| This is a personal account of the mating dance. I went through it, during a 3 day period. Now I have a girlfriend.
The first interaction
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The first interaction between a man and a woman is symbolic. The man and woman notice a connection. The man offers something to the woman. For me, I laid a cookie on her desk. The man shows some kind of benefit he can add to her life.
The second interaction
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This time, the man takes it to a deeper level, showing true devotion in the face of danger. For me, I gave her the two cookies I had sitting on my desk. The feelings a man goes through will be immense. He will feel the fear, he will fear the terror. As I approached her desk, I felt my heart pounding. I knew rejection was possible. I did it anyway, proving my attraction for her.
The next few interactions
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The couple prove they can be vulnerable and trusting around each other. The next day, I went into class. I sat down, and I became vulnerable. I rested, I yawned several times to let her know my guard was down. To let her know I trusted her. She also delved into her vulnerability as time went on. And when I knew she was vulnerable, it was time to go in. I went in, I felt my fear, I felt my terror. I felt loving and caring and wanting to keep her safe. I went over and had her give me her phone number. The only words that were spoken were "is that your name?"
"Can We Really Make it?"
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The couple tests each other, seeing if both can survive with time apart.
That day, I texted her. We texted and flirted for a while. Then, I decided. I don't want to text her anymore. I was satisfied, and wanted to go do my own thing.
Do you know what I felt? I felt scared shitless. What if I stop texting her, and she doesn't like me? That's the big test.
If I can stop communication for a period of time, and come back and she is still attracted, we are a good match. Our masculine and feminine are balanced.
Your woman will feel the very same thing you feel. When you approach a girl, she feels the same fear you do when you approach. When you feel anxiety for not texting her, she feels the same anxiety BECAUSE you're not texting her.
That's why women don't like insecurity. When you're insecure, women will feel insecure. The key, is to be OK with it. I was scared. I was frightened. I was OK with it.
When you are freely feeling emotion around women, they won't feel the same emotion you are. All they'll be feeling is a lot of sensation. Which, if they feel emotions around you, they'll be attracted to you.
If the couple can come back together and still love each other, it is time for the commitment.
The Personal Commitment
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Both man and woman must make a definite commitment to mating.
I asked her to hang out, and she was being flaky. I told her "I'm all in, and I want us hanging out this Saturday. Are you?"
I made my commitment. It was time to see if she was going to make hers. And guess what, she did. And now we're dating.
The Final Mating Dance
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The Final Mating Dance. This is where the date happens. The final dance includes the man and woman going out, and making a bond. Beginning to connect on a deep, emotional level. Then, as they return to the mating den, the final test happens. The woman gets cold, distant, she begins to test her man for trustworthiness. Is he going to hurt me? She judges this by your reaction. If you get insecure and needy, she will not trust you.
I want to make a clarification. "Getting insecure/mad/needy" is a misnomer. It's OK to feel insecure, mad, needy. What women don't like is when you act on it. If you're like "I'm feeling pissed off / insecure / needy right now," that's fine.
What's not fine is "I'm so fucking pissed off at you!" or "why aren't you talking to me?"
Maintain your composure.
The connection is established. Both man and woman return to their den. Assuming the man is trustworthy in her eyes, they will return. It is time for mating.
The man introduces the woman to his den. He makes his own home, his personal home that he cherishes, as much her house as his. He shows her around. He introduces her to his utmost secret life. And then, they mate.
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