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The reason that UK guys are scared to peacock, is fear of being laughed at and lacking the frame to make it work. It is not necessary but helps if u can maintain ur frame. Ali G and Borat had powerful comedic frame to make it work, to the point of people being scared to laugh at them, due to fear of being called a racist.
Really, I've known a good couple of uk puas who like peacocking.. and I wouldn't consider the comedy creations of Baron Sacha Cohen as a good example to follow!
My note isn't that pea-cocking sucks -I often use one of my many Trilby hats to that effect, just place it on a girls head and that's an instant flirty little "hello"- but that regular pea-cocking as part of a guys walk about style usually tells you that this individual has trouble (or doesn't have any interest in) syncing in with other people.
Good communication IMO isn't all about "controlling frame" it's about finding meeting points and using these to guide people in the direction you want.
Puas sometimes have the bad habit of trying to make the communicative process into a battle of control, trying to force people to get in line with their wants and their feelings about the situation. Now this can be a helpful mindset to begin with as new guys try to figure out how to assert and express themselves.
But IME you can run into a brick wall when you use this model as the basis of ALL your communicative efforts. Take a look at this forum for example, an entire web-site filled with guys who are supposed to be experts in communication and they spend most of their time bickering like 8 year olds over differences in PU ideology.
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