway, I guess i'm glad to be back in a way. I read once, the best way get over someone is to get under someone else haha, so my question is has anyone had success, fun times with online dating and if so what sites do you recommend? I do feel that I understand I need to get myself into gear and not sulk, but we'll see how things go.

I'm 24 years old and what do you mean by avatar? I'm looking for something casual to raise my testosterone and "alpha male feelings(sexual, protector, provider, etc) feelings that I felt when I was finally getting my game going( after about a year in a half of PUA mentality and daily implementation) I feel that I lost that somewhat caveman/primitive understanding how woman and myself work after about 1.5-2 years into my relationship.

I got to a point where my frame was SOLID, i said what i want, did what i want(yet I was empathic and got over the whole neg theory, always trying to DHV, and was just became a more genuine and honest human being) and if someone wasn't feeling it, it's all good because LIFE is good and I'm grateful to be alive.

Somewhere that disappeared and I've always felt that unless I am able to be a MALE and be sexual with females, then I'll lose my ability and intuition to do so and hence feel less like a MAN(my testosterone levels not spiking during constant male/female sexuality..who knows?)

Like when I would cheat on my GF i still felt like a man AND it made me feel like I appreciated her and loved her more because to me that was purely physical but it still allowed me to not feel like i'm castrating myself by "now i'm in a relationship, no more pussy, no more boobs, no more kisses, hanging out with girls will make my GF feel unworthy and i value her so I don't want to make her feel that way, etc" if you feel me?

You are male, nobody can ever take that away from you short of chopping off your balls.

Online dating can be easy or a nightmare, depending on what you're looking for. Some girls are there for validation purposes only (to see how many guys respond to their profile and nothing more), others are there for sex and enjoy the fact that they can indulge without fear of facing social repercussions, few are there for finding legitimate relationships, and the ones that are have a very rigorous screening process - in other words, you'd probably have an easier time finding a relationship with a woman offline than online.

That said, who's to say what can happen. I know of a few people (including my sister) who found love online. It does happen. Personally I much prefer the real world as when you're meeting somebody online its all too easy to project onto that person, particularly in situations where you don't meet for several weeks.

There's an entire section on online dating on this forum, you might be better served checking that forum out.

we can both agree that although we're all males, there are DEGREES (low quality - high quality and everything in between). Who wants low quality? I certainly don't want a low quality female so it's bullshit to think that someone should want me, as a low quality male. But high quality = living in the present, pursing goals and constantly improving on skillsets, making money because I need to take care of a family and some point, and have girls want to fuck and suck me because they want their BF's or husbands to all be as such.

I'm not looking for a relationship. I'm looking to improve my jujitsu, study for my physical training certification, improve guitar, read and educate myself, and have a big pair of tits, nice ass to fuck a few times a month or different girls a week. I'm also interested in relearning my sense of man and woman and the dynamics that occur both sexual and non-sexual because i just think girls are interesting. But a new girlfriend? No way

So, then, how do you explain desirable girls falling for 'bums'? It happens all the time.

Bums in terms of no financial success/motivation? No skillsets whatsoever such as a struggling but talented/hardworking musician? I don't believe that any high status or desirable woman would fall for a guy who lives at home, is unhealthy, plays video games all day long, spends ZERO time on any skillsets, has no desire to do anything other than sit idle all his life. Unless this girl knew him when they were young and sympathizes for some reason, i can't see ANY way a girl would want someone like that and i don't believe anyone can have a high status girl enjoy, want to, and loves a person or situation/person such as that.