So I met this girl about 3 months ago now but she seems to be giving me a hard time.

I like her but don't want to play games (apparently she doesn't either, or so she says...)

Basically what happened is since our first date we have been in touch a lot via text and phone calls. I did not see her for two weeks after our first date and she went quiet and was making less contact. She then told me not to bother calling her because she wasn't interested anymore. I managed to turn her around and we met up a few more times, things went well. She ended up staying at mine one night but after that i went on a 3 week holiday.

During the course of the holiday she stayed in contact and everything seemed fine when i got back. I injured my leg on holiday and had to rest for a week and she was understanding.

I kept saying that it won't be long until we see each other again etc. But the next weekend i went away for the weekend to see some mates. She went quiet again but i called her later that week and we arranged to meet this week.

Since we spoke she seems less interested and i didn't even get a reply from a text yesterday asking how she was and that i was looking forward to seeing her.

So to sum things up, I probably haven't made much of an effort to see her but she is never direct with me and last week even denied being annoyed. Now she is ignoring me so do I send her another text/speak to her and sort this all out or do I just ignore her and wait?

So far I have sent the one text yesterday with no response and am not sure what the next action should be. Or have I lost her already?

I feel like this girl is playing games with me every time I cannot see her because I'm busy doing something else.

I think you need more girls/other things in your life.

Sounds like this one girl is really messing your head up and no one girl should have that much power.

yes she is actually driving me mental.

But when this first happened she just said "I'm not usually like this, i just can't be bothered to go through the same shit I went through with my Ex, he never wanted to see me and you just keep coming up with excuses"

This was just two weeks after our first or second date. That's the only time she has called me out on it but since then I can tell when she gets annoyed because she goes quiet.

I am seeing one other girl at the moment, but I want to keep seeing both girls for now because I don't know which one i like better.

Although right now I'm thinking of ditching the one who is ignoring me because I genuinely feel that she playing an attention game. But i know exactly what will happen if i feed her attention - she will put it down to weakness and shut me down. So i can't win can I?

You can always win.

Just change what your idea of a win is in this situation.

If you have another girl who isn't "driving you mental" why not keep her, cut the other one for now (doesn't have to be forever) and in the meantime aim to meet five or ten more quality options?

I really see no downside to the above. Sounds like a win to me, at least from the perspective of not being driven insane by some mind gaming female any more!

I hate passive-aggressive behavior.

I'd sooner just leave it alone and not prod at her as the attention-seeking behavior is a component or motivation behind passive aggression.

passive-aggressive behavour - ahhhhh so this is what she is doing?

you know what, I'm just going to leave it. I have sent her a text. One is enough, she can respond if she wants.

I love how these girls say they hate being messed around and then end up playing their own game. I know I should have made more effort to see her but I have my own life. I said I would make more of an effort a few weeks back but because we are not close I find it hard to do.

The other girl is much more laid back (just not as hot).

Just for the record, this girl is an 8 so I don't understand how she can be so insecure.

Thanks

Sounds like you made a wise move. You can always pick her back up if you get bored in the future, but personally I wouldn't

Now you need to focus on meeting girls who are both cool and hot. There are plenty out there and finding them is fun

I have no long term interest in this girl, I just wanted sex because she is hot and we both have the same music interests (a big bonus for me). Maybe she saw through me and thinks I am only interested in the one thing.

She kept sending me pictures of herself too, every day. This also spooked me out after a while.

I'll try and find some hot and cool girls, but that's not easy for me. I have a lot of work to do it seems.

For now, I am definitely going to ignore her. Do you think even if she messages me I should not reply now?

I agree with the other post on you getting more girls. What will happen if you get another 2 girls in your rotation is that you will stop texting her, or she might see you with one of them. Both of these will make her curious and you because you have options you will naturally act alpha.

Right got it, I will begin my quest to find more girls.

Easier send than done.

I'm going to stop texting her anyway. I haven't sent one since yesterday when i was ignored.

I might however get in touch tomorrow just to see if she is still pissed at me and maybe have a chance to prove that i do actually want to spend time with her and that I have not been making up excuses. Just been too busy!

But more girls definitely sounds like the right way to go

right guys, quick update.

It's been 6 days now since that last text I sent and i still have not heard from her.

However, two days ago she "liked" a music video she posted on my facebook last week and last night she posted another music video on my facebook (but the link didn't work).

She's definitely game playing

What should be my next move?

You can message her just keep it aloof. At all costs you want to not give off any needy signs. It will put her back in control, just stay aloof and relaxed and invite her to some even you are going to anyways.