Hey guys, basically the situation at hand is there's this really flirty girl. We work together, and I haven't tried anything game wise, save being myself. The situation? She's got a bf, but is decently flirty with me. I offered 2 make her a DJ Mix and she's increased her game since then. Do I act on it? Cuz her bf is a huge tool, let me know what I should do guys[/code]

You need to know what YOU want out of the situation and right now I'm not getting a clear sense that you do.

I agree with Lockdown, you need to definitively know what it is you want out of the situation. This set is difficult not only because she has a boyfriend, but also because you work with her.

This community is clearly divided on the morals of gaming a girl who is in a relationship. Some guys can do it without any concern, and some guys despise the thought of it. You're going to have to form your own opinion on it and go from there.

The community is also divided on whether or not one should hook up with a coworker. Many will claim that it's okay while others say that it's a recipe for disaster. If you value your job, it's better to be safe than sorry.

Put some thought into these two points of interest and decide what you want. If you decide that you want to proceed, we'll advice from there.

I had a situation pretty much exactly the same. You absolutely NEED to know what you want out of this situation, because you can't really just casually sleep with someone you work with because one of you might get feelings or want something more and get hurt and then it gets awkward!

Secondly, she has a boyfriend, now I say you should game her as normal but there are some precautions. She might love him, but be bored or want to flirt with something new but ultimately keep going back to him. The girl I slept with a few times would one week be crazy into me and then keep going back to her bf, this totally screwed with my head and I ended up being in a bad place and the constant withdrawal of her approval made it more important to me than it ever should have been and I started to like her more and eventually I descended into a horrible vortex of neediness and the situation was bad until I sorted my head out and gamed other girls.

Sometimes it can be difficult for a girl to just cut her emotional ties with her boyfriend even if she is willing to sleep with someone else, just make sure you don't get burned or hurt.

I'd totally game a girl who's willing to be gamed, boyfriend or no. Thing is you're going to have to be a good sell because she's got more to lose than you; that is, the comfort/coziness a relationship has to offer. If you can convince her you've got something better to offer she'll likely bite.


Tell her you'd love to spend some time with her but fear it wouldn't be a good idea because you just cant control yourself around her cause she turns you on so damn much