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There are a lot of different methods and books about becoming a pick up artist, I myself am very new (been aware of PUA for about a week now) and currently making my way through MM as from what I have been reading on the forum a lot of people say it is a good system for new people to get into it.
However last night I was out and practising for the first time in field, unfortunately as this was a party for my cousin (who is much older) there was not many single ladies of around my age, but instead of taking this as a bad sign I practiced a few routines like ESP who lies more men or women ect and practicing my body language just to get a bit used to them and this was going very well.
Later on in the even I even opened with someone of my age and was going pretty well, however after a few mins my mind froze and I ended up walking away. Thinking it through I realised why I froze, it was not because I did not know the material it was because it did not feel 'natural' to me, I did not feel like I was being myself, I also was struggling to read her body language (something I normally can do quiet easily when around people), the amount I had to drink may also have counted to this.
So my question is, should I keep going with the MM for now just get experience and perhaps write off last night as new boy mistakes? or should I try another method instead, and if you think I should try another method is there one you could suggest that might suit me a bit better?
I'm 19 and HAD the exact same problem. I met an old cutie from school over Xmas who I haven't seen for years. We both had huge crushes on each other when she moved off.
I thought bingo I'm in! Uses openers etc just fucked me over big time and she went to someone else.
I cannot stress it enough: go natural game, it's a little trickier to start with but it makes you better in PUA, socially (not just with women but everyone), more confident in yourself that you don't need routines and it generally makes you a better person.
Again, I really can't stress how great natural game is. Read The Attraction Code, ignore the routines etc but Vin Di Carlo makes a great example of how a womens mind works. And knowing that, my games gone up massively. The book isn't focused on natural game, but once you've read it and thought about what he talks about everything makes sense.
Take my advice, I promise you you won't go wrong.