Okay, quick background. I really don't seem to be able to build a real connection with anyone woman. I have had my fair share of flings, but never ever had a real relationship. All the flings were mainly physical and just a lot of flirting. I m naturally witty and I m good at making random conversations, but the thing is these conversations have no real depth to them! And these flings eventually die out coz I lose interest real quickly.

I don't have too many friends who are girls because I either tend to flirt with them for something casual or not bother at all. But, I really need some tips on how I can go about actually building something meaningful! Any advice on how I can do that coz I m really really lost when it comes to that!

Looking to hear some tips that can really help me out here guys! Thanks!

Any one??

Read up on building comfort and report and then practice the hell out of it!

In a nutshell, find things you have in common, let her open up to you on a deeper level, try and make emotional connections between the two of you.

Some good topics of conversation in this area -

*Her hopes, dreams, ambitions
*Past experiences (preferably deep ones)
*Things you are both passionate about

Any specific questions feel free to ask!

I have this same problem like i find the girl attractive and i can flirt and occasionally hook up but i cant seem to connect on a deeper level its just like i cant find them interesting enough or i cant feel that omg this is the girl i wanna be with for a long time type feeling

You've got to find interesting girls man! Have a solid idea in your mind of the kind of girls you want to meet. Maybe they should have certain interests, or maybe they should be educated, you know, whatever it is.

And don't always think long term, you can have a lot of fun in the short term and seeking report can help you get that fun!

Thanks for the reply Lockdown!

I m starting to feel the reason I never try building a real connection with a girl and move beyond the "fluff" talk is because I feel I may not have enough to offer a woman. I at times let insecurities creep into my mind that I don't have enough to offer a woman, and thats the reason I guess I just stick to the fun, flirty conversations!

Any tips on what I should do to add real depth and color to my own personality? I mean I guess most people would say take up some hobbies which I do already have, but at times I still feel insufficient.